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Posted by annierose on March 19, 2006, at 7:59:02
I wish I could remember all the details; those pesky dreams disappear so quickly backed into the unconscious sometimes.
I was back at my childhood home visiting. It was the here and now but I was there with just my youngest brother (whom much of my conflicts are with) and my mother (same). No spouses or our children - just us - cleaning, watching tv, eating. My T comes to visit. I'm so happy (looking back now - she is here to rescue me). She is going to stay the night in the guest bedroom (which doesn't exist - the power of dreams).
My T chats easily among my family. In the morning I hear she is awake. She asks me to help make her bed (weird). I do and we talk while making the bed. (Wish I could remember what we said). We move to the family room and my T is telling my mom about my life. My mom asks her how can I make time for all these commitments. My T tells her how important therapy is to me, "Annie is always on time, never misses an appointment and is committed to this process. She takes her other responsibilities seriously too." My mother asks her some questions about my life. T responds kindly, tells her, "Annie just started taking some yoga classes. It reminds me of my pilates course." I jump in, "I thought you did pilates." My T continues telling my mom about me.
Then I see my brother lying on the couch. He was making little unkind noises. I run over to him and karate kick (with both legs off the ground) above his body. I'm impressed that I can do that.
My T has to go. I'm not sure how to say goodbye. But I decide to give her a hug, afraid that she'll reject that. She doesn't and hugs me back, a nice hug and then she kisses me on the cheek. I'm so happy.
Then I wake up. I'm glad my T hugged me, even if it was just in a dream.
Any thoughts?
Posted by fallsfall on March 19, 2006, at 9:30:58
In reply to My T was in my dream last night, posted by annierose on March 19, 2006, at 7:59:02
Wonderful.
Your therapist is able to make your relationship with your mother and brother make sense. Maybe you see some hope that your mother could actually understand you. And you are gaining strength and power (the karate kicks over your brother - but you don't have to hurt him to be stronger...). And you know that your therapist truly cares about you (the hug) - that it isn't just and act.
How peaceful for you.
Print out (in as tiny a font as you can) your description of the dream and carry it with you.
Posted by annierose on March 19, 2006, at 12:45:15
In reply to Re: My T was in my dream last night » annierose, posted by fallsfall on March 19, 2006, at 9:30:58
What do you suppose making the bed meant?
I remember reading a thread some months ago about bed making - and can't find it.
And - I share this dream with her, right?
Posted by fallsfall on March 19, 2006, at 16:12:26
In reply to Re: My T was in my dream last night ? fallsfall, posted by annierose on March 19, 2006, at 12:45:15
> What do you suppose making the bed meant?
>
> I remember reading a thread some months ago about bed making - and can't find it.
>Hmmm.... What are your associations to making the bed...?
> And - I share this dream with her, right?
Well, yeah...
Posted by Dinah on March 19, 2006, at 16:14:47
In reply to My T was in my dream last night, posted by annierose on March 19, 2006, at 7:59:02
My only thought, because I'm not great at dreams, is that it sounds as if you wish your family could understand you and appreciate you as your therapist does.
Of course you should tell her! Your average therapist lives for dreams that involve them. :)
Posted by Daisym on March 19, 2006, at 17:45:42
In reply to My T was in my dream last night, posted by annierose on March 19, 2006, at 7:59:02
I think the bed making thing was in one of Dinah's dreams, but it was her therapist's bed, not hers, if I remember correctly.
There is something very personal about a bed and making it seems to be putting it in order. Perhaps it was this shared task that represented your therapy with her.
I'm glad you got a hug in the dream too. How will it feel to tell her about it and NOT get one?
Why is everything fraught with peril? Why?!
Posted by annierose on March 19, 2006, at 19:28:17
In reply to Re: My T was in my dream last night, posted by fallsfall on March 19, 2006, at 16:12:26
>>>Well, yeah...
Oh, alright! I shared my dream with my sister-in-law tonight (a former therapy client) and she cried, "Annie, that's a break-through, when do you see her again?" (She doesn't know I go 3x a week --- only you guys do)
Posted by annierose on March 19, 2006, at 19:30:25
In reply to Re: My T was in my dream last night, posted by Dinah on March 19, 2006, at 16:14:47
>>>Your average therapist lives for dreams that involve them. :)
I think she's quite above average --- even when I'm mad at her. Having come to some sort of resolution after a 2 - 3 month agrument feels good.
Posted by annierose on March 19, 2006, at 19:33:28
In reply to Re: My T was in my dream last night » annierose, posted by Daisym on March 19, 2006, at 17:45:42
>>>Perhaps it was this shared task that represented your therapy with her.
That feels right. I like that thought. I'll share this and everyone elses comments tomorrow too.
My last dream that involved her had her rubbing my back (I was lying down on her couch @ her office). If I can tell her that one, I'll be able to tell her this one --- I think. But I kept thinking about that hug all day. What a sap!!
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