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Posted by Dr. Bob on December 14, 2002, at 11:08:24
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> I've been on this drug for 10 months now at 75 mg and I feel great, in fact, I'm hoping to come off of it soon. Unfortunately with the holidays approaching I find myself getting anxious and depressed, last night I cried for two hours, something I haven't done in a long time.
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> I don't think I'm drifting back into a full-blown depression, but the holidays aren't easy for me, I get a lot of pressure from my family because I'm 26 and single. I have a hard time dealing with being alone never mind the constant nagging and remarks to "hurry up, if you wait much longer your looks will go and no one will want you".
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> Unfortunately going away isn't an option, I'm forced to go home and spend christmas with my two perfect sisters, their perfect husbands/boyfriends and even more perfect children.
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> Any advice out there on how to cope - I've thought of increasing my meds but I don't know if that's such a good idea.
Posted by k9lover on December 16, 2002, at 7:42:24
In reply to I hate Christmas - how do you cope? « sly, posted by Dr. Bob on December 14, 2002, at 11:08:24
Hi
I also hate this season and now my strategies include family only once every other year or more, I stay out of my mothers frantic "got to make this perfect" way. When she blows, that's my signal to recommend a 1/2 hour walk and settle her down. I limit my time with family in any season to 5 consecutive days, one of which can be a travel day. I wander into town by myself and if I have to lie - like I'm seeing a friend, so be it. I also take a book to bed and fake sleeping in for some privacy. I always cruise the old stuff in the basement alone and take the dog for more walks than she can handle.
I guess for me, it's about meeting a family togetherness standard that's juxtaposed with as much time alone as I can muster!
And I ALWAYS schedule in a post-visit reward - like a massage or new cd or whatever.
Warm wishes to us all as that day draws closer
Jan
Posted by kath on December 17, 2002, at 20:26:39
In reply to Re: I hate Christmas - how do you cope? « sly, posted by k9lover on December 16, 2002, at 7:42:24
If someone's going to marry you just for your looks - 'look out'!!!!!!!!
26 isn't very old, anyway!!! Getting married isn't about an AGE - or shouldn't be. Hope you can be easy on yourself. If they hassle you, perhaps you could let them know that you're waiting for someone who you judge to be good enough for you, since you plan to have it last a lifetime ?? LOL - just a thought!
:-) Aren't families the 'pitts'!?
Sometimes, anyway. Kath
Posted by Laury on December 22, 2014, at 17:25:06
In reply to I hate Christmas - how do you cope? « sly, posted by Dr. Bob on December 14, 2002, at 11:08:24
"..but the holidays aren't easy for me, I get a lot of pressure from my family because I'm 26 and single. I have a hard time dealing with being alone never mind the constant nagging and remarks to "hurry up, if you wait much longer your looks will go and no one will want you".
Any advice out there on how to cope - I've thought of increasing my meds but I don't know if that's such a good idea."Don't increase meds to numb out the mindless garbage that is fed to you. Celebrate that you have been strong enough to be your own woman, explore life on your terms, shed the stereotypes inside of you that haunt you, feel sad for societies that decide who people should be, how they should think, how they should feel. You hold all your own power and haven't given it up yet to be what society says you should be. Have empathy for your family because they have followed along with what they were taught. Try hard to laugh a lot, rest a lot, and cherish the unique individual that you are--and who many silently wish they could be.
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