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Posted by Looney Tunes on July 22, 2008, at 9:30:26
So, I am looking for New T's, because my last one did not fit. He was yelling at me, constantly bickering, and simply I feel was not available enough for me. (Recall previous posts)
So, I got a recommendation and I went to New T. Turns out that Old T consulted New T, WITHOUT my permission, about "how to handle me."
So now, New T knows every bad and annoying thing I did (borderline sh*t, fear of abandonment, quitting therapy, etc).
Plus New T wanted Old T records and because I was upset I signed the form.Don't get me wrong, I do not deny I am a difficult client, but now there is bias in the relationship, because New T can see all the notes, etc about me. And so I am starting out already as the "bad client."
All my life I have been a "bad kid," and now I am a "bad client." I just wanted a clean slate. I don't lie about my behaviors, but it is SOOOO much different coming from me than another T.
Any advice?
Posted by raisinb on July 22, 2008, at 11:00:32
In reply to I really need advice about a T experience., posted by Looney Tunes on July 22, 2008, at 9:30:26
I may be wrong, but this sounds unethical to me. Did the new therapist actually use the words *how to handle you*?
In my experience consultation between therapists is done in certain cases--for instance, in a group practice where one therapist is taking over for vacation/illness coverage (this happened when I saw another therapist when mine was on maternity leave). Or, if a therapist needs consultation, of course--but that's a different scenario, and the therapist should at all costs avoid revealing your name.
Are these therapists in the same practice or center? That might make it a little more kosher.
It might vary depending on where you are. I've only seen group and private practice therapists in Ohio and Chicago.
But I can't see how you can comfortably work with a therapist whom you feel is set against you from the start.
Posted by Phillipa on July 22, 2008, at 12:33:23
In reply to what?? » Looney Tunes, posted by raisinb on July 22, 2008, at 11:00:32
Time for a third T without signing any papers that way a whole new slate. Phillipa
Posted by Dinah on July 22, 2008, at 12:35:52
In reply to I really need advice about a T experience., posted by Looney Tunes on July 22, 2008, at 9:30:26
Can you call and revoke permission?
I wouldn't be at all comfortable with any of that. I agree with raisinb.
Posted by Lemonaide on July 22, 2008, at 14:51:16
In reply to I really need advice about a T experience., posted by Looney Tunes on July 22, 2008, at 9:30:26
I think since they already talked, you need to find somebody else. A clean slate. Find somebody else because this is something that if it was me, would bother me from this point on . Always be wondering what exactly they said. Nope, you need trust, I don't see how you can trust this T.
Posted by Looney Tunes on July 22, 2008, at 15:00:59
In reply to Re: I really need advice about a T experience. » Looney Tunes, posted by Lemonaide on July 22, 2008, at 14:51:16
No, this NEW therapist is not in the same practice as OLD therapist. In fact, my OLD therapist lied to me and said he was consulting someone in his practice (3 other people) and then went to talk to NEW therapist.
So, I goto NEW therapist and WHAM- HIT LIKE A BRICK that she "recognizes me."
I agree with you all. It is totally bias even if NEW therapist never talked anymore to OLD therapist. Because of the consult.
NEW therapist says she wants to work with me even with being difficult. But I think that is crap.
I am horrible and she can see everything. Starting out on a bad slate.
Posted by healing928 on July 22, 2008, at 16:24:29
In reply to I really need advice about a T experience., posted by Looney Tunes on July 22, 2008, at 9:30:26
My Old t (last session was two weeks ago) dx me with BPD. My relationship with him was almost mystical. FOr the lack of a better word. He brought out the best and worst in me, I became EXTREMELY dependent on him, he backed away when he started having personal problems, and lots of other crap happened to our theraputic relationship too. Anyway, I am back to a t that I had when I was a teenager until my early 20's, and he thinks me having BPD is absurd. If I truly had BPD those behaviors should have surfaced then.
Sometimes, I think it is a personality thing, and some behaviors can surface. I guess I wanted him to "save" me. IDK.
If your new t is going with that dx and you you find that troublesome, look for another. SOmetimes it takes several before you find the right fit. I know it stinks but it is the mental health system.
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