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Posted by Dinah on April 26, 2005, at 10:55:37
I've offered my therapist to Dr. Bob as a sacrificial guest expert. I'm guessing he might refuse as a conflict of interest, but when I present it to him, do you think I ought to warn him that it might not do his reputation any good if his name became associated as being Dinah's therapist?
The part of me that isn't so happy with him posts all the time things that aren't so nice about him. While I trust him not to read those things, would it be harmful to him to be linked to them?
Posted by Tamar on April 26, 2005, at 11:03:31
In reply to Quick question if any are around for a quick answr, posted by Dinah on April 26, 2005, at 10:55:37
I think it'll be all right. When you post things that 'aren't so nice' you're giving your own perspective. It shouldn't damage his reputation.
One question; would he be using his real name? Would that make *you* uncomfortable?
Posted by Dinah on April 26, 2005, at 11:21:15
In reply to Re: Quick question if any are around for a quick answr » Dinah, posted by Tamar on April 26, 2005, at 11:03:31
He'd have to use his own name, so I'd be sacrificing some privacy for the sake of a principle. It wouldn't be hard to figure out where he lives or things like that, and I've always guarded my location for the sake of privacy.
But it shouldn't be too bad. Lots of people reveal the city they live in.
It's likely he'll say no for any number of reasons, but I wanted to make sure I made full disclosure to him when I presented it.
Posted by Miss Honeychurch on April 26, 2005, at 11:34:28
In reply to Re: Quick question if any are around for a quick answr, posted by Dinah on April 26, 2005, at 11:21:15
D,
I don't think it would be a good idea. From having read your posts now for several years and hearing about this guy, I already have some preconceived notions about him, not bad ones, but preconceived ones all the same.
I wonder if these notions would cloud how I reacted to his responses? I wonder if too much familiarity with how he operates and his relationship with you would not be condusive to objective dialogue?
Also, what are his qualifications which would make him a guest expert? Does he specialize in anything in particular? What would make him stand out as being a guest expert?
Just playing a little Devil's Advocate here.
Posted by Dinah on April 26, 2005, at 11:42:56
In reply to Re: Quick question if any are around for a quick answr, posted by Miss Honeychurch on April 26, 2005, at 11:34:28
The expert part wouldn't be therapy, but rather community building which is his other job. And yes, he does have special qualifications in that area, years of experience, and is considered an expert.
But I don't want him to have any negative fallout from being associated with me, and with what I've said about him.
Posted by Dinah on April 26, 2005, at 11:55:37
In reply to Quick question if any are around for a quick answr, posted by Dinah on April 26, 2005, at 10:55:37
Full disclosure is only fair.
Posted by fallsfall on April 26, 2005, at 12:00:38
In reply to I'll warn him, I think., posted by Dinah on April 26, 2005, at 11:55:37
Why would it need to be publicized that this particular guest expert is *your* therapist? Why couldn't he just be a guest expert?
Posted by Dinah on April 26, 2005, at 12:29:24
In reply to Re: I'll warn him, I think. » Dinah, posted by fallsfall on April 26, 2005, at 12:00:38
Because once I offered him and Dr. Bob responded, it would look sort of suspicious if he just showed up, I would think. :(
Posted by mair on April 26, 2005, at 12:45:09
In reply to Re: I'll warn him, I think., posted by Dinah on April 26, 2005, at 12:29:24
yeah, but wouldn't you offer him up and wouldn't Dr. Bob accept him in private emails. I don't see this as something for the admin board, or am I missing something?
Posted by pinkeye on April 26, 2005, at 12:59:02
In reply to Re: I'll warn him, I think., posted by Dinah on April 26, 2005, at 12:29:24
I wouldn't do it if I were you. Babble is a space that has almost become like a private diary for me.. in a sense public, but yet private. I have given this URL to my ex T, but I honestly don't think he would ever read here. What if you give your T the permission to come here and later on need to vent about stuff that even your T doesn't know or you don't want them to know?
Posted by pinkeye on April 26, 2005, at 13:02:22
In reply to Re: I'll warn him, I think. » Dinah, posted by pinkeye on April 26, 2005, at 12:59:02
Besides, I think your therapist would decline it. I would, if I were a T and my client offered me something like that. I think most people would.
Posted by Dinah on April 26, 2005, at 13:19:42
In reply to Re: I'll warn him, I think. » pinkeye, posted by pinkeye on April 26, 2005, at 13:02:22
I'm reasonably sure he would. In fact, I don't need to warn him if he does right away. I'd rather not warn him because that would be admitting a bit of what I say.
