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Re: Poll- How many T's offers physical comfort? » happyflower

Posted by thewrite1 on April 23, 2005, at 14:23:29

In reply to Poll- How many T's offers physical comfort?, posted by happyflower on April 22, 2005, at 16:11:52

My T has never offered, but she will give me a hug at the end of a session if I need it.

 

Never ever (nm)

Posted by gardenergirl on April 24, 2005, at 0:22:58

In reply to Re: Poll- How many T's offers physical comfort? » happyflower, posted by thewrite1 on April 23, 2005, at 14:23:29

 

Re: Never ever » gardenergirl

Posted by shrinking violet on April 24, 2005, at 13:14:18

In reply to Never ever (nm), posted by gardenergirl on April 24, 2005, at 0:22:58

gg,

Just wondering,

is it that your T never offers physical comfort, or YOU don't (as a T yourself)....or both?

 

handshake only (nm)

Posted by Shortelise on April 24, 2005, at 14:39:46

In reply to Poll- How many T's offers physical comfort?, posted by happyflower on April 22, 2005, at 16:11:52

 

Re: never, it would freak me out :-P (nm)

Posted by Shy_Girl on April 24, 2005, at 17:40:04

In reply to Poll- How many T's offers physical comfort?, posted by happyflower on April 22, 2005, at 16:11:52

 

Re: Never ever » shrinking violet

Posted by gardenergirl on April 24, 2005, at 21:43:22

In reply to Re: Never ever » gardenergirl, posted by shrinking violet on April 24, 2005, at 13:14:18

My T would never offer me a hug.

I've hugged a client or two in the past, but I don't do it often.

gg

 

Re: Never ever

Posted by mair on April 25, 2005, at 22:40:51

In reply to Re: Never ever » shrinking violet, posted by gardenergirl on April 24, 2005, at 21:43:22

my last T used to offer me an occasional handshake. I honestly think my current T might like to reach out but is probably restrained by all of my protective body language. Then again, maybe she doesn't touch anyone and it's just my imagination.

mair

 

Re:handshakes

Posted by Pfinstegg on April 25, 2005, at 22:58:56

In reply to Re: Never ever, posted by mair on April 25, 2005, at 22:40:51

He's a great one for handshakes, especially when vacations begin. He once asked me if it would help me feel more connected and contained to have a handshake at the end of each session. We got laughing, because I told him it sounded too European. (The real reason, though, was that little pfinstegg was afraid of any kind of touch from him). I've already decided that when I terminate, years and years from now, I am going to give him a kiss on the cheek.

 

Re:handshakes

Posted by Dinah on April 25, 2005, at 23:07:15

In reply to Re:handshakes, posted by Pfinstegg on April 25, 2005, at 22:58:56

Hmmm... I'm still planning to coil around his legs like a boa constrictor at termination, so I figure thare will be a fair amount of physical contact as he peels me off. And more as the cops peel my fingers off the door jamb.

 

ROTFL LOL!!!!!! :-) (nm) » Dinah

Posted by messadivoce on April 26, 2005, at 0:08:31

In reply to Re:handshakes, posted by Dinah on April 25, 2005, at 23:07:15

 

Re:handshakes » Dinah

Posted by alexandra_k on April 26, 2005, at 0:27:00

In reply to Re:handshakes, posted by Dinah on April 25, 2005, at 23:07:15

Ha! Oh I wish I had tried that. Really. What a good idea ;-)

 

Re:handshakes » Dinah

Posted by gardenergirl on April 26, 2005, at 4:46:18

In reply to Re:handshakes, posted by Dinah on April 25, 2005, at 23:07:15

Oh lordy, Dinah, that image always cracks me up. But then it certainly speaks to the way you value your therapy.

Note to self, when terminating with a long-term client, where protective boots so I don't break another toe! :)

gg

 

Y'all think I'm not serious :)

Posted by Dinah on April 26, 2005, at 7:47:29

In reply to Re:handshakes » Dinah, posted by gardenergirl on April 26, 2005, at 4:46:18

It's actually my more self protective plan.

How's that toe, gg? Was it the big toe? Surprising how much work that toe gets. Even my mother is slowed down without it. And the big question, did any of your clients not notice? I always read about that phenomenon.

 

Re: Y'all think I'm not serious :) » Dinah

Posted by gardenergirl on April 26, 2005, at 10:26:21

In reply to Y'all think I'm not serious :), posted by Dinah on April 26, 2005, at 7:47:29

It's the little toe, and so they only noticed if I limped or took my shoes off. And I think I re-injured it today. :(

gg

 

:-( (nm) » gardenergirl

Posted by Dinah on April 26, 2005, at 10:43:49

In reply to Re: Y'all think I'm not serious :) » Dinah, posted by gardenergirl on April 26, 2005, at 10:26:21

 

Re: Y'all think I'm not serious :) » gardenergirl

Posted by alexandra_k on April 27, 2005, at 1:05:08

In reply to Re: Y'all think I'm not serious :) » Dinah, posted by gardenergirl on April 26, 2005, at 10:26:21

Ouch. I have heard a broken little toe can be really painful.

