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Posted by llurpsienoodle on January 14, 2008, at 21:04:49
ashamed of my own problems and hoping that I can make them go away by sheer willpower.
ashamed at what people would think of me for having issues over this and that
scared of providing details that would expose my weaknesses
Posted by Dinah on January 14, 2008, at 21:09:47
In reply to I've been quiet, posted by llurpsienoodle on January 14, 2008, at 21:04:49
Maybe chat?
Posted by Daisym on January 14, 2008, at 22:06:41
In reply to Re: I've been quiet, posted by Dinah on January 14, 2008, at 21:09:47
It is OK to be quiet for awhile. I'd just encourage you to not hold back out of fear - this is usually a pretty safe place to find some comfort, understanding and words of wisdom. And comparisons are useless - no one's pain is like anyone else's. There is no better or worse abuse, no way to quantify and no need to justify that you do indeed, feel bad.
All that said - I understand the need to put up a strong front. If it helps, great. But if it doesn't, writing it all down can be helpful.
Take care,
Daisy
Posted by star008 on January 14, 2008, at 23:28:21
In reply to I've been quiet, posted by llurpsienoodle on January 14, 2008, at 21:04:49
I know, sometimes it is hard to be me too...Alot of us have problems here so there is no need to be ashamed but i do understand. I wsh I could make mine go away too but it hasn't happened so easily for me yet. maybe you could babblemail someone you trust. might feel better just to get some of it out.
Posted by muffled on January 14, 2008, at 23:38:34
In reply to I've been quiet, posted by llurpsienoodle on January 14, 2008, at 21:04:49
Sigh Llurpy, its hard to feel vulnerable....
:-(
M
Posted by JoniS on January 15, 2008, at 8:12:58
In reply to I've been quiet, posted by llurpsienoodle on January 14, 2008, at 21:04:49
Hi Llurpsie
I hope you wont feel ashamed to bring up stuff here. What you've brought has helped me lots.
:-)((((llurpsie))))
Posted by Phillipa on January 15, 2008, at 13:19:07
In reply to Re: I've been quiet » llurpsienoodle, posted by JoniS on January 15, 2008, at 8:12:58
Yes I bottle things up and try to push onward. Tough I try to be. And mad if I'm not at me. Phillipa
Posted by Bodhisattva on January 15, 2008, at 14:44:15
In reply to I've been quiet, posted by llurpsienoodle on January 14, 2008, at 21:04:49
> ashamed of my own problems and hoping that I can make them go away by sheer willpower.
That shame you feel is the only power your problems can have over you.
> ashamed at what people would think of me for having issues over this and that
I know you can see the problem, and what you need to do to cause it's demise. It's not our place to judge you for what ails you (nor anyone else's). It's our place to help you rid yourself of them.
> scared of providing details that would expose my weaknesses
You know you can make them your strengths. Turn the tables.
Babble mail is always an option. I'd be glad to help in any way I can. You know that as a Bodhisattva It is my responsibility to use all of my accumulated knowledge and innate talents to keep safe all travelers of the path to enlightenment.
Posted by llurpsienoodle on January 16, 2008, at 6:24:26
In reply to Re: I've been quiet » llurpsienoodle, posted by Bodhisattva on January 15, 2008, at 14:44:15
Thank you all for your kind responses. I will keep bmail open as an option. for now I'm working 6 days a week and don't have a lot of opportunity to post :(
would you be mad if I cc'd you on a babblemail (write the same babblemail to a number of people?)
-Ll
Posted by Bodhisattva on January 16, 2008, at 7:41:38
In reply to Re: I've been quiet, posted by llurpsienoodle on January 16, 2008, at 6:24:26
Mad? never.
6 days a week? You've got to be exhausted. Take care of yourself. write to us when you can.