Posted by Dinah on April 26, 2005, at 13:20:10
In reply to Re: I'll warn him, I think. » Dinah, posted by mair on April 26, 2005, at 12:45:09
Posted by Dinah on April 26, 2005, at 13:20:59
In reply to Nope, wasn't that bright. :) (nm) » mair, posted by Dinah on April 26, 2005, at 13:20:10
I'm reasonably sure he'll refuse right away.
Posted by Joslynn on April 26, 2005, at 15:46:44
In reply to Quick question if any are around for a quick answr, posted by Dinah on April 26, 2005, at 10:55:37
My guess is that Dr. Bob would say no to a poster here wanting his or her T to be a guest expert. I have this feeling Dr. B would say no, that it would mix things up too much. Just a hunch.
Posted by annierose on April 26, 2005, at 16:13:26
In reply to Re: Quick question if any are around for a quick a, posted by Joslynn on April 26, 2005, at 15:46:44
Dinah -
But you bring up a good point. There are never any guest experts on this board. I think it would be nice to get a psychologist's point of view over here now and then.The T would need to disclose his orientation. That would be very important to know. For instance, a behavior mod type would not encourage the dependent feelings a more freudian type would develop.
You are brave to offer up your therapist. And I think it may be hurtful for you, personally. But I like the general idea.
I hope you had a warm and fuzzy session today!!
-Annierose
Posted by Dinah on April 26, 2005, at 17:37:28
In reply to Re: Quick question if any are around for a quick a, posted by Joslynn on April 26, 2005, at 15:46:44
I mentioned. Dr. Bob asked. See Admin.
Posted by alexandra_k on April 26, 2005, at 17:52:32
In reply to Re: Quick question if any are around for a quick a, posted by Dinah on April 26, 2005, at 17:37:28
But he would stick to the admin board - right?
Just tell him that he is NOT to come over here.
I imagine that he won't be bothered reading through lots and lots of posts.
Probably just ones that are directed to him.Maybe...
Just ask him and let him make up his own mind.
By the way - I do think it is brave of you to be taking the suggestion seriously.Personally...
I would be interested to hear what he had to say.
Posted by Dinah on April 26, 2005, at 17:53:38
In reply to Re: Quick question - Dinah, posted by annierose on April 26, 2005, at 16:13:26
I would think Dr. Bob was a saint if he could locate Deborah Lott for us. I've never been able to find her. But he might have avenues we don't have.
I'd never offer my therapist for the Psychology Board. Never.
Besides, we all want Daisy's therapist for that. :)
No, really we all want Daisy's therapist to give that seminar to our therapists. (My therapist just didn't find that charming.)
Posted by Dinah on April 26, 2005, at 17:55:09
In reply to Re: Quick question if any are around for a quick a » Dinah, posted by alexandra_k on April 26, 2005, at 17:52:32
You don't think Dr. Bob meant it seriously? Hmmm... never thought of that. I tend to be quite literal, and I thought Dr. Bob knew that.
Posted by alexandra_k on April 26, 2005, at 19:33:08
In reply to Re: Quick question if any are around for a quick a » alexandra_k, posted by Dinah on April 26, 2005, at 17:55:09
No - I do think he meant it seriously.
I mean good on you for seriously considering it enough to ask your t.
Good on you :-)
Posted by Dinah on April 26, 2005, at 19:36:27
In reply to Re: Quick question if any are around for a quick a » Dinah, posted by alexandra_k on April 26, 2005, at 19:33:08
He's thinking about it. He sounded intrigued. He's sounded pretty intrigued by Babble in general lately. I'm guessing he'd still say no. The last time he said he'd think about something he never mentioned it again.
Posted by pinkeye on April 26, 2005, at 19:39:17
In reply to Re: Quick question if any are around for a quick a » alexandra_k, posted by Dinah on April 26, 2005, at 19:36:27
My ex T would have straight away refused. He even first refused to take this url even intiially. But I kind of just gave it to him in writing. I think therapists wouldn't want to have anything to do with what the client is / says / participates in outside of therapy.
Posted by Dinah on April 26, 2005, at 19:44:47
In reply to Re: Quick question if any are around for a quick a » Dinah, posted by pinkeye on April 26, 2005, at 19:39:17
He checked the parameters and made sure it was an Admin thing only. And he hasn't said yes. And if his history is a guide it will go into the great never mentioned place in the sky. :)
Posted by alexandra_k on April 26, 2005, at 20:04:01
In reply to Re: Quick question if any are around for a quick a » pinkeye, posted by Dinah on April 26, 2005, at 19:44:47
Aw
I hope he does do it :-)
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