These are what you want. The ultimate in toe protection (and in a very cool colour). They come in black too incase you are feeling more conservative.

http://www.buy-dr-martens.com/chesterboot/cr-fh1925z-5400.html

I like these ones personally:

http://www.buy-dr-martens.com/chesterboot/b-fh1919z-5400.html

But with a slightly chunkier sole.

And if you are feeling daring these are worth a look ;-)

http://www.buy-dr-martens.com/chesterboot/b-sm9663z.html

But you have to be notified about half an hour before you go out so you have time to do the laces up. And those last ones aren’t steel capped so the toe protection isn’t as good…

 

Re: Y'all think I'm not serious :) » alexandra_k

Posted by fallsfall on April 27, 2005, at 10:26:07

In reply to Re: Y'all think I'm not serious :) » gardenergirl, posted by alexandra_k on April 27, 2005, at 1:05:08

Men wear these??

 

Re: Y'all think I'm not serious :) » fallsfall

Posted by alexandra_k on April 27, 2005, at 18:11:21

In reply to Re: Y'all think I'm not serious :) » alexandra_k, posted by fallsfall on April 27, 2005, at 10:26:07

Probably not the last pair ;-)

The number signifies the number of eyelets on a shoe / boot. So the standard shoes have 3 and the ankle boots have 8 and the boots I liked have 10 (though I'll admit I only wear them with trousers) and the highest ones were... was it 20 or something like that?

I had a friend (a very male friend) at high school who was scottish. He would wear 14 ups with a kilt. That looked pretty cool. But he did need a little time to get his shoes on ;-)

I've had maybe 3 or 4 pairs of them now... They have lasted me around 4 or 5 years - and thats of wearing them pretty much daily. They weld the leather onto the sole so the sole will never come apart from the upper. Basically the sole wears through eventually and then they are stuffed you can get them resoled - but they never look the same :-(

They also mold to the shape of your feet (underneath). The boots are pretty uncomfortable to start with - you have to wear them in (best get a supply of band-aids to PREVENT the blisters). But once they have worn in and molded to the shape of your feet a bit they are really very very comfortable.

 

Re: Y'all think I'm not serious :)

Posted by alexandra_k on April 27, 2005, at 22:17:46

In reply to Re: Y'all think I'm not serious :) » gardenergirl, posted by alexandra_k on April 27, 2005, at 1:05:08

Though I probably shouldn't wear leather...
:-(

 

Re: Y'all think I'm not serious :) » alexandra_k

Posted by gardenergirl on April 28, 2005, at 6:22:48

In reply to Re: Y'all think I'm not serious :) » fallsfall, posted by alexandra_k on April 27, 2005, at 18:11:21

Thanks alexandra. I bet those would look lovely with my floral skirts. :)

gg

 

Toe protection

Posted by Dinah on April 28, 2005, at 9:29:07

In reply to Re: Y'all think I'm not serious :) » alexandra_k, posted by gardenergirl on April 28, 2005, at 6:22:48

Just changing the subject line. :)

I remember what it meant.

 

lol (nm)

Posted by gardenergirl on April 29, 2005, at 1:40:55

In reply to Toe protection, posted by Dinah on April 28, 2005, at 9:29:07

 

Re: Toe protection

Posted by alexandra_k on May 1, 2005, at 1:27:18

In reply to Toe protection, posted by Dinah on April 28, 2005, at 9:29:07

I tried finding floral ones. And yellow ones. And pink ones (and even yellow AND pink ones). I know you used to be able to get 'em.

Couldn't find them in docs. But found some yellow boots Dinah

http://www.steel-boots.com/shop/10-eyelet-boots/10eyefyellow.html

:-)

They also come in shoes and 6, 8, 10, and 15 (?) high...

You used to be able to get docs with the union jack on them :-)

 

He's FORGOTTEN

Posted by Dinah on May 2, 2005, at 12:10:04

In reply to Toe protection, posted by Dinah on April 28, 2005, at 9:29:07

He made it clear today he's forgotten other things too, but those aren't important because I can tell him again.

I can't believe it. I told him twice because he forgot once. And still he's forgotten that if he ever terminates me he needs to have me committed. He said that on the chance that he ever terminated me, he'd do it slowly over five or six weeks. He FORGOT. And what's the use of telling him again? he'll just forget again.

I feel like bringing a big red marker next time and telling him to write it on my file because it's important. But then, maybe I shouldn't bother. The whole point in telling him was because I promised to let him help me. But I told him my plan and he FORGOT.

 

Re: He's FORGOTTEN » Dinah

Posted by Susan47 on May 2, 2005, at 13:08:17

In reply to He's FORGOTTEN, posted by Dinah on May 2, 2005, at 12:10:04

But, isn't it a good thing that he forgot, I mean, doesn't that mean he sees you as able to handle more, emotionally, because you're getting stronger?


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