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Posted by Poet on October 31, 2008, at 15:59:46
I don't see her until Nov. 14.
She said, "this feels strange saying, see you in two weeks, but you'll be okay. I wouldn't have suggested it if I thought you weren't ready. You know where to find me. Call me. Email me."
I feel like a kid who just started riding a big kid bike with training wheels. Of course my bike is a 1960s one with a banana seat and butterfly handlebars. And a wicker basket with plastic flowers. And streamers on the handlebar grips.
I can do this. Maybe soon the training wheels will be off and I'll see her every other week. It's taken six years to reach this point, so my riding will be wobbly, I hope I don't crash.
Posted by Annierose on October 31, 2008, at 17:08:42
In reply to T suggested 1 less session per month + I said ok, posted by Poet on October 31, 2008, at 15:59:46
It does sound scary ... are you sure this isn't a Halloween trick?
Congratulations! It is a BIG step cutting back. I'm glad she realizes it's a slow process and sees the improvements you've achieved over the past six years.
I had that bike too!! I also had those plastic streamers on the spokes ... so cool.
Posted by antigua3 on November 1, 2008, at 5:52:25
In reply to T suggested 1 less session per month + I said ok, posted by Poet on October 31, 2008, at 15:59:46
Wow, what progress Poet. I'm so incredibly proud of you. I remember when you first started posting (or I did, I don't know who was here first!) and how much you needed the warmth and comfort of your T to get through just a single day. Now it's two weeks!
You can do it; and if you decide otherwise, she'll be there for you.
I never learned how to ride a bike when I was a kid. Trust me, it's harder when you're older! Maybe there's some wisdom there. You learned how to ride the bike when you were young, and now you're getting back on it. You already know how to ride (your inner strength) and now you're going to venture further away from home on your own.
Best of luck, and know we're always here for you.
antigua
Posted by happyflower on November 1, 2008, at 16:45:12
In reply to T suggested 1 less session per month + I said ok, posted by Poet on October 31, 2008, at 15:59:46
Well it sure feels confusing doesn't it? I see it as a good sign of your progress, which is great by the way. It must be hard to know if you can make it that long without your T. I am sure you will go back and forth on this. Can you call her on your normal appointment day if you need to? Sometimes that helps just to check in. ((((Poet))))
So what else is going on with you?
Posted by Daisym on November 1, 2008, at 17:11:17
In reply to T suggested 1 less session per month + I said ok, posted by Poet on October 31, 2008, at 15:59:46
Sometimes progress is very scary. But I love that she gave you so much permission to contact her - pushing gently without expectations. But I've always loved your Therapist...:)
I hope you have your own pillows at home to barricade yourself in when you need to regroup. Don't for get all the self-care tools you have. It will be important to keep those things in place.
Thanks for sharing. ((((Poet))))
Posted by Poet on November 3, 2008, at 10:21:54
In reply to Re: T suggested 1 less session per month + I said ok, posted by Annierose on October 31, 2008, at 17:08:42
Hi Annierose,
Let's ride cyberbikes together.
I can do this, I will do this.
Poet
Posted by Poet on November 3, 2008, at 10:30:58
In reply to Re: T suggested 1 less session per month + I said ok » Poet, posted by antigua3 on November 1, 2008, at 5:52:25
Hi Antigua,
I kind of like having independence a little at a time and knowing that if I fall she will still catch me.
Thanks for reminding me I have inner strength, and that the babblers are here for me.
Poet
Posted by Poet on November 3, 2008, at 10:35:43
In reply to Re: T suggested 1 less session per month + I said ok, posted by happyflower on November 1, 2008, at 16:45:12
Hi Happyflower,
I can call or email her on Friday, maybe just send an email saying I'm okay assuming that I will be okay. This is scary, but I think I can handle independence a little at a time.
Not much going on with me other than the usual job issues. I like what I'm doing and am good at it, but the boss just doesn't want to make me fulltime and I really need the money. I can't face looking for a new job as I know I can't handle interviews (I'd need to see my T before and after LOL.) One cyberslap to boss's head with a loud message of make Poet fulltime!
Poet
Posted by Poet on November 3, 2008, at 10:38:29
In reply to Re: T suggested 1 less session per month + I said ok, posted by Daisym on November 1, 2008, at 17:11:17
Hi Daisy,
I will throw pillows at an invisable T. I have my inner kid's coloring books and maybe I'll color her a picture like I did for Dr. Clueless.
I don't want to dissapoint her and call her, but she really was so sincere and sweet when she said I can. Maybe she secretly wants me to?
I can do this, it's only one less session a month. Only? Gulp.
Poet
Posted by Poet on November 3, 2008, at 10:39:05
In reply to Re: T suggested 1 less session per month + I said ok, posted by Poet on November 3, 2008, at 10:38:29
Posted by Dinah on November 5, 2008, at 20:38:16
In reply to T suggested 1 less session per month + I said ok, posted by Poet on October 31, 2008, at 15:59:46
I like your imagery. It sounds excited/scared instead of terrified/scared. If you weren't ready, I suspect you'd have described it differently.
I'm so glad for you.
(And I'll think "full time Poet" in your boss's direction.)
Posted by Poet on November 6, 2008, at 9:36:43
In reply to Re: T suggested 1 less session per month + I said ok » Poet, posted by Dinah on November 5, 2008, at 20:38:16
Hi Dinah,
I am excited/scared. I don't work tomorrow which would be T day, so I'm thinking I'll rake leaves to keep myself physically occupied. Mentally, maybe I'll wear a walkman and listen to music.
Keep sending those thoughts my boss's way. I need the hours (and money.)
Poet
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