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Posted by happyflower on December 6, 2005, at 11:17:02
Please be patient with me and support me like you always have. I need to sort out all the issues of my marriage and I know I am taking longer than you like to take any action. I know I am miserable, but I need to be 100% clear in my head on what I feel and need to do. Please help me sort out all of the options without pressuring me to take action before I am ready.
I agree with what you have told me over and over again, but I will make the the right decision in my own time when I know what the right decision is. Please be patient with me.
Posted by Tamar on December 6, 2005, at 12:38:42
In reply to Dear Dr. B,, posted by happyflower on December 6, 2005, at 11:17:02
> Please be patient with me and support me like you always have. I need to sort out all the issues of my marriage and I know I am taking longer than you like to take any action. I know I am miserable, but I need to be 100% clear in my head on what I feel and need to do. Please help me sort out all of the options without pressuring me to take action before I am ready.
> I agree with what you have told me over and over again, but I will make the the right decision in my own time when I know what the right decision is. Please be patient with me.Are you gonna send it?
It sounds as if you're feeling under a bit of pressure...
Posted by Dinah on December 6, 2005, at 12:42:29
In reply to Dear Dr. B,, posted by happyflower on December 6, 2005, at 11:17:02
Sounds reasonable to me. One of the most intimate and personal decisions of your life should be made on your own schedule.
Posted by happyflower on December 6, 2005, at 18:45:10
In reply to Re: Dear Dr. B, » happyflower, posted by Tamar on December 6, 2005, at 12:38:42
Yes I feel like he is pressuring me to do SOMETHING only because I am feeling so bad and slipping into depression because of it after I was doing so well. I can see how this can be frusterating to him, because he truely cares about me. I plan on telling him this in person gently. I will do what is right, I am smart enough, but it a huge decision that will effect many people and things, I need to do it on my own time. I need him to be there for me no matter how long I take. I can tell him this, I trust him and I feel closer to him than I have even been. I am almost ready to tell him about the pink elephant in the room too and his elephant too that is trying to hump mine. LOL
Posted by happyflower on December 6, 2005, at 18:47:13
In reply to Re: Dear Dr. B, » happyflower, posted by Dinah on December 6, 2005, at 12:42:29
> Sounds reasonable to me. One of the most intimate and personal decisions of your life should be made on your own schedule.
Yes, and I am sure he will back off, he has before. It must be frusterating for him to see me in such pain when I have reached such personal happiness with myself.
Posted by LadyBug on December 6, 2005, at 20:36:44
In reply to Dear Dr. B,, posted by happyflower on December 6, 2005, at 11:17:02
I'm in a simular situation as you, but my T. isn't the only one telling me to leave. Its all so complicated and such a hard decision to make. Once you do it, it's forever, no turning back. I have a lot of fear going on and I know I want to leave. I can't stay in this blankety blank marriage the rest of my life, I'm too sad in it and I've been too hurt over many things I don't think I can ever overcome. Too many things have happened and I'll never trust him again, he isn't trust worthy!!! And there's no hope he ever will be.
I know your T. will be there for you no matter what. You have to do it in your time, I understand that totally!! I'm thinking of just getting through the holidays and then making a decision sometime early next year. I don't know how I'll survive financially or I'd leave today, or should I say, kick him out!! The love is gone!
Good luck and say what you feel. He'll understand and help you though it.
Hugs
LadyBug
Posted by happyflower on December 7, 2005, at 11:51:21
In reply to Re: Dear Dr. B, » happyflower, posted by LadyBug on December 6, 2005, at 20:36:44
(((((((LadyBug)))))) It sounds like you are in a very simular situation. My T is pressuring me to start giving ultimatiums at the beginning of the year. Like do couple therapy or we are separating . Stuff like that.
It is so painful. Do you have kids to think about ? How long have you been married? I have 2 kids and have been married 12 years.
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