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Posted by Partlycloudy on December 13, 2008, at 12:11:58
A little bit of ground gained with the DH at the therapist, then some lost a few days later. Yesterday he announced that he wanted to do a one-day craft and antique fair out of town. Now, I've been sick (on top of being depressed, anxious, and traumatized) - pretty much felt like I had dysentery. I didn't relish making multiple mad dashes to the port-a-let while I was cold and tired and angry and - well, you get the picture.
So I called my T. "Hello? I'd like a Lifeline, please," was my voicemail. She called back and asked if we were doing Cash Cab - no such luck. She commended me for standing my (rather infirm) ground, and to let my DH have this particular experience by himself.
Let's see... it's 1pm est, and he's called 6 times. Has broken 3 things, and has made $10 more than the show cost. (That's a dismal failure in our accounting.) I'm quiet but glad that I stayed home. Make that 7 calls.
So while at home I did some yoga - for relaxation. I made my mozzarella cheese. I put a heat patch on my back, which still hurts, but I've been too sick to go to the doctor.
8 calls. I guess I should stop now. I think he misses me.pc
Posted by Phillipa on December 13, 2008, at 12:24:48
In reply to A teensy bit better, posted by Partlycloudy on December 13, 2008, at 12:11:58
I'm sorry you're sick also but glad Hubby is home and he did the show himself. Weather and economy is bad here don't know about there. Sorry the show isn't going well but glad he misses you and you're able to accomplish things. Phillipa
Posted by llurpsienoodle on December 13, 2008, at 13:33:03
In reply to Re: A teensy bit better » Partlycloudy, posted by Phillipa on December 13, 2008, at 12:24:48
That's cute
"I need a lifeline" :)Well, maybe your h was using the show as his own species of coping mechanism.
I hope your heating pad does the trick, or at least helps somewhat.
((((((((partlyC)))))))))))
Do you guys decorate for christmas?
I just put up our "xmas tree"
It is a large branched twig from an oak tree. Now it has ornaments on it, and is sitting in the dining room. I installed it while H was asleep.
I'm curious to see his reaction. It has this certain... post-modern flair... and also this ... audubon chic... and also screams "POOR llurpsie, her h won't even buy a christmas tree this year..."
Woe.
"infirm ground" I like it. you are a funny one :)
hugs to you,
-Ll
Posted by Partlycloudy on December 13, 2008, at 13:41:28
In reply to Re: A teensy bit better, posted by llurpsienoodle on December 13, 2008, at 13:33:03
10 phone calls now. Does anybody remember the days before cell phones? Or what if he was stuck in a dead zone? What would he do then??
I think he's trying some enabling stuff here. He's getting a bunch of "uh-huh" in response from me. "Broke something else? Well, who needs profits when we're just rolling in it," (Oops, those are my eyes that are rolling, good thing he can't see them.)
I'm definitely uncomfortable being the actually sick person on the sofa at home - guilty yet still feeling my own brand of wretchedness.
Posted by raisinb on December 14, 2008, at 13:50:48
In reply to Re: A teensy bit better » llurpsienoodle, posted by Partlycloudy on December 13, 2008, at 13:41:28
I am glad you are feeling better and that you and your husband are making progress in your relationship! Maybe you should consider limiting his minutes ;)?
Posted by DAisym on December 15, 2008, at 1:55:22
In reply to A teensy bit better, posted by Partlycloudy on December 13, 2008, at 12:11:58
I'm glad you are gradually coming out of the black gloom. I think it is really hard for partners to understand how something so old can hurt this much. They want to - but it just doesn't make sense to them.
I'm glad you let him go alone and I'm glad he misses you. Don't forget that peppermint settles the tummy, especially peppermint tea.
Be gentle with your self. It is a long road.
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