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Posted by sunnydays on February 11, 2007, at 19:22:52
I like that mine is always nice to me. When I said that, his voice got really low and he sounded almost like he was going to cry (I don't look at him most of the time, so I don't know what he looked like) and he said, "There's no reason not to be nice to you." I also like that he's there for me, and he listens, and that he cares about me.
What do you all like about your Ts?
sunnydays
Posted by peddidle on February 11, 2007, at 19:36:44
In reply to what do you like about your T?, posted by sunnydays on February 11, 2007, at 19:22:52
Wow, there so much. I like that my T is always nice to me, too. :)
I like that she is young enough to kind of be "on my level." She's cool. I can joke around with her like I would with my friends, and she jokes around with me, too. Unlike the first pdoc/T I had, she doesn't sit in her chair taking notes. She just hangs-out in her chair-- she leans back so the ottoman comes up, sometimes she swings her legs over the sides. It just makes for a very comfortable atmosphere, I don't feel like I'm talking to a doctor.
Also, she isn't strict with the length of the session. She makes sure that she doesn't run into someone else's time, but she doesn't hesitate to give me an extra 10 or 20 minutes if she feels I need it. A couple weeks ago, she asked me what time it was, and it was about 25min past the end of the session. That's how I know she really enjoys what she does, I guess the time just flies by for her.
Yes, I realize I'm idealizing my T, but what can you do?
Posted by Gee on February 11, 2007, at 22:10:53
In reply to what do you like about your T?, posted by sunnydays on February 11, 2007, at 19:22:52
That she kind and safe. She goes out of her way to help me. I know she's uber busy, and has a million more important things to do, but she always makes time... and she's caring. She ended her last e-mail "You will be fine because you're beautiful and smart" ... It's just the way she is
Posted by LadyBug on February 11, 2007, at 23:26:47
In reply to what do you like about your T?, posted by sunnydays on February 11, 2007, at 19:22:52
I have so many things that I like about my T. It's hard to know what is the most important.
She is very nice to me and accommodates my needs.
She cares about me and lets me lean on her when I'm having a hard time.
She has integrity, I admire that.
I trust her with my life.
I trust her judgment.
She sticks to good boundaries so I can grow stronger.
I love that we can talk about anything no matter how hard it is.
She is a good person.
She's patient with me.
She "gets" me.
She's stuck by my side through some really dark times.
I've been seeing her for 10 years, I've grown so much with her help.
Thanks for asking the question, it's good to remember all the things I like about her. These are only a few of the things I like about my T.LadyBug
Posted by Dinah on February 12, 2007, at 0:22:39
In reply to what do you like about your T?, posted by sunnydays on February 11, 2007, at 19:22:52
I like that he's so easy going that he can put up with anyone, even me. And he's completely (or almost completely) unflappable. I can tell him anything without being afraid of his reaction.
I like that he feels open and receptive but with a firm solid core. It makes me feel safe and relaxed to be around him.
I like that when he makes a mistake, he can admit it and apologize and tries to do better.
I like his flexibility. He adjusts his interactions depending on how I present myself.
I like his voice. Like so many therapists, he's got a great, soothing, voice. I especially like it when he slips and lets his southern accent show.
I like how he manages to keep the important boundaries firm, while still being very real with me.
I like his commitment to our therapeutic relationship, and his respect for the hard work we've done. I like how when things get rough, he's willing to fight to relationship and urge me to do the same.
I like that he knows me soooo well. Almost as well as I know him (or therapist him at least).
I kind of like his rotten memory. I can tell him the same things more than once, and know it will be a new story to him.
Most of all I like that he lets me be exactly who I am. I don't have to cover anything up. He doesn't mind that I'm direct and outspoken at times. He doesn't mind if I'm feeling young and clingy. He doesn't even mind if I call him and call him cursewords. (He says he's glad I can identify when I'm angry and that I've come a long way in that.)
Posted by Poet on February 13, 2007, at 12:01:36
In reply to what do you like about your T?, posted by sunnydays on February 11, 2007, at 19:22:52
When I thank her for putting up with me, she responds with *deep down you know that I am not just putting up with you.* She means it and deep down I appreciate it, even if on the surface I refuse to acknowledge it.
Poet
Posted by iNFAMOUS RiCK on February 13, 2007, at 17:01:18
In reply to Re: what do you like about your T? » sunnydays, posted by Poet on February 13, 2007, at 12:01:36
I've had 3 T's since I was eight or nine or so. My first T was very nice, my second T was passive and didn't help at all, my third T (still seeing her) is a great woman. I've been seeing her since November or so, she's very helpful and kind and receptive to my problems. Sometimes I don't say the right things to her, though, and things don't get solved.
Posted by DannaB on February 19, 2007, at 21:36:23
In reply to Re: what do you like about your T?, posted by iNFAMOUS RiCK on February 13, 2007, at 17:01:18
Posted by DannaB on February 20, 2007, at 22:07:28
In reply to What's not to like? (nm), posted by DannaB on February 19, 2007, at 21:36:23
Oops, my last two messages came up blank (nm) somehow.
Posted by DannaB on February 21, 2007, at 20:53:42
In reply to Re: What's not to like?, posted by DannaB on February 20, 2007, at 22:07:28
What's not to like?
I adore my doctor. He is kind and consistent and I have never for a moment felt that he was anything less than completely focused on me.
What don't I like about him? That I can never know him as a person. That I can never be his friend. That I can't know what his interests are. That his residency will be up before long and then I don't know where he'll be practicing (perhaps he'll move to another state). I get tearful when I think about these things as he's been a great support to me and I must say it...I love him.
Posted by Dinah on February 21, 2007, at 21:38:18
In reply to Let me try again... What's not to like?, posted by DannaB on February 21, 2007, at 20:53:42
I hate those forced termination situations. :( I hope that he decides to stay in the area.
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