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Posted by TherapyGirl on March 10, 2007, at 17:52:44
My 22nd anniversary with my T is this month. I've been thinking for a couple of months that I want to do something special. So far all I've managed to come up with is to write her a long note about the difference she's made in my life. About how when I met her, I had never had a safety net, much less been able to create one myself. How, in those early years, she made a safety net for me and held it up all by herself; in the middle years, she taught me how to make one myself; and ever since, she's held up the frayed parts when I couldn't do it on my own and helped me repair it over and over.
I've had trouble thinking of a gift to represent that, though. I bought a net for catching bugs at Target today, but it's not very pretty and it feels sort of hokey. So do any of you have any ideas?
Thanks, fellow Babblers!
Posted by Iwillsurvive on March 10, 2007, at 23:02:24
In reply to Anniversary -- need help with gift for T, posted by TherapyGirl on March 10, 2007, at 17:52:44
How bout you make a weaving? A wall hanging one.
You either make a circle shape with a supple branch, or you can buy a circle shape. Mebbe eg. about 12-18" in diameter.
Then you make strings up and down, all across hoop(your warp). Then you take wool and weave thru strings. Wool can be tight or loose, lumpy, thick or thin, diff colors. You can incorporate things into the weaving to represent stuff.
I made a nature one once and I incorporated bits of wood, feathers, dried seaweed etc. Around the rim I wrapped brown homespun wool in natural colors.
I am TOTALLY unartistic, but this project turned out so cool, proly the best thing I ever made.
I dunno if I've described it well, I can try more if this interests you.
Iy would be handmade, original, meaningful w/incorporated stuff, and sorta netlike in its way.
Just a thot.
Take care TG.
Posted by Iwillsurvive on March 10, 2007, at 23:10:33
In reply to Re: Anniversary -- need help with gift for T » TherapyGirl, posted by Iwillsurvive on March 10, 2007, at 23:02:24
http://www.clotton.freeserve.co.uk/creative_work.htm
that page shows a spiderweb style weaving(circular) and and up and down one(sunrise).
These are quite woven, mine was much more loose and clumpy wool and 'bits' etc
Posted by Iwillsurvive on March 10, 2007, at 23:25:27
In reply to Re: Anniversary -- need help with gift for T » TherapyGirl, posted by Iwillsurvive on March 10, 2007, at 23:02:24
http://weavingrainbow.com/blog/archives/2005_08.shtml
Some ideas there too.
Posted by peddidle on March 11, 2007, at 0:21:23
In reply to Anniversary -- need help with gift for T, posted by TherapyGirl on March 10, 2007, at 17:52:44
22 years?! Wow! That's just a little longer than I've been alive!
Honestly, I think what you've written is beautiful, and I'm sure she would love the note by itself. Sometimes something from the heart is better than anything you could ever buy. Maybe you could wrap the note in some kind of netting or toulle to give to her. You could even fray some of the edges.
Otherwise, maybe just wonder through an antique store or gift store and see if anything catches your eye... a sun-catcher, wind chime, keepsake box, etc. You never know what you may find.
Or what about a sewing kit? Or just a needle and thread?
Just a few thoughts. lol Good luck!
Posted by frida on March 11, 2007, at 1:25:03
In reply to Re: Anniversary -- need help with gift for T, posted by peddidle on March 11, 2007, at 0:21:23
Hi!
How wonderful that you've been through so much with your T.
I think anything you give her will be ok...
The note itself...
it's always hard to choose a gift, I tend to prefer handmade ones. I've given my T lots of gifts and she has liked and appreciated the effort and love I put in the ones I made myself.
I love Iwillsurvive's idea. I wish I could do something like that myself too. Might try it myself =).
Maybe you can think of something you could do?
Maybe the note written in lovely paper with drawings or stuff you can put that might represent what you mean?
It's difficult..I've given my T mostly drawings I made, lots of letters/cards, a tea box I painted, shells I picked up...I'd like to know what you decide.
Frida
Posted by Dinah on March 11, 2007, at 11:33:38
In reply to Anniversary -- need help with gift for T, posted by TherapyGirl on March 10, 2007, at 17:52:44
I love I Will Survive's idea.
I made a big deal of our tenth anniversary and gave him a card that I made myself and a small Shona stone mother and child.
