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Posted by happyflower on December 7, 2005, at 19:04:39
In reply to You are sweetheart! :), posted by happyflower on December 7, 2005, at 18:59:55
Posted by Tamar on December 7, 2005, at 19:10:52
In reply to Next time you could at least offer us a glass! (nm), posted by happyflower on December 7, 2005, at 19:04:39
Would anyone like a glass of this very nice South African Merlot? I've drunk the whole bottle, but I have another one shomewhere. Now letsh shee if I can find the corkschrew...
Posted by sleepygirl on December 7, 2005, at 19:16:17
In reply to Sorry, I'm forgetting my manners, posted by Tamar on December 7, 2005, at 19:10:52
Oh yes!, but let me see if the alcohol will interact with the meds....oh what the heck! it's merlot!
Thanks!!
Posted by happyflower on December 7, 2005, at 19:19:18
In reply to Sorry, I'm forgetting my manners, posted by Tamar on December 7, 2005, at 19:10:52
> Would anyone like a glass of this very nice South African Merlot? I've drunk the whole bottle, but I have another one shomewhere. Now letsh shee if I can find the corkschrew...
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I would love a bottle, I mean glass! You like the good stuff! I had some African wine when I was at Disney World at their African restaraunt, where they are one of the few places that imports it . How did you find some? You and me can be best buddies. I will bring the harvati or brie cheese and grapes! fresh bread! YUm
Posted by Tamar on December 7, 2005, at 19:47:22
In reply to I am laughing my big *ss off!, posted by happyflower on December 7, 2005, at 19:19:18
... but I'm going to open another bottle. I'll get glasses for all of you. I'll have to go offline, though, because I have some crying and moping to do.
See you all tomorrow, and thanks for the kind words. Le chaim, Salud, Zum Wohl, Slainte, Skål, Egészségetekre, Cheers!
Love,
Tamar
Posted by muffled on December 7, 2005, at 21:15:55
In reply to WHY AM I SUCH A DORK?, posted by Tamar on December 7, 2005, at 14:57:22
Is poo head gonna be your new name? I used to call myself sh*t head all the time. We could bond on a deep fecal level!
Thats a bummer bout your T. I think we've all had those 'ah sh*t, I SHOULDA' , moments. Don't stop it from majorly sucking though eh?
Sure you'll feel better soon, once you get over your hangover that is.
Hows the meds doing? (not including the wine!)
Take care
Muffled
Posted by orchid on December 8, 2005, at 1:31:43
In reply to I'll regret this in the morning..., posted by Tamar on December 7, 2005, at 19:47:22
I think the reason that yuo didn't see him was because you are a little depressed now.
I am sure if you had felt happy and cheerful you would have walked over to him and said hello. Plus maybe the fact that you didn't tell him about your feelings, might have prevented you. Here you have been, thinking of him for the past 9 months, and he doesn't know it and you might have thought it would be weird if he found out about it now.
Also maybe you were afraid of his response - if he didn't seem to have remembered you that much or maybe if he had talked to you as someone he didn't think of too much. I think maybe you were afraid what his response would be and if you would be hurt by his response.
But I am glad you met him. I think sometimes when we get frustrated for a long time, when we get it (even a tiny bit of it), it helps to soothe our mind.
tomorrow will be a better day. And maybe you can just call him up one of these days and just check in perhaps. I don't think your T would be rude or indifferent. Maybe you should do that and it will help you move past whatever feelings is still bothering you.
Posted by caraher on December 8, 2005, at 7:48:50
In reply to WHY AM I SUCH A DORK?, posted by Tamar on December 7, 2005, at 14:57:22
If you separate yourself from your emotional attachment to your T for a moment you might notice that what you did (or did not do) was entirely normal as viewed from the outside. It's not as if you saw him coming then hid in the bushes, or walked right past him without acknowledging his presence. He was already in his car by the time you got out of yours; dashing out and rapping on his window would not have been inappropriate, but neither would it be "expected." You waved in case he looked in your direction... it's the kind of "near miss" encounter that happens routinely.
Of course, I completely understand that this event was emotionally-charged for you, and that you would second-guess your behavior. But by no means did you behave foolishly... it simply didn't play out the way you'd have preferred. That's not your fault at all; it's just a quirk of circumstance (as was seeing him there in the first place!).
Posted by Tamar on December 8, 2005, at 9:28:45
In reply to Re: WHY YOU ARE NOT SUCH A DORK, posted by caraher on December 8, 2005, at 7:48:50
> If you separate yourself from your emotional attachment to your T for a moment you might notice that what you did (or did not do) was entirely normal as viewed from the outside.
Gosh, I hope so!
