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Posted by LittleGirlLost on December 28, 2006, at 15:06:04
Hi All,
I know I don't post much, for reasons I explained about a month ago, but I got something yesterday that warmed my heart (when it really needed warmth) and wanted to share it with you.
I got a Christmas card from my T... and she signed it Love, T !!
I so needed that, and it just brought some deeply hidden tears to the surface.Part of why I wanted to share it with you (aside from you guys being the only ones I can share it with and who will understand) was because I remember a thread a while back where we were discussing how we close (is that the right word?) a card, etc, and how our therapist does.
Last year (I believe) was the first time my T sent me a christmas card and it was actually more of a thank-you for the gift I had given her. This time she had already thanked me in an email response after I wrote to her after seeing her, so this was really an actual Christmas card! And last year she didn't sign off with "love", it was something much more formal/professional.
What makes it even more special is that I totally wasn't expecting this from her. Yes she let's me call and email between sessions, but aside from that, she's pretty firm with boundries.
It was just one of those "T's are people too" moments. It was a regular christmas card written out and signed the way I do with all my friends.
I really needed that yesterday. :')
Things have been hard all around.
Thanks for letting me share this here.
lgl
Posted by annierose on December 28, 2006, at 16:50:45
In reply to Can I share something with you?, posted by LittleGirlLost on December 28, 2006, at 15:06:04
I'm glad you shared your card with us. Your t sounds very special and it's nice that she took the time to write you a thank you note. I hope it warms your heart for a long time too!
Posted by Poet on December 28, 2006, at 16:59:34
In reply to Can I share something with you?, posted by LittleGirlLost on December 28, 2006, at 15:06:04
Hi LGL,
Thank you for sharing this. A little thing like a card can mean so much. That your T signed it *love* T makes it so much more special. If my T gave me something like that I'd hang onto it forever.
Poet
Posted by rubenstein on December 28, 2006, at 17:00:10
In reply to Can I share something with you?, posted by LittleGirlLost on December 28, 2006, at 15:06:04
That is such a cool story, it sounds like you have a really thoughtful T and that is so great. I miss my T, a week and a half....
Posted by TherapyGirl on December 28, 2006, at 17:25:26
In reply to Can I share something with you?, posted by LittleGirlLost on December 28, 2006, at 15:06:04
That's great, LGL!!!! Thank you so much for sharing it with us -- it warmed my heart.
Of course, if it were me, I'd frame it. My T sends me birthday cards and they are always so sweet, but she signs them "Warmly." Which I guess is better than "Coldly!"
Thanks again for sharing it with us.
Posted by Tamar on December 28, 2006, at 17:27:31
In reply to Can I share something with you?, posted by LittleGirlLost on December 28, 2006, at 15:06:04
How lovely! What a sweet T you have. Thanks for sharing that; it's wonderful to read such a heart-warming story. And I'm glad you got it just when you felt you needed it.
Posted by Dinah on December 28, 2006, at 17:59:43
In reply to Can I share something with you?, posted by LittleGirlLost on December 28, 2006, at 15:06:04
Posted by madeline on December 28, 2006, at 18:14:54
In reply to Can I share something with you?, posted by LittleGirlLost on December 28, 2006, at 15:06:04
Things like that from T's are so wonderful. Just reading your post gave me that warm feeling I often get from a positive interaction with my T.
On the other hand, the only thing my T gave me for christmas was his cold.
Sniff sniff cough cough.
Enjoy this!
Maddie
Posted by LadyBug on December 28, 2006, at 18:24:08
In reply to Can I share something with you?, posted by LittleGirlLost on December 28, 2006, at 15:06:04
Thanks for sharing this. It warms my heart too. My T gave me a card when I had my surgeries the end of Oct. and she signed it Love, T. I know how it feels. She sent me a card after my surgery this summer and signed it Love, also. I think it has to mean they really care about us or they wouldn't write that. I take my card out and read it over and over. I keep it in my journal. Seeing it in writing means something special to me.
I'm glad she sent that to you and you could have it be helpful at time when you needed it.
LadyBug
Posted by Scentedgarden on December 28, 2006, at 19:22:53
In reply to :-) (nm) » LittleGirlLost, posted by Dinah on December 28, 2006, at 17:59:43
what does nm mean please if you dont mind as im trying to figure it out here to no avail..thanks for your help
Posted by Daisym on December 28, 2006, at 20:30:25
In reply to Re: :-), posted by Scentedgarden on December 28, 2006, at 19:22:53
nm = no message. You can click the box above the dialogue box and only the Subject line will post. This way someone doesn't think your post was lost or it didn't go, or whatever.
