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Posted by JLynn on July 25, 2005, at 14:38:59
I saw my T last week and thought we made some good progress. I revealed some of the csa that I had NEVER shared with ANYONE! It was really hard and that night I wasn't able to handle it so well. So some other things (not related to the abuse) happened this weekend that were upsetting. I couldn't handle work today so I called my T. I told her what happened and how bad I felt. I didn't ask if I could see her today (I really needed to), but she didn't ask if I needed to come in either. I felt rejected...like it wasn't important and I should just wait till the next apt which is 10 days from now....thats a long time when I'm so upset. So I guess I shouldnt be mad at her that she couldn't understand my need to see her since I didn't come out and say it. It hurt me though.
Posted by pinkeye on July 25, 2005, at 15:01:28
In reply to Feeling hurt...., posted by JLynn on July 25, 2005, at 14:38:59
IT is understandable that you are hurt.. But many Ts won't give extra sessions unless asked for by the patient. So maybe your T follows that rule. They want the patient to take full responsibility for their therapy. Maybe you should call her and ask her for an added appt.
Posted by rockymtnhi on July 25, 2005, at 18:11:26
In reply to Feeling hurt...., posted by JLynn on July 25, 2005, at 14:38:59
You took a big step in beginning to talk about csa and I suspect you are feeling quite vulnerable. I think your T should have offered an appointment - it would have been validating for you if she had. Unfortunately, some T's never offer extra appointments or phone calls.
I hope that your T was comforting to you while you were on the phone with her.
Take care of yourself.
Posted by Poet on July 25, 2005, at 19:12:51
In reply to Feeling hurt...., posted by JLynn on July 25, 2005, at 14:38:59
Hi JLynn,
What you disclosed is hard and your T should have realized that you might need some extra support. I'm sorry she didn't suggest an appointment or that you call her if you need to talk more. I think you should call her and tell her how you are feeling. Maybe she can fit you in before next week?
Safe cyber hugs.
Poet
Posted by gardenergirl on July 25, 2005, at 22:25:55
In reply to Re: Feeling hurt.... » JLynn, posted by Poet on July 25, 2005, at 19:12:51
Hi Jlynn,
First, congrats on taking that step in talking about the past as you did. I know that's very hard to do.I'm sorry your T was not as responsive as you wished. I agree with others who said it might be that she just doesn't offer, but if you asked she might agree. I hope you call back and ask, but I also understand that making that call might feel like setting yourself up for a possible second rejection feeling.
(((Jlynn)))
Take gentle care of yourself. Keep posting if it helps. It's always lovely to see your name here.
gg
Posted by Shortelise on July 26, 2005, at 0:26:08
In reply to Feeling hurt...., posted by JLynn on July 25, 2005, at 14:38:59
Jlynn, they can't read our minds. I believe we need to ask for what we need.
I also think when we tell our T's about the worst stuff, we should see them more often for a little while, just to process things more quickly and get the support we need. Could it be that you're super sensivitve right now because you have opened up and made yourself vulnerable?
You might want to be really nice to yourself, and ask forwhat you need.
Hugs
ShortE
Posted by rubenstein on July 26, 2005, at 13:06:47
In reply to Re: Feeling hurt.... » JLynn, posted by Shortelise on July 26, 2005, at 0:26:08
I often feel that way too, like my T should know I need an extra session or something. He always reminds me that neither he nor I are mind readers. But callong is so difficult. I will be thinking of you....hugs
Rachel
Posted by JLynn on July 26, 2005, at 20:27:15
In reply to Re: Feeling hurt...., posted by rubenstein on July 26, 2005, at 13:06:47
I've decided not to call my T again before my next apt . I would be very hurt if she couldn't get me in so unless things get worse I'll try to make it. I know she can't read my mind however she is really good at knowing what I need to say when it is hard. That is one of the things I like about her. And sometimes I think she suspects things before I say them, but waits for me to tell her. I was surprised that she didn't have much to offer on the phone and didn't offer an apt. I know it is important to tell her how this made me feel...that is going to be so hard.
I'm glad I have you guys to turn to. Especially thanks for all the hugs...I needed them.
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