> It's not as if you saw him coming then hid in the bushes,
Ha! Yeah, I’m pretty glad I didn’t do that!
> or walked right past him without acknowledging his presence. He was already in his car by the time you got out of yours; dashing out and rapping on his window would not have been inappropriate, but neither would it be "expected." You waved in case he looked in your direction... it's the kind of "near miss" encounter that happens routinely.
I s’pose you’re right. Yeah, a near miss… that sounds better than a dorky poo-head moment…
> Of course, I completely understand that this event was emotionally-charged for you, and that you would second-guess your behavior. But by no means did you behave foolishly... it simply didn't play out the way you'd have preferred. That's not your fault at all; it's just a quirk of circumstance (as was seeing him there in the first place!).
Thanks! I felt pretty foolish at the time, but maybe it wasn’t as bad as I feared.
Posted by Tamar on December 8, 2005, at 9:32:14
In reply to Re: I'll regret this in the morning... » Tamar, posted by orchid on December 8, 2005, at 1:31:43
> I am sure if you had felt happy and cheerful you would have walked over to him and said hello. Plus maybe the fact that you didn't tell him about your feelings, might have prevented you. Here you have been, thinking of him for the past 9 months, and he doesn't know it and you might have thought it would be weird if he found out about it now.
Yeah, that makes sense.
> Also maybe you were afraid of his response - if he didn't seem to have remembered you that much or maybe if he had talked to you as someone he didn't think of too much. I think maybe you were afraid what his response would be and if you would be hurt by his response.
Maybe he didn’t remember me! Well, I think he didn’t really notice me. I don’t particularly mind… actually it feels a little easier to think of it like that.
> But I am glad you met him. I think sometimes when we get frustrated for a long time, when we get it (even a tiny bit of it), it helps to soothe our mind.
That’s true.
> tomorrow will be a better day. And maybe you can just call him up one of these days and just check in perhaps. I don't think your T would be rude or indifferent. Maybe you should do that and it will help you move past whatever feelings is still bothering you.
Tomorrow (today) seems to be shaping up to be pretty OK despite all the wine… I do hope to see him for therapy again, but apparently I’m too depressed at the moment to benefit from therapy, or so I’ve been told. Maybe in a few weeks…
Thanks Orchid!
Posted by Tamar on December 8, 2005, at 9:37:54
In reply to Hey you p.h.!! :-) » Tamar, posted by muffled on December 7, 2005, at 21:15:55
> Is poo head gonna be your new name?
It’s what my kids will be calling me for the next couple of weeks…
> I used to call myself sh*t head all the time. We could bond on a deep fecal level!
Sounds good to me.
> Thats a bummer bout your T. I think we've all had those 'ah sh*t, I SHOULDA' , moments. Don't stop it from majorly sucking though eh?
It sucks like a ***** in a ***** ****** on a *** *****. But I’ll live.
> Sure you'll feel better soon, once you get over your hangover that is.
> Hows the meds doing? (not including the wine!)Hmm… Prozac is yummy but has not reached full strength yet. Another couple of weeks and I should be pretty chilled.
Thanks Muffled.
Posted by fairywings on December 8, 2005, at 12:18:36
In reply to WHY AM I SUCH A DORK?, posted by Tamar on December 7, 2005, at 14:57:22
You're not a dork. I hope you're feeling better about all of it now. I wouldn't have gone over to rap on his window, and I probably wouldn't have gotten out of my car and waved because it kind of took you by surprise. Maybe you could plan a time when you'll be there when he comes out, and intentionally run into him, so you can just get it over with. Then maybe it won't take you by surprise anymore.
Is it red wine or white?
fw
Posted by Tamar on December 8, 2005, at 12:34:12
In reply to Re: WHY AM I SUCH A DORK? » Tamar, posted by fairywings on December 8, 2005, at 12:18:36
> You're not a dork. I hope you're feeling better about all of it now. I wouldn't have gone over to rap on his window, and I probably wouldn't have gotten out of my car and waved because it kind of took you by surprise.
Thanks fairywings. Yeah… I hate surprises in general, and particularly surprise meetings with ex-therapists. Grr!
> Maybe you could plan a time when you'll be there when he comes out, and intentionally run into him, so you can just get it over with. Then maybe it won't take you by surprise anymore.
Yeah… I think I know what time he probably finishes work. I’m sure I could ‘accidentally’ run into him. It does seem a bit contrived though…
> Is it red wine or white?Red. I’ve still got a couple of bottles and I thought I might open one quite soon. Here’s a glass!
Posted by muffled on December 8, 2005, at 12:57:02
In reply to Re: WHY AM I SUCH A DORK? » fairywings, posted by Tamar on December 8, 2005, at 12:34:12
Why can't you just set up an appt with him? At first you were too depressed, but you are functioning, you are able to post quite eloquently,you've been on meds awhile....Maybe I've missed something?
