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Posted by B2chica on March 15, 2006, at 9:05:45
i was assured that i was going to basically tell off T about comments she made last week (laying guilt because of my sensitivity to others). last night i started doubting that i should.
if i do tell her, she will look at me differently. as stronger. if i tell her off she could get upset and become more manipulative. she has say over my mental health and if could go into the hospital,then. she could give bad eval and then i'm left in the hands of others. i don't trust her enough for that.
if i don't tell her, i could continue to play the innocent and have her 'helping me' and she'll feel good about herself and go all out to help me.
i know it's probably warped but that's how i'm seeing things.
and i don't know which option i should go with. dang it. if she were male i wouldn't be worried about her manipulating the situation. (or me)let me know what you think. my appt is today at 4:00.
thanks
b2c.
Posted by fairywings on March 15, 2006, at 9:54:01
In reply to express true feelings or not with T, posted by B2chica on March 15, 2006, at 9:05:45
Hi B2,
I sure hate to think you're feeling like she could be that manipulative. If she truly could be, I'd run for the hills! I know you've said you want to stick it out with her, but.....that wouldn't be healthy if she would retaliate for you expressing your feelings. I mean that's what you're supposed to be learning to do.
Is there a way you can just tell her that you didn't find what she said helpful, and this is how you felt about x,y,z? I've never had a therapist get upset with me for doing that. I've had them stick by what they said, but not get upset or manipulate me.
You have to do what you're comfortable with, but maybe think about how much good it will do you if you can't be honest.
I hope your appt. goes well. Let us know.
fw
Posted by milly on March 15, 2006, at 11:16:24
In reply to express true feelings or not with T, posted by B2chica on March 15, 2006, at 9:05:45
Sorry i think I'm probably a bit late (or maybe not I get so confused over the time difference thing between UK &USA!)
I know exactly what you mean but I think true feelings wins if you can manage it, it might help to go on and say why you might hesitate to share your true feelings with her re the power thing going on between you.
((((((((((B2chica)))))))))))
hope it goes OK whatever you decide
Posted by fallsfall on March 15, 2006, at 11:26:49
In reply to express true feelings or not with T, posted by B2chica on March 15, 2006, at 9:05:45
Therapy is most helpful when you can be honest. But if you don't trust your therapist, then maybe that is what you need to talk about. It would be helpful to figure out if she is not trustworthy or if you have trouble trusting people in general.
I wish you luck.
Posted by B2chica on March 15, 2006, at 11:52:39
In reply to Re: express true feelings or not with T » B2chica, posted by fallsfall on March 15, 2006, at 11:26:49
you're not too late.
i guess i'm just so used to being so weary of females that it's automatic to distrust. or wonder what their REAL intention is. and she does know that i don't trust that well and she's ok with that (so she says).
but i think you're right. i do need to say something.
thanks for your support all.
b2c.
Posted by gardenergirl on March 15, 2006, at 15:00:09
In reply to Re: express true feelings or not with T, posted by B2chica on March 15, 2006, at 11:52:39
You know, I have a hard time when my T contradicts me, or suggests I do something different, or suggests my role in something. Intellectually I get it. But I also get this nagging feeling of being criticized. I hate that!
And I also hate how some folks do not get that being sensitive is not a flaw to be fixed, per se. It's a trait that can cause pain that must be coped with, but it's also a gift.
I hope that your session goes well.
gg
Posted by B2chica on March 16, 2006, at 9:03:04
In reply to express true feelings or not with T, posted by B2chica on March 15, 2006, at 9:05:45
well, i was very blunt but said it in a way that hopefully didn't offend her. i told her that i was doing better than last week. and it was something she said. "you said xxx, but i heard xxx" that's how i took it.
she even admitted that it was a little manipulative. she said she was trying to motivate me, but that was a wrong way to do it.
she was very glad that i told her.man, three months ago i never would have had the strength to say that stuff to her. My old T just gave me so much more strength.
anyway. all went well. and i thank you for the encouragement to tell her.
thanks once again babble.
b2c.
Posted by milly on March 16, 2006, at 10:00:29
In reply to did it...., posted by B2chica on March 16, 2006, at 9:03:04
Posted by gardenergirl on March 16, 2006, at 12:34:34
In reply to did it...., posted by B2chica on March 16, 2006, at 9:03:04
Good for you! Bask in this success.
gg
Posted by fairywings on March 16, 2006, at 12:47:15
In reply to did it...., posted by B2chica on March 16, 2006, at 9:03:04
Posted by TherapyGirl on March 16, 2006, at 13:31:28
In reply to Re: did it.... » B2chica, posted by gardenergirl on March 16, 2006, at 12:34:34
Way to go, B2C!
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