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Posted by recently on March 18, 2009, at 21:58:48
I had a big rupture with my T yesterday which basically boiled down to me not being able to trust her. I don't trust that my T cares, or deep down, I just can't accept that she cares. It's been making our sessions pretty difficult. Yesterday, I had to go before the rupture was resolved. Now the bad part is I'm going away for the next 2 weeks so no meetings til April.
So I was thinking about everything a bit more and left her a short message yesterday afternoon expressing a few of my thoughts about the session. She hasn't called back, and I have a sinking feeling she won't. Granted I didn't say explicitly to call back... but she usually will anyway. She's actually really good about calls and will usually return them within a few hours, or by the next morning at the latest.
So now I'm just stewing on it I guess. I'm worried either something bad has happened or that she is mad at me for calling. Should I just wait?
Posted by obsidian on March 18, 2009, at 22:25:43
In reply to rupture and no callback., posted by recently on March 18, 2009, at 21:58:48
I wouldn't wait, I say call since it's bothering you and say you need a phone call. Too long to sit with.
good luck,
sid
Posted by Dinah on March 18, 2009, at 23:17:28
In reply to rupture and no callback., posted by recently on March 18, 2009, at 21:58:48
I think I'd call. If I really want my therapist to call me back, I have to be pretty explicit about saying so.
Ruptures before a therapy break are hard. I'd try to get some closure before you leave.
Posted by DAisym on March 19, 2009, at 1:04:56
In reply to rupture and no callback., posted by recently on March 18, 2009, at 21:58:48
I think I'd wait through tomorrow and then call and say something like, "i'd really like to talk to you about what happened."
Sometimes ruptures happen before a break because they are actually about the break. Do you think that was happening here?
Posted by lucie lu on March 19, 2009, at 12:41:12
In reply to Re: rupture and no callback., posted by DAisym on March 19, 2009, at 1:04:56
I'm going to make this a tie by agreeing with Daisy (although the alternate viewpoint is just as valid). You didn't ask her explicitly to call you back but you did initiate contact and expressed your views about the session. I think she probably would rather talk to you than leave things like that before a break. So give her a day to get back to you because you'll feel better if she calls before you. Call her tomorrow if you don't hear from her. I don't know your T but that's my suggestion.
Ruptures before breaks suck. Hate them.
Posted by Recently on March 20, 2009, at 21:46:03
In reply to rupture and no callback., posted by recently on March 18, 2009, at 21:58:48
Thanks Sid, Dinah, Daisy and Lucie for your replies!
I ended calling back yesterday, my T returned my call later. Basically she was just too busy to call, since she is leaving town, too. Though it was a very quick conversation, I at least confirmed her lack of calling me was not that she was pissed off.
I don't know...
That was an interesting point you had Daisy, maybe the rupture was in part about the break. That could be it - coupled with the not calling, I'm just feeling a abandoned, which is a common thread for me...
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