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Posted by Kath on October 19, 2008, at 14:17:33
Copied part of a post to twinleaf, in order to start a new thread:
I've loved being told that I look younger than I am - 61 - (by all kinds of people, including my 24 yr old son's friends). Sorry comment on society I guess, that there's such emphasis on YOUTH & looking YOUNG etc etc. I hate it that I've 'bought into' that!
Males look 'distinguished' when they get grey hair & lines. Females look 'old'.
NOT FAIR.
Due to the immense amount of stress that I've been under over the past couple of years, I think my looks are catching up to my actual age. I'm not used to it!
I wish I didn't care. I wish I were "in neutral" about it.
Kath
Posted by stellabystarlight on October 19, 2008, at 17:09:28
In reply to Youth; looking young etc, posted by Kath on October 19, 2008, at 14:17:33
I was going to celebrate aging, and wear it like a badge of honor. No way was I going to show any hint of desperation. No Botox for me, yuck! I wasn't going to buy into it! I was going to be dignified and age gracefully like fine wine.
But, that was in my 30's. Now, I have bought into it...in a big way! I'm celebrating aging by kicking and screaming "midlife crisis". lol!
I exercise for hours at a time and squeeze myself into a one-size-too-small jeans. I shamelessly drive around in a sleek sports car like a teenager with her first car. I put all sorts of unknown potions on my face, and this is embarassing...compare myself to the girls in "Teen Vogue." And Botox? Not yet, but why not? lol.
Thank goodness for my precious 4 dogs...they keep me grounded.
Stellabystarlight
Posted by Kath on October 19, 2008, at 18:35:21
In reply to Re: Youth; looking young etc » Kath, posted by stellabystarlight on October 19, 2008, at 17:09:28
Well, sounds like you're having a heck of a lot of fun in the process!!
:-)) Kath
PS - sometimes I care. Sometimes I don't care.
My 32 year old daughter has said to, when I've commented - that I've 'earned' every one of my white hairs & facial lines. How true.
Posted by Phillipa on October 20, 2008, at 0:17:20
In reply to Re: Youth; looking young etc » stellabystarlight, posted by Kath on October 19, 2008, at 18:35:21
Kath the thing is it's expensive to look younger and a facelift only lasts for a few years so now what? I look at people in 80's and can't face that. And walkers and canes and only bed what to do???? Love Phillipa don't some countries honor and take care of their elders isn't it an honor to get old somewhere. Now maybe we need to form an old decrepit babbleland for us to retire and all look the same. Maybe Dr. Bob can wave a magic wand and erase the lines and wrinkles and give us back our energy and for those in their 40's they were my best years. Then it's down hill. Hormones leave. Phillipa
Posted by sassyfrancesca on October 20, 2008, at 8:42:53
In reply to Youth; looking young etc, posted by Kath on October 19, 2008, at 14:17:33
Hey, Kath....sweetie: I just turned 62 and people guess my age at 17-19 years younger than I am; I just LOVE it; my mother did at least ONE good thing for me.....in the gene department.
I have this fear, that one day I will wake up and LOOK my age (ever see the movie The Picture of Dorian Gray??!)
It has to be genes; after a lifetime (except for 3 years in the army) and smoking a lot........when people ask me my secret: I tell 'em..the above, LOL, LOL
Hugs n Love, from one "teenager" to another!!
Posted by Kath on October 20, 2008, at 11:22:32
In reply to Re: Youth; looking young etc » Kath, posted by Phillipa on October 20, 2008, at 0:17:20
You're right Phillipa - some cultures do venerate their 'elders'.
Our culture (in my opinion) is really really messed up. I find it sad.
Yeah - Senior Babble-land, where we're held in respect. That'd be nice. Kath
Posted by Kath on October 20, 2008, at 11:24:16
In reply to Re: Youth; looking young etc » Kath, posted by sassyfrancesca on October 20, 2008, at 8:42:53
If I didn't have so many worries & cares & sadness & fear in my life, I dont think I'd mind much about the looking older ya know.
I just feel pretty worn down generally.
Never saw that movie. Glad about your genes!!!
hugs, Kath
Posted by Poet on October 20, 2008, at 11:41:47
In reply to Youth; looking young etc, posted by Kath on October 19, 2008, at 14:17:33
Hi Kath,
I also look younger than I am, but since having shingles on my face and the related scars and creases, I too fear I am starting to look my age and I hate it. I wish I didn't care, but I do.
I guess I'll have to learn how to put on makeup like a professional so I can keep fooling everyone, but myself.
Poet
Vanity thy name is Poet.
Posted by Sigismund on October 21, 2008, at 19:00:09
In reply to Youth; looking young etc, posted by Kath on October 19, 2008, at 14:17:33
Well Kath, it's certainly not fair about ageing men vs ageing women, but what can you do?
I have heard though older women saying that ageing has made them feel freer.
I imagine what is meant is that they can give up on a lot of interactional games and feel more able to function freely with the limited amount of time left.It's certainly hard to accept that everything passes.
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