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Posted by bent on April 20, 2006, at 6:13:35
Have you ever asked your therapist:
"Do you care about me?"I need to ask this. I know the answer but I need to hear it, rather than run off the assumption. I guess I am asking because I just want to know I am not alone and that my T has probably gotten that question before (she's been a T for 22 years!). Its not that I am afraid she'd say no, I just feel embarassed asking. I wish my appointment were today, I will probably lose my nerve by next Tuesday.
Posted by Dinah on April 20, 2006, at 7:02:51
In reply to caring, posted by bent on April 20, 2006, at 6:13:35
All the time. It's a central theme of therapy.
He says he does, and sometimes he shows it. But sometimes he clearly shows the limits of his caring, and I'm afraid those times stand out more than the other. But that's me.
It's certainly ok to ask. It's also ok to see acts of caring in her behavior, because to my mind those speak more loudly than words.
Posted by happyflower on April 20, 2006, at 8:59:56
In reply to caring, posted by bent on April 20, 2006, at 6:13:35
I have never asked him if he cares about me. But I know now because he shows it in many ways.
I once told him that he doesn't care about me, I am only a number to him. Well he said, I am going to treat you like I treat everyone else. (which isn't a bad thing, he treats me very well.) I could tell it bothered him I said this, but I wanted to hear it like you do. But now I am at a point that I don't need him to say it, I feel it, and that is what is important to me.
Posted by Poet on April 20, 2006, at 9:52:01
In reply to caring, posted by bent on April 20, 2006, at 6:13:35
Hi Bent,
I think it's okay to ask. Mine tells me she cares about me so I ask why she cares about me. It's somewhat to get her to realize she shouldn't care about me, but it's also reassuring to hear why she does.
I hope you get up the nerve to ask.
Poet
Posted by curtm on April 21, 2006, at 9:23:19
In reply to caring, posted by bent on April 20, 2006, at 6:13:35
> Have you ever asked your therapist:
> "Do you care about me?"No I haven't, but I have told her that. I often ask her how her day is or how things have been going. It makes her smile.
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