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Posted by Jay on January 1, 2007, at 16:28:57
I do count my blessings, in that I have a beautiful family, who are loving, caring, warm and just "out of this world". So, what is missing from my life? Well, as you all hear me whine about finding that "special someone", sometimes I feel like maybe my life is "too good" in the eyes of a potential partner. I don't mean that in an egotistical way, but that there are beams made of love so *thick* that hold me and my family together, maybe that scares women away. I mean, I talk of my family in a very humble fashion, and barely bring them up.
I remember talking to male friends, that we said we should maybe just start talking mean to females...acting like macho jocks...maybe then we would attract them. Well...I am Clueless...just plain Clueless..
Jay
Posted by fayeroe on January 1, 2007, at 16:28:57
In reply to Lonely..single for Xmas...but..BUT...can u help?, posted by Jay on December 24, 2006, at 12:57:49
you aren't clueless..........she will come along.........i have faith.......xoxoxo pat
Posted by Jay on January 1, 2007, at 16:28:57
In reply to Re: Lonely..single for Xmas...but..BUT...can u help? » Jay, posted by fayeroe on December 24, 2006, at 14:02:51
> you aren't clueless..........she will come along.........i have faith.......xoxoxo pat
>Thank you Pat...seriously. You are always a light in the window. :-) You know, I read of all of the horror in the world, as I am sure you do, of people who live in trembling fear of their lives 365 days a year, who have had their families, their children murdered or "disappeared" (as in Pinochet ...I hope his judgement day has come! I am sure it has.) So many of us in N. America and the "industrialized" world have no clue what it is like to live in the other 70-80 percent of the "third world" countries. Wars, dictators, starvation, bloodshed, physical and sexual torture, "secret" trials...and on and on. And this, on a Christmas Eve, when the world should be teaming with some simple concepts: love and hope. So, tonight I will put my candle in the window.
But, back to relationships..maybe you are right, as I admit I can sort-of "feel-it" coming...and I had a close call about a month ago with somebody who shared some of those soul-mate concepts with me. But, she wasn't prepared to settle down...and I guess that is fine. I don't want to look back, bitter.
I hope all is well with you Pat. You are a shining Diamond on this site, someone who makes others feel good. That is *indeed* an admirable quality, and you should be proud and happy with yourself for doing such. Just don't stop "being you"..okay? I raise my glass of eggnog and Bailey's in a toast to your charms! Peace...love....and the absolute best that can bring...big enough to fit the WHOLE WORLD....Jay :-)
Posted by LJRen on January 1, 2007, at 16:28:57
In reply to Lonely..single for Xmas...but..BUT...can u help?, posted by Jay on December 24, 2006, at 12:57:49
You're not the only one lonely this holiday, nor the only one confused about why you're still single.
I've heard so many stories lately of really nasty, mean, bad women who are married while I sit here completely the opposite and alone.
I don't see why your family's love would scare a woman away. As long as you show her that you really want her and need her at least a little, that should be enough.
Ren
Posted by alesta on January 1, 2007, at 16:28:57
In reply to Lonely..single for Xmas...but..BUT...can u help?, posted by Jay on December 24, 2006, at 12:57:49
You sound like a nice guy, jay, I wish I could help. You're creative, smart...the only advice i can think of is to preoccupy yourself with something other than women? I notice the opposite sex always swarms when you aren't looking for them. Act a bit...uninterested? It's some weird law of nature, man. Would like to hear your thoughts if you decide to do the experiment. (I know you probably want to be authentic, though...i can relate to and appreciate that..)
Amy
Posted by Phillipa on January 1, 2007, at 16:28:57
In reply to Re: Lonely..single for Xmas...but..BUT...can u hel » Jay, posted by alesta on December 26, 2006, at 10:30:47
Jay I've been away did you ever post how your Dad did during and after the surgery? Love Phillipa
Posted by fayeroe on January 1, 2007, at 16:28:57
In reply to Re: Lonely..single for Xmas...but..BUT...can u help? » fayeroe, posted by Jay on December 24, 2006, at 16:15:10
you know that we go back a long time and you've really grown and changed.....you gotta remember that i've been divorced 16 years and i finally met someone cool..........online, too......he recently moved to Texas to be closer to me.
it's doable. you just have to take one day at a time and don't set your expectations too high. then when you get all settled in and comfortable, she will burst out of the chute on a white charger and whisk you off to paradise....:-)
thank you for the kind words......xoxoxo pat
Posted by TexasChic on January 1, 2007, at 16:29:33
In reply to Lonely..single for Xmas...but..BUT...can u help?, posted by Jay on December 24, 2006, at 12:57:49
I would find a guy's ability to have loving relationships with his family a good thing. It shows that the potential for other relationships is there.
I don't have the answers as I'm pretty much in the same boat, but talking mean and acting macho sure won't help, I can definitely tell you that!
Hang in there man, and I'll do the same.
-T
Posted by karen_kay on January 1, 2007, at 16:29:33
In reply to Lonely..single for Xmas...but..BUT...can u help?, posted by Jay on December 24, 2006, at 12:57:49
my husband always says that. that he used to think if he started treating women with no respect, maybe he could attract 'the hot ones'. (and eh's so great. i think i've forgotten how to open doors myself, because he always opens them. i gave my mother a ride soemwhere and he went to open her door and she was astounded (duh! like i don't deserve to have every door opened for me!). he said that he used to open doors for his girlfriends, but they'd be offended by it. so he quit, until he met me.
i think it takes a certain kind of woman to appreciate respect (sounds odd, doesn't it?). ok, maybe not respect, but chivalry. you know what sealed the deal in regards to my husband? i met his family. and i saw how he treated them. t hey'd sit around and play guitar together. and i knew that's what i'd want for my future children.
guess what i'm saying is... just hang in there. there's a special woman out there who appreciates you for who you are jay. and don't you dare settle for anything less, you got it?
happy holidays dear. maybe 2007 is the year you'll meet her (hey, adn don't forget, sometimes friends make the best partners! i was friends with mr kk for a year or two before i even realized 'hey! this guy's great! and it took my sister meeting him and pointing out that he was interested before i even realized. sometimes they're right under our noses and we miss it!)
Posted by Dinah on January 1, 2007, at 16:29:33
In reply to Re: Lonely..single for Xmas...but..BUT...can u help? » Jay, posted by karen_kay on January 1, 2007, at 11:16:49
Mr. kk sounds fabulous, Karen. :) That's just how I like to hear anyone describe the person they choose as life partner.
Posted by ed_uk on January 1, 2007, at 16:29:33
In reply to Lonely..single for Xmas...but..BUT...can u help?, posted by Jay on December 24, 2006, at 12:57:49
>I remember talking to male friends, that we said we should maybe just start talking mean to females...acting like macho jocks...maybe then we would attract them. Well...I am Clueless...just plain Clueless..
Jay, PLEASE don't start talking like a macho jock. It's not good, not good at all!
Ed
Posted by Phillipa on January 1, 2007, at 19:12:41
In reply to Re: Lonely..single for Xmas...but..BUT...can u help? » Jay, posted by ed_uk on January 1, 2007, at 14:32:43
Jay just keep being the sweet you that you are. Love Phillipa
Posted by alesta on January 3, 2007, at 11:36:06
In reply to Lonely..single for Xmas...but..BUT...can u help?, posted by Jay on December 24, 2006, at 12:57:49
Good advice guys! ;0 My advice on this sucks.
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