He kept both, but I think the card meant the most to him.
Posted by Honore on March 11, 2007, at 12:09:09
In reply to Re: Anniversary -- need help with gift for T » TherapyGirl, posted by Dinah on March 11, 2007, at 11:33:38
I love Iwillsurvive's idea. what a marvelous present. If you don't use it (or even if you do), I might use it one time soon for my T.
It captures the meaning, and could be a beautiful representation of some of the ideas in the net that you were thinking of.
Honore
Posted by Emily Elizabeth on March 11, 2007, at 13:01:31
In reply to Re: Anniversary -- need help with gift for T, posted by Honore on March 11, 2007, at 12:09:09
I think your bug catching net is a good idea. You could make it prettier by attaching some ribbons to the pole.
Best,
EE
Posted by Daisym on March 12, 2007, at 1:39:06
In reply to Anniversary -- need help with gift for T, posted by TherapyGirl on March 10, 2007, at 17:52:44
I think your letter is just lovely. It made me think of a dream catcher weaving. I'm sure whatever you pick to go with the note will be treasured.
Posted by TherapyGirl on March 12, 2007, at 19:13:01
In reply to Re: Anniversary -- need help with gift for T, posted by Iwillsurvive on March 10, 2007, at 23:25:27
Thank you so much for the ideas and especially the links. I am seriously thinking about this, although I have major doubts about whether or not I can pull it off. But I'll think about it some more, look for some kind of kit and let you know what I come up with.
Thanks again for the great suggestion!
Posted by TherapyGirl on March 12, 2007, at 19:14:11
In reply to Re: Anniversary -- need help with gift for T, posted by peddidle on March 11, 2007, at 0:21:23
Thanks, Pediddle. I like the way you think. :-) I'm considering IWS's idea of the weaving, but am not at all sure I'm creative enough to do it. So I really like your ideas, too.
Posted by TherapyGirl on March 12, 2007, at 19:14:45
In reply to Re: Anniversary -- need help with gift for T » peddidle, posted by frida on March 11, 2007, at 1:25:03
Thanks, Frida. I'll be sure to let you know what I land on.
Posted by TherapyGirl on March 12, 2007, at 19:15:29
In reply to Re: Anniversary -- need help with gift for T » TherapyGirl, posted by Dinah on March 11, 2007, at 11:33:38
Thanks, Dinah. You are probably right that she will cherish the card more than the gift. I'm just hoping I can come up with a gift that matches.
Posted by TherapyGirl on March 12, 2007, at 19:16:09
In reply to Re: Anniversary -- need help with gift for T, posted by Honore on March 11, 2007, at 12:09:09
I agree, if I can convince myself to try it. :-) I basically don't have a creative bone in my body. But I really liked the pictures in the links she gave me.
Posted by TherapyGirl on March 12, 2007, at 19:16:47
In reply to Re: Anniversary -- need help with gift for T, posted by Emily Elizabeth on March 11, 2007, at 13:01:31
Thanks, EE. I may try that as well. I may end up with 3 or 4 things and pick one at the last minute. I don't know why this is so hard for me...
Posted by TherapyGirl on March 12, 2007, at 19:17:20
In reply to Re: Anniversary -- need help with gift for T, posted by Daisym on March 12, 2007, at 1:39:06
I hadn't thought of a dream catcher, but what a great idea. I'll have to see if I can find one. Thanks, Daisy.
Posted by Dinah on March 13, 2007, at 18:48:38
In reply to Re: Anniversary -- need help with gift for T » Emily Elizabeth, posted by TherapyGirl on March 12, 2007, at 19:16:47
> Thanks, EE. I may try that as well. I may end up with 3 or 4 things and pick one at the last minute. I don't know why this is so hard for me...
I did the same. My card was mother themed, and I had several gifts on standby, because I wasn't sure he'd like the statue, and it made me self conscious to think of giving it.
It's still on his bookshelf, and I'm still self conscious about it. In some ways it was a very intimate choice.
The other gifts are on a shelf in my study.
There are some beautiful dreamcatchers out there. We got interested in them when my son was very little and terrified of nightmares. We made one, and we buy one now and again.
It's year twelve in less than a month. Maybe I'll get him a cupcake.
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