Posted by muffled on January 16, 2008, at 13:00:08
In reply to Re: I've been quiet, posted by llurpsienoodle on January 16, 2008, at 6:24:26
Posted by jammerlich on January 16, 2008, at 13:14:47
In reply to Re: I've been quiet, posted by llurpsienoodle on January 16, 2008, at 6:24:26
Dr. Noodle, I'd be happy to hear from you in any way you are able.
Please be gentle with yourself and take time out for YOU. 6 days a week is a lot; you must be exhausted.
(((Llurpsie)))
Jammer
Posted by Phillipa on January 16, 2008, at 18:49:39
In reply to Re: I've been quiet » llurpsienoodle, posted by jammerlich on January 16, 2008, at 13:14:47
Lurpsie six days a week I guess keeping busy is very important to you and mental health would be honored to be on your list. Phillipa
Posted by Llurpsienoodle on January 16, 2008, at 21:35:48
In reply to Re: I've been quiet, posted by Phillipa on January 16, 2008, at 18:49:39
Well, when I get a chance to, I'll post or something. allow me to say that I am going crazy. well, almost. Tomorrow is my day off. I think we're buying a house or something like that. sound good?
to bring this back to psychotherapy--
T has been telling me lots about the local real estate market. Who knew that he could be a real estate counselor too? Don't live on X street, he warns. he lost 3 cats to that street :(
I will have a whopping big paycheck tho. 25 hours already this week, and my usual shifts are sat. and sunday. ho hum... lotsa people couldn't come in, so I filled in for shortages.
-Ll
Posted by muffled on January 16, 2008, at 21:55:47
In reply to Re: I've been quiet, posted by Llurpsienoodle on January 16, 2008, at 21:35:48
So work is OK?
Money is fine, but money is not evrything...
What does T think of buying house? He thinks thats good?
I dunno bout such stuff.
I hope you doing OK.
Take good care of yourself.
((( LL )))
M
Posted by llurpsienoodle on January 16, 2008, at 22:16:47
In reply to Re: I've been quiet » Llurpsienoodle, posted by muffled on January 16, 2008, at 21:55:47
> So work is OK?
I'm getting used to it. pretty intense, but apparently I'm cut out for it. I drink lotsa coffee
> Money is fine, but money is not evrything...
> What does T think of buying house? He thinks thats good?yes, he seems excited for me, and for h.
> I dunno bout such stuff.
> I hope you doing OK.
> Take good care of yourself.
> ((( LL )))
> MI'm trying my best. doing yoga and stuff like that.
-Ll
Posted by Phillipa on January 16, 2008, at 23:18:55
In reply to Re: I've been quiet » muffled, posted by llurpsienoodle on January 16, 2008, at 22:16:47
Sounds like you and h are getting along now which is good. Well take your time and really look. Have you thought about building your own house? Then it will be exactly how you would like it. Phillipa good luck must be cold there too snowing in NC can you believe that?
Posted by MidnightBlue on January 16, 2008, at 23:49:48
In reply to Re: I've been quiet » muffled, posted by llurpsienoodle on January 16, 2008, at 22:16:47
LL,
Not that long ago you and hubby were barely speaking...buying a house is a big stress. You sure you are ready for it?
MB
Posted by LlurpsieNoodle on January 17, 2008, at 19:20:37
In reply to Re: I've been quiet » llurpsienoodle, posted by MidnightBlue on January 16, 2008, at 23:49:48
> LL,
>
> Not that long ago you and hubby were barely speaking...buying a house is a big stress. You sure you are ready for it?
>
> MBWell, our spat lasted about 48 hours. now we're off to marriage counselling. in the meanwhile we have adopted a new mantra which is helping the general attitude. more empathy for one another.
housebuying is fun! We put in an offer today. hope it's accepted!
-Ll
Posted by Phillipa on January 17, 2008, at 20:38:34
In reply to Re: I've been quiet » MidnightBlue, posted by LlurpsieNoodle on January 17, 2008, at 19:20:37
No one moves faster than lurpsie. A house and an offer today. wow and I thought I did things quickly. I'm a snail. Phillipa
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