I hope that helps.
Posted by Daisym on December 28, 2006, at 20:37:32
In reply to Can I share something with you?, posted by LittleGirlLost on December 28, 2006, at 15:06:04
Such a sweet post, LGL. You are so lucky to have such a caring therapist. I'm sure you will keep her card and what it means close to your heart for a long while.
Why have things been so hard? I am sorry to read that, I always hope it is getting easier for you. Do you have a long therapy break during the Holidays?
Thank you for sharing something so nice.
love and hugs,
Daisy
Posted by muffled on December 28, 2006, at 21:26:47
In reply to Re: :-) » Scentedgarden, posted by Daisym on December 28, 2006, at 20:30:25
Thats SO cool LGL. Nice to hear stuff like that.
My T once said love to you Muffled at the end of a phone message, but it was proly an accidental thing, cuz it only happened once! But it WAS so cool to hear it. I listened to it manytimes before it got erased.
Your right, proly not alot of people would understand how important it is to us to get stuff like that.
Hope things go ok for you.
Thanks for posting.
Muffled
Posted by LittleGirlLost on December 28, 2006, at 22:40:15
In reply to Can I share something with you?, posted by LittleGirlLost on December 28, 2006, at 15:06:04
GRRR! I just posted a long response and somehow ended up losing it! Let me try to remember what I wrote... (ha!)
Anyhow, I wanted to thank you all for responding to me so kindly. I was a little nervous sharing something so personal to me and not knowing how it would be received especially since I don't participate much.
I'll try to respond to you all as a group:
Yes, getting the card was awesome! It was my first official Christmas card since last years was more of a thank you. The only other card she sent me was a graduation card. But she has never signed them "Love". Honestly, for a second I thought, oh shoot, she made a mistake! But it made me stop and think that these T's really do care about us, and this was just what I needed to see. She is very careful with boundries and things she says/does and thinks about how they will effect me, so I know she thought this through before writing it. I wonder *what* the thought process was <g>, but I know it was a thought process nonetheless, and a good word choice on her part. I've picked it up to read it a whole bunch of times!As for why things have been hard...
Just a combination of things... a build up of things I've been fighting. I feel guilty for feeling so miserable around the holidays, but I can't help it, and I'm sinking. I feel useless and hopeless. The days leading up to Christmas were especially hard as it was the anniversary of my grandmother's death on 12/22. (She was very special to me and kept me safe.) Her funeral was on Christmas Eve... How do you get that memory out of your head? Especially when it was never addressed? How do you not tear up when you hear the first Christmas song of the season because it reminds you of the radio you got that christmas, the day after you burried Nana? My family is so dysfunctional anyway; we never talked about any of this.
And therapy has been hard. Fortunately we haven't had any breaks around the holidays, but just leaving each week is hard. It's so d*mn hard to leave sometimes, I don't understand why I subject myself to the pain each week. I just want to cry; but I'm still afraid of that too. Tonight is one of those nights. It just hurts so much. I want to go back already... I know I can call tomorrow, but even that seems so far away now. I miss her and I'm starting to feel little again.lgl
Posted by Scentedgarden on December 29, 2006, at 13:46:03
In reply to :-) (nm) » LittleGirlLost, posted by Dinah on December 28, 2006, at 17:59:43
Posted by Scentedgarden on December 29, 2006, at 13:54:44
In reply to :-) (nm) » LittleGirlLost, posted by Dinah on December 28, 2006, at 17:59:43
Hi Dinah, please can you tell me what that response nm means as im trying to figure it out to no avail here...thanks for your help....sorry the above post was to you but i forgot to add your name....
as for to the lady with the lovely T sending you a christmas card thats very special....thanks for shaing your happyness on here...
SCENTED GARDEN
Posted by Dinah on December 29, 2006, at 14:25:11
In reply to Re: :-) what does (nm) mean ..?? » Dinah, posted by Scentedgarden on December 29, 2006, at 13:54:44
It just means "no message". The server automatically adds it when you check the "no message, just post above subject" box. It's for when you want to post something brief in the subject header, but have nothing further to say in the body of the message.
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