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Posted by jodie on March 12, 2003, at 0:00:09
Does anyone ever get that feeling that people could care less if you exist or not? I feel so unimportant right now. I have always been that way. No self esteem & always in need of reassurance. Why can't I just forget about what others think of me. Thats what my life is about, trying to please everyone else. I always put my needs & feelings last. Yet I'm called selfish & inconsiderate....I don't understand. When friends tell me not to worry about what others think & just take care of myself it seems easy. Haha...right, I don't think I'll ever quit trying to please everyone else & put others needs before mine.
Sorry, just feeling a little down right now. I'm having those thoughts that I haven't done anything in life for myself or anyone. I feel like I'm just a waste of oxygen.
Just to clarify...I AM NOT suicidal....just really depressed. I am just in one of those moods where I want to hide from the world for a while. Actually thats what I have been doing.
I am stressed because I just got accepted to college, I want to become a registered nurse. I start the first summer session. The paperwork (financial aid,loans, admissions & whatever else) have been overwhelming. Now I have to take a placement test to see where I need to begin. I have been out of high school for 9 years & am so nervous about that. I went to the college web site & tried out some sample ?'s....yeah right, I am so not ready for it. I am horrible at math of any kind. Grrrrrrr..... Once again I am questioning, am I going to college for myself, or to please everyone else?
I am just venting, you don't have to respond!!!!
Sorry I have been away for a few days, just haven't been in a good mood.
Hi everyone, I've missed you!!!!
Jodie
Posted by Tabitha on March 12, 2003, at 1:26:57
In reply to Does anyone care?????, posted by jodie on March 12, 2003, at 0:00:09
Hi Jodie, it's nice to see you posting again.
Posted by Ted on March 12, 2003, at 11:34:34
In reply to Does anyone care?????, posted by jodie on March 12, 2003, at 0:00:09
Posted by daizy on March 12, 2003, at 12:59:57
In reply to Does anyone care?????, posted by jodie on March 12, 2003, at 0:00:09
> Does anyone ever get that feeling that people could care less if you exist or not? I feel so unimportant right now. I have always been that way. No self esteem & always in need of reassurance. Why can't I just forget about what others think of me. Thats what my life is about, trying to please everyone else. I always put my needs & feelings last. Yet I'm called selfish & inconsiderate....I don't understand. When friends tell me not to worry about what others think & just take care of myself it seems easy. Haha...right, I don't think I'll ever quit trying to please everyone else & put others needs before mine.
>
> Sorry, just feeling a little down right now. I'm having those thoughts that I haven't done anything in life for myself or anyone. I feel like I'm just a waste of oxygen.
>
> Just to clarify...I AM NOT suicidal....just really depressed. I am just in one of those moods where I want to hide from the world for a while. Actually thats what I have been doing.
>
> I am stressed because I just got accepted to college, I want to become a registered nurse. I start the first summer session. The paperwork (financial aid,loans, admissions & whatever else) have been overwhelming. Now I have to take a placement test to see where I need to begin. I have been out of high school for 9 years & am so nervous about that. I went to the college web site & tried out some sample ?'s....yeah right, I am so not ready for it. I am horrible at math of any kind. Grrrrrrr..... Once again I am questioning, am I going to college for myself, or to please everyone else?
>
> I am just venting, you don't have to respond!!!!
>
> Sorry I have been away for a few days, just haven't been in a good mood.
>
> Hi everyone, I've missed you!!!!
>
> Jodie
Yes I feel like that too at the moment! I have tried to please others soo much, I forgot how to do things for myself almost!! I think its great that you are motivated enough to do something for yourself, its brilliant that you got accepted.... Although what your feeling might just be nerves, its quite a big step, for anyone! Aslong as you have really thought it thru and its what you want then go for it! xxx
Posted by daizy on March 12, 2003, at 13:00:55
In reply to Does anyone care?????, posted by jodie on March 12, 2003, at 0:00:09
Posted by justyourlaugh on March 12, 2003, at 13:03:11
In reply to Does anyone care?????, posted by jodie on March 12, 2003, at 0:00:09
jodie,
i wanted to be a nurse when i was in the hospital and a med mistake was made...an they were so very rude...talk about people who dont care,..funny when the pdoc shows up they are all so concerned...
made me wanna take my little plastic fork and stick it....
sorry...
why dont you lay down and we will all beat you with our happy bats!
lol
peace jodie
post soon
Posted by paxvox on March 12, 2003, at 16:05:40
In reply to Does anyone care?????, posted by jodie on March 12, 2003, at 0:00:09
Simple and quick answer, because I have to run. But yes, we DO care. God knows that there are people on these boards who can give advice, support, information or just a cyber-hug. We have love to share (at least I do). I will take a swing at answering any questions you have or to just "listen" and provide commentary if desired. Some of us, over the years, have actually become "friends" if not even closer. Strange that, as many of us NEVER meet and only a few will make a phone call. So what causes this affinity? We are all in the same boat. Some are better off than others, but most of us have been on the bottom, or taken a dive over the side a time or two. Who better to share your world with than people who DO understand a lot of what another has to say, even if we have not experienced that specific problem or issue, we still have a generalized commonality. So, come on, tell us what's up!
