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Posted by Daisym on April 11, 2008, at 1:48:20
...a Ganesh. A tiny little figurine of the elephant God. Ganesh is the Hindu God of knowledge and the remover of obstacles or God of elimination of troubles. He said it will clear the way for me on my trip. I leave Sat for two weeks.
I have had a hard time all week, and some how I'd reached the conclusion that he didn't care that I'd be gone and that he'd become too busy for me. I thought he was relieved to not have to deal with me for a while. And I was feeling really upset about it and scared - knowing I needed to clear the air before I left, but what if I couldn't? But I also knew that it was entirely possible that all the talking we'd been doing about my mom and how she worked all the time when I was a kid, etc. was influencing a lot of this.
And then I walked in today, already near tears, and he said, "I have something for you. Keep it in the talisman with my picture." He looked like a little boy who is so excited to give a gift he picked out himself - and he was sweet and kind - there was no way not to cry. I was just so surprised and really touched. All my doubts about his caring went away.
I did to ahead and tell him about all my fears and about thinking he was too busy. He asked me if being busy meant he didn't care. I said no, but when he seems really busy, I worry that he'll forget me especially because I won't be around to protect my space and someone else might need it. He said he'll protect my spaces for me.
He did a lot of reassuring and told me that the anxiety was fueling the old fears, but that these fears are old and not true. He promised to not disappear, to not forget the stories and to not give away my slots. He reminded me that I could email and he told me about some of his favorite spots where I'm going, so I can think of him having been there. And he is holding something of mine too, while I'm gone.
Sometimes I can hardly believe that there is someone who sees what I need, even when I don't know I need it and gives it to me, even when the need comes from such a young place. Even when he doesn't have to. He is really very special and I love him.
Posted by seldomseen on April 11, 2008, at 4:23:37
In reply to My therapist gave me..., posted by Daisym on April 11, 2008, at 1:48:20
What a wonderful thing for him to do! Simply awesome.
My therapist has given me little gifts before like that and it has meant sooooo much to me.
I got really into Freud (not Freudian therapy, but the biography of the man himself - he was actually quite fascinating) at one phase during my therapy. It was a very bad phase in therapy for me and right smack dab in the middle of it, my T left to go to Europe for a month. Well he went to the Freud museum and brought me back a bunch of stuff.
It was nice because it meant he was thinking of me even on vacation. He, too was very excited to give it to me.
I also find it amazing how they are able to reach that very young, very hurt place in us without it being abrasive. It's very healing.
My T uses the word "tender" a lot.
I'm so happy for you dinah.
Big hug for you and a big safe cyber pat on the back for your T for being such a good good guy.
Seldom.
Posted by Fallsfall on April 11, 2008, at 6:32:33
In reply to My therapist gave me..., posted by Daisym on April 11, 2008, at 1:48:20
Have a great trip, Daisy. I hope that you can connect in a fun way with your mom. She is taking the time to do something with you.
Your therapist will be thinking of you and will be happy to see you when you come back. What a thoughtful way for him to let you take him with you. He is a gem, and he thinks you are, too.
Let us know how your trip is! We can all live vicariously through you.
Love,
Falls
Posted by TherapyGirl on April 11, 2008, at 6:47:27
In reply to My therapist gave me..., posted by Daisym on April 11, 2008, at 1:48:20
Daisy, that is wonderful. I'm so happy for you AND your T that you have this wonderful connection.
Thanks for sharing this.
Posted by Dinah on April 11, 2008, at 8:11:55
In reply to My therapist gave me..., posted by Daisym on April 11, 2008, at 1:48:20
He really is special, Daisy. And so are you, so it's an extra special relationship.
My therapist would no sooner think of giving me something to take with me than he would of getting up from his chair and flying around the room. :)
I hope you have a wonderful trip, and are able to keep him with you inside.
Posted by Annierose on April 11, 2008, at 8:18:58
In reply to Re: My therapist gave me... » Daisym, posted by Dinah on April 11, 2008, at 8:11:55
Absolutely wonderful!
Enjoy all the beautiful cities you will be visiting.
Can't wait to hear about it all.
Love, me
Posted by seldomseen on April 11, 2008, at 8:35:29
In reply to Re: My therapist gave me... » Daisym, posted by seldomseen on April 11, 2008, at 4:23:37
sorry daisy, i wrote dinah in my post to you. I knew i was writing it to you but her name came out.
I'm so sorry. It was just a slip.
In my defense, I did dream about Dinah last night. I dreamt she was saving a baby that got locked in a cabinet.
Good lord, there isn't enough therapy for me in the entire world!
Good luck on your trip.
Seldom
Posted by Dinah on April 11, 2008, at 8:42:45
In reply to Re: My therapist gave me... - oh geez, posted by seldomseen on April 11, 2008, at 8:35:29
Oh my! I *think* that sounds like a good thing. :)
And I dreamed our house was robbed. But something I was holding for someone else wasn't stolen, thank heavens. And in a previous dream I dreamed I had to set the interior of my car on fire, in order to defuse some sort of weapon inside. The firefighters were standing on hand, and once the car went up in flames, they were able to put it quickly out and there was surprisingly little damage, except for the smell.
Sorry, off topic.
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