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Posted by Dinah on August 13, 2005, at 11:12:44
As usual with my dreams, the interpretation seems rather obvious.
He was a bit younger and healthier than when he died. More like he was before he retired. We were standing outside the office with me, talking about work, and critiquing his successors. We both knew he was dead but didn't mention it, although his body was quite corporeal. And we knew he couldn't stay forever, though we didn't mention it. I realized I was deliberately standing a few steps below his so that I would feel much smaller than he was. And I hugged him.
Posted by Tamar on August 13, 2005, at 11:29:18
In reply to I dreamed of Daddy last night., posted by Dinah on August 13, 2005, at 11:12:44
> As usual with my dreams, the interpretation seems rather obvious.
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> He was a bit younger and healthier than when he died. More like he was before he retired. We were standing outside the office with me, talking about work, and critiquing his successors. We both knew he was dead but didn't mention it, although his body was quite corporeal. And we knew he couldn't stay forever, though we didn't mention it. I realized I was deliberately standing a few steps below his so that I would feel much smaller than he was. And I hugged him.It sounds like a dream about acceptance of his death, and about knowing he's still your father even though he died; and about comfort. Did it feel comforting? Did you feel comforted when you woke up? Maybe it's hard to tell, because I can imagine it would have provoked some grief...
Posted by Dinah on August 13, 2005, at 11:36:54
In reply to Re: I dreamed of Daddy last night. » Dinah, posted by Tamar on August 13, 2005, at 11:29:18
Actually, I did feel comforted. Like we had connected somehow.
I know that's sort of silly since it was all in my mind. And the Daddy of my dreams both was and wasn't like the Daddy I remembered. We weren't big on hugs in our family. In my dream I attributed it to the fact that we both knew he was dead.
But I woke up feeling less depressed than I have lately.
I'm wondering if the absence of my therapist has led to my increased dwelling on Daddy lately. Or maybe not. After all, he's my therapist/mommy, not my therapist/daddy.
Posted by Tamar on August 13, 2005, at 13:02:31
In reply to Re: I dreamed of Daddy last night. » Tamar, posted by Dinah on August 13, 2005, at 11:36:54
> Actually, I did feel comforted. Like we had connected somehow.
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> I know that's sort of silly since it was all in my mind. And the Daddy of my dreams both was and wasn't like the Daddy I remembered. We weren't big on hugs in our family. In my dream I attributed it to the fact that we both knew he was dead.I think it's kinda nice that you hugged as a gesture of affection precisely because he was dead. It sort of confirms that there was real love there, even if it wasn't always demonstrated explicitly.
> But I woke up feeling less depressed than I have lately.
That's a good thing!
> I'm wondering if the absence of my therapist has led to my increased dwelling on Daddy lately. Or maybe not. After all, he's my therapist/mommy, not my therapist/daddy.
Well, one thing I noticed about my therapy was that the transference changed according to what we were working on. So although it was usually a sexual thing for me, there were times when I had daddy feelings about him. Maybe it's possible for your therapist to be your therapist/daddy sometimes?
Posted by LadyBug on August 13, 2005, at 15:46:37
In reply to I dreamed of Daddy last night., posted by Dinah on August 13, 2005, at 11:12:44
As I read your post I could feel the comfort it must have been for you to dream about your daddy, especially the hug. When I dream of hugging someone the feeling is so good to me. I want to carry it with me forever.
LadyBug
Posted by daisym on August 13, 2005, at 17:44:59
In reply to Re: I dreamed of Daddy last night. » Dinah, posted by LadyBug on August 13, 2005, at 15:46:37
I like to believe that those kinds of dreams are visits from those we love to provide comfort when we need it. The hug sounds nice.
Posted by Fallsfall on August 13, 2005, at 18:30:50
In reply to I dreamed of Daddy last night., posted by Dinah on August 13, 2005, at 11:12:44
It sounds like a comforting dream.
Posted by gardenergirl on August 13, 2005, at 20:42:34
In reply to Re: I dreamed of Daddy last night., posted by daisym on August 13, 2005, at 17:44:59
> I like to believe that those kinds of dreams are visits from those we love to provide comfort when we need it. The hug sounds nice.
That's exactly how I view them. And I've always been comforted.
Sounds lovely, dinah. I'm glad it helped.
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Posted by Dinah on August 14, 2005, at 13:56:32
In reply to Re: I dreamed of Daddy last night., posted by gardenergirl on August 13, 2005, at 20:42:34
And it wasn't good *at all*. I showed up for my appointment tomorrow and he didn't come get me. When I finally asked the receptionist (who was new) she checked and said there was no-one there with his name. Finally someone came along and said he had moved out and was practicing from his garage.
When I finally got over there, it was an awful set up. No privacy at all. And he had no explanation of why he hadn't told me he was moving, so I got mad and left without paying him. As I was walking back to my car, I realized that his house was actually an estate, and there was a big party going on. Cars were everywhere. Near my car was a small black poodle lying in the mud. I walked over to it and talked to it, and it stood up and let me pet it, but then a girl I recognized as his daughter walked over and stared at me before calling the poodle to her.
Ok, that last part was a bit weirder than normal. I think I miss Depakote.
Posted by daisym on August 14, 2005, at 16:36:52
In reply to Last night it was my therapist, posted by Dinah on August 14, 2005, at 13:56:32
There are some obvious things -- worry that he isn't coming back and worry that his life would be a party without his practice (and be more financial secure.) I have no idea about the dog -- at least the dog didn't talk back!
I'll think more about this.
Posted by Dinah on August 14, 2005, at 19:27:59
In reply to Re: Last night it was my therapist, posted by daisym on August 14, 2005, at 16:36:52
I'm scrutinizing it carefully for sexual overtones before I decide whether to ask him about it.
I've got an appointment at 8 am tomorrow. I don't know what on earth I was thinking when I made that one. I've been lucky to drag my sorry groggy thick-headed self out of bed by 9. And now I've got to be ready to leave the house by 7. I came thisclose to cancelling and just seeing him Friday at the more decent hour of 10.
Posted by Fallsfall on August 14, 2005, at 21:43:25
In reply to Re: Last night it was my therapist » daisym, posted by Dinah on August 14, 2005, at 19:27:59
I used to take special pleasure in being the first patient after vacation. Hmmm. I wonder why? Maybe because then I didn't have to wait any longer to see her than was absolutely necessary.
It will take a little getting used to to get back into the swing of things. Be patient.
Posted by orchid on August 15, 2005, at 16:38:33
In reply to Re: Last night it was my therapist » daisym, posted by Dinah on August 14, 2005, at 19:27:59
What are you scrutinizing carefully?
Posted by Dinah on August 15, 2005, at 22:42:50
In reply to Re: Last night it was my therapist » Dinah, posted by orchid on August 15, 2005, at 16:38:33
The dream.
Fortunately if he saw anything deeper in it, he didn't comment on it. Just about the abandonment aspects and he laughed at the idea of having an estate. Said he should have been able to find a better spot for his office than his garage.
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