I been a little all over latelty
Posted by Tamar on December 8, 2005, at 17:19:21
In reply to Hey :-) » Tamar, posted by muffled on December 8, 2005, at 12:57:02
> Why can't you just set up an appt with him? At first you were too depressed, but you are functioning, you are able to post quite eloquently,you've been on meds awhile....Maybe I've missed something?
> I been a little all over lateltyThe way it works where I am, I have to get a referral. My doc thinks I'm too depressed for therapy so won't refer me. Simple as that.
Yeah, I can still string a sentence together and contain my emotions... I'm not sure what else I'm supposed to do. I haven't been suicidal or self-injuring or abusing my family. I haven't been starting fights with strangers. But some days I am completely incapable of working. And I hardly ever open my mail. And I don't feel like doing the things I normally enjoy. So maybe I *am* too depressed...
Posted by happyflower on December 8, 2005, at 17:24:05
In reply to Re: Hey :-) (***trigger***) » muffled, posted by Tamar on December 8, 2005, at 17:19:21
I love you Tamar, and I care, please take care of yourself. ((((((more hugs)))))
Posted by Tamar on December 8, 2005, at 18:01:25
In reply to (((((((Tamar))))), posted by happyflower on December 8, 2005, at 17:24:05
Posted by 10derHeart on December 8, 2005, at 18:03:59
In reply to Re: WHY AM I SUCH A DORK? » fairywings, posted by Tamar on December 8, 2005, at 12:34:12
>> It does seem a bit contrived though…
And so....?
;-)
;-){I like fw's idea. Sounds like something I might actually do in certain circumstances. Contrived isn't always so very, very bad....is it?}
Posted by fairywings on December 9, 2005, at 11:25:40
In reply to Re: WHY AM I SUCH A DORK? » fairywings, posted by Tamar on December 8, 2005, at 12:34:12
Yeah, it does seem contrived, but it might get you past that feeling.
Red wines - we found one last year, cheap and really good. Jacob's Creek Shiraz. Cheers!
fw
Posted by happyflower on December 9, 2005, at 11:28:14
In reply to Re: WHY AM I SUCH A DORK?, posted by fairywings on December 9, 2005, at 11:25:40
Posted by Tamar on December 9, 2005, at 13:53:12
In reply to Re: WHY AM I SUCH A DORK? » Tamar, posted by 10derHeart on December 8, 2005, at 18:03:59
> >> It does seem a bit contrived though…
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> And so....?
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> ;-)
> ;-)
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> {I like fw's idea. Sounds like something I might actually do in certain circumstances. Contrived isn't always so very, very bad....is it?}
I think you are right, as usual!Yeah, maybe I'll contrive to run into him. And why not? I'm allowed to be in that building...
Posted by Tamar on December 9, 2005, at 13:55:09
In reply to Re: WHY AM I SUCH A DORK?, posted by fairywings on December 9, 2005, at 11:25:40
> Yeah, it does seem contrived, but it might get you past that feeling.
Very true. And maybe I just don't care if it's contrived. What's he going to do - sue me?
> Red wines - we found one last year, cheap and really good. Jacob's Creek Shiraz. Cheers!
Oh yum yum! I love Australian Shiraz. Had some last night, in fact. Tonight it's Australian Cabernet Sauvignon...
Cheers!
Tamar
Posted by Tamar on December 9, 2005, at 13:56:14
In reply to How are you today, Tamar? (((hugs))) (nm), posted by happyflower on December 9, 2005, at 11:28:14
Posted by muffled on December 9, 2005, at 14:07:36
In reply to Re: WHY AM I SUCH A DORK? » fairywings, posted by Tamar on December 9, 2005, at 13:55:09
And tell us all about it!
I couldn't do it, but inside kid could totally!!!
Yu got inside kid maybe can help you?
GO FOR IT!!!
Love it!
Ha!
We can control our destiny....maybe?
Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.
Muffled
Posted by Tamar on December 9, 2005, at 14:20:53
In reply to YOU DO IT TAMAR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!, posted by muffled on December 9, 2005, at 14:07:36
> And tell us all about it!
> I couldn't do it, but inside kid could totally!!!I can relate to that!
> Yu got inside kid maybe can help you?
I don’t know, but I’m going to look for one! If she exists, I’ll let her do it… Heck, she’s 14 (if she exists) so she’s even more shy than I am, but she’s pretty determined (if she exists)…
> GO FOR IT!!!
> Love it!
> Ha!
> We can control our destiny....maybe?Gosh, I hope so.
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