PAX
Posted by Dr Eamerz on March 12, 2003, at 17:09:29
In reply to Re: Does anyone care?????, posted by paxvox on March 12, 2003, at 16:05:40
I care but feel useless.
Posted by sienna on March 12, 2003, at 18:30:24
In reply to Does anyone care?????, posted by jodie on March 12, 2003, at 0:00:09
Hi Jodie,
I care. In fact I know a little of what you are going through. Im 28 and am going back to school right now, so we are around the same age i think. Take it from me, whereever you place on the math test is fine. Whoever said that its a race to graduate college is wrong. (not anyone here, just in general). You just go at your own pace and you will get there. I think it is wonderful that you are going to be a nurse. My mother was one for thirty years. It is an honorable career.
I know what you mean about feeling worthless, thats what my last post was about. I feel it too. but i know that you are not and i am not either. think about all the people you are going to help. thats not worthless at ALL!
Anyhoo, I hope you are feeling better today, i know all that paperwork can be very overwhelming. I have to fill out financial aid applicaitons that i think are already late, so I feel your pain.Take care and write when you feel up to it.
sienna
Posted by Dinah on March 12, 2003, at 19:20:11
In reply to Does anyone care?????, posted by jodie on March 12, 2003, at 0:00:09
I care Jodie, and I've missed you too. Through the haze of exhaustion even.
Jodie, who's been calling you selfish and inconsiderate? Let me at 'em. Let me at 'em!
Congratulations on college. Is nursing something that you really want to do? It's definitely a growth field, and a noble profession, but I would think it could be pretty draining as well. I know there are some nurses who post here. Perhaps you could ask for some input to calm your college jitters.
I hope you feel better soon, and pamper yourself some to offset all that paperwork stress.
Hugs. :)
Posted by jodie on March 13, 2003, at 0:00:06
In reply to Does anyone care?????, posted by jodie on March 12, 2003, at 0:00:09
Thank you so much for all of the replies. Everyone here is so kind.
I feel better, at least right now. I am just sick of this emotional roller coaster that I have been riding for way too long. The ups & downs are just driving me insane.
I have an appointment with my pdoc on the 19th. I think I'm going to have to try another AD, maybe Wellbutrin. I've taken that before. It worked for about 6 months & just seemed to stop. Maybe I should give it another try. I was really pleased with it while it worked.
Once again, thank you. I wanted to reply to everyone seperately, but I'm a bit sleepy. I'll try to do some catching up here tomorrow.
Take care everyone!!!
:-)
Jodie
Posted by lostsailor on March 13, 2003, at 8:06:35
In reply to Thank you!!!, posted by jodie on March 13, 2003, at 0:00:06
Jodie,
I just read your original post and remember all to well the hoops you must jump thru in the beg. It will get easier on you eventually. I had looked into nursing at one point and realized that I was too scared of goofing up and killing someone ( talk about self-esteem issues).
Actually, though, the math that you may have seen on the website may be for "general education requirements". And yes it can be a pain. I too am terrible in math, but the main math class for nursing( the one th3e really would count for you) is just converting medication dosages. It might seem trickey but I just sat in Borders Books and read enough that even I thought I could do it!!
One thing to think about, which I found very interesting, is psych. nursing...heck you know the meds already and would be able to do a great deal of good by being able to really understand a bit of what the patient is going thru.
Hugs, my friend, ~tony
Posted by bozeman on March 14, 2003, at 0:26:16
In reply to Thank you!!!, posted by jodie on March 13, 2003, at 0:00:06
Having my own existential crisis (ad nauseum, see above if you're interested)
People telling you that you are selfish are almost certainly PROJECTING their crap on you because you're probably an empathic sponge for everyone else's feelings, is that why you always put everyone's feelings before yours? Because if they all feel better then you can finally relax and feel good yourself?Anyway, Lots of hugs and bunches of love in your direction
bozeman
Posted by Randy Thomas on March 14, 2003, at 18:27:55
In reply to Does anyone care?????, posted by jodie on March 12, 2003, at 0:00:09
> Does anyone ever get that feeling that people could care less if you exist or not? I feel so unimportant right now. I have always been that way. No self esteem & always in need of reassurance. Why can't I just forget about what others think of me. Thats what my life is about, trying to please everyone else. I always put my needs & feelings last. Yet I'm called selfish & inconsiderate....I don't understand. When friends tell me not to worry about what others think & just take care of myself it seems easy. Haha...right, I don't think I'll ever quit trying to please everyone else & put others needs before mine.
Most people that dont know you could care less these days. Ahhh, if only we lived in the early part of the last century when life still mattered in the USA........
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