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Posted by alexandra_k on December 24, 2004, at 1:28:42
I just phoned up my mother because I promised to see her for a while on Christmas day. She always has the option of going up to my half-sisters in Auckland to have a proper Christmas with her family (she has kids). But no, mother would rather stay here and go to church and go to their free lunch.
But then she wants to catch up with me.
She asked me if it would be ok if she came to my fathers for christmas afternoon / dinner. What was I supposed to say?:
'Well gee mum given just how much he has hated you for, oh, about the last 26 years or so I am not sure that him and his new wife and her daughter would really like you there'.
She is abrasive and loud. There is no other way to say that. I just had to say 'uh, no mum I don't think thats a good idea but you come get me and if it is fine we can go for a walk or something'.
The last thing in the world I want to do is to see her. Or him. Strangely enough my step sister is ok, but my step mother is a bit hard to take. Example: they have decided to come pick me up AFTER going and getting my step sister from where she lives. Oh about 11.30 my father says. Yeah, good idea dad Ill just sit at home by myself waiting for you guys to be bothered coming at getting me.
Maybe my father thought to ask her my step mother the awkward question of whether it would be ok to take me to my step sisters in the morning.
Yeah, thanks guys, well done.
If my flatmate asks me (he whose parents came all the way from Washington to spend Christmas with him) whether I am going to be all ALONE on Christmas Eve / Day / New Year, whatever, just one more time I think that really could bring me to the point of having a screaming fit.Oh, to take a pack of Imovane and wake up when the whole damn thing is over.
Of course if I had my way it would be an open house. It is supposed to be Christmas. But nobody else seems to be getting that at all.
Posted by alexandra_k on December 24, 2004, at 1:53:56
In reply to Parents and Christmas, posted by alexandra_k on December 24, 2004, at 1:28:42
Posted by alexandra_k on December 24, 2004, at 1:54:25
In reply to d*nm - sorry (nm), posted by alexandra_k on December 24, 2004, at 1:53:56
Posted by AdaGrace on December 24, 2004, at 7:54:32
In reply to Parents and Christmas, posted by alexandra_k on December 24, 2004, at 1:28:42
You'll make it through. I have confidence in you. Keep your chin up and be the better person. How about tomorrow morning, you get up early, watch old Christmas movies on TV, watch the sun come up, and see the beauty of the world around you. Then of course, parades, lovely, parades, you can watch those too. I often times seclude myself when at my family for holidays, it's so loud and noisy and sometimes yelling occurs. I learned from my childhood to avoid the fits of rage from my father, so seclusion is best for me. I have read the things you have written about your parents. I feel for you. Giving then any ouce of your time seems extreemly generous, but it appears to me that you are being the most gracious one by agreeing to see them. I know it will be hard. They seem to treat you with such indiference. You're better than that. The day will pass my dear. It will be over quicker than the time you have been dreading it. And then, you go on with your life, because they are the miserable ones. They are missing out on your wonderfulness and perhaps they don't even know it. Maybe someday they will.
Ada, full of it this morning after 3 mugs of coffee and frozen toes, Grace
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