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Posted by Augustina on April 23, 2005, at 11:53:56
In reply to Poll- How many T's offers physical comfort?, posted by happyflower on April 22, 2005, at 16:11:52
The only times my T and I have had physical contact was during our initial meeting (a handshake) and I believe he patted me on the upper back (very lightly) during Christmas 2003 as I left session b/c this was my first Christmas w/out my mom. Otherwise, definitely no physical contact whatsoever. I'm quite fine with this as I think I'd freeze up (and freak out) if he did attempt to do something else.
Posted by Poet on April 23, 2005, at 12:36:43
In reply to Poll- How many T's offers physical comfort?, posted by happyflower on April 22, 2005, at 16:11:52
Posted by thewrite1 on April 23, 2005, at 14:23:29
In reply to Poll- How many T's offers physical comfort?, posted by happyflower on April 22, 2005, at 16:11:52
My T has never offered, but she will give me a hug at the end of a session if I need it.
Posted by gardenergirl on April 24, 2005, at 0:22:58
In reply to Re: Poll- How many T's offers physical comfort? » happyflower, posted by thewrite1 on April 23, 2005, at 14:23:29
Posted by shrinking violet on April 24, 2005, at 13:14:18
In reply to Never ever (nm), posted by gardenergirl on April 24, 2005, at 0:22:58
gg,
Just wondering,
is it that your T never offers physical comfort, or YOU don't (as a T yourself)....or both?
Posted by Shortelise on April 24, 2005, at 14:39:46
In reply to Poll- How many T's offers physical comfort?, posted by happyflower on April 22, 2005, at 16:11:52
Posted by Shy_Girl on April 24, 2005, at 17:40:04
In reply to Poll- How many T's offers physical comfort?, posted by happyflower on April 22, 2005, at 16:11:52
Posted by gardenergirl on April 24, 2005, at 21:43:22
In reply to Re: Never ever » gardenergirl, posted by shrinking violet on April 24, 2005, at 13:14:18
My T would never offer me a hug.
I've hugged a client or two in the past, but I don't do it often.
gg
Posted by mair on April 25, 2005, at 22:40:51
In reply to Re: Never ever » shrinking violet, posted by gardenergirl on April 24, 2005, at 21:43:22
my last T used to offer me an occasional handshake. I honestly think my current T might like to reach out but is probably restrained by all of my protective body language. Then again, maybe she doesn't touch anyone and it's just my imagination.
mair
Posted by Pfinstegg on April 25, 2005, at 22:58:56
In reply to Re: Never ever, posted by mair on April 25, 2005, at 22:40:51
He's a great one for handshakes, especially when vacations begin. He once asked me if it would help me feel more connected and contained to have a handshake at the end of each session. We got laughing, because I told him it sounded too European. (The real reason, though, was that little pfinstegg was afraid of any kind of touch from him). I've already decided that when I terminate, years and years from now, I am going to give him a kiss on the cheek.
Posted by Dinah on April 25, 2005, at 23:07:15
In reply to Re:handshakes, posted by Pfinstegg on April 25, 2005, at 22:58:56
Hmmm... I'm still planning to coil around his legs like a boa constrictor at termination, so I figure thare will be a fair amount of physical contact as he peels me off. And more as the cops peel my fingers off the door jamb.
Posted by messadivoce on April 26, 2005, at 0:08:31
In reply to Re:handshakes, posted by Dinah on April 25, 2005, at 23:07:15
Posted by alexandra_k on April 26, 2005, at 0:27:00
In reply to Re:handshakes, posted by Dinah on April 25, 2005, at 23:07:15
Ha! Oh I wish I had tried that. Really. What a good idea ;-)
Posted by gardenergirl on April 26, 2005, at 4:46:18
In reply to Re:handshakes, posted by Dinah on April 25, 2005, at 23:07:15
Oh lordy, Dinah, that image always cracks me up. But then it certainly speaks to the way you value your therapy.
Note to self, when terminating with a long-term client, where protective boots so I don't break another toe! :)
gg
Posted by Dinah on April 26, 2005, at 7:47:29
In reply to Re:handshakes » Dinah, posted by gardenergirl on April 26, 2005, at 4:46:18
It's actually my more self protective plan.
How's that toe, gg? Was it the big toe? Surprising how much work that toe gets. Even my mother is slowed down without it. And the big question, did any of your clients not notice? I always read about that phenomenon.
Posted by gardenergirl on April 26, 2005, at 10:26:21
In reply to Y'all think I'm not serious :), posted by Dinah on April 26, 2005, at 7:47:29
It's the little toe, and so they only noticed if I limped or took my shoes off. And I think I re-injured it today. :(
gg
Posted by Dinah on April 26, 2005, at 10:43:49
In reply to Re: Y'all think I'm not serious :) » Dinah, posted by gardenergirl on April 26, 2005, at 10:26:21
Posted by alexandra_k on April 27, 2005, at 1:05:08
In reply to Re: Y'all think I'm not serious :) » Dinah, posted by gardenergirl on April 26, 2005, at 10:26:21
Ouch. I have heard a broken little toe can be really painful.
These are what you want. The ultimate in toe protection (and in a very cool colour). They come in black too incase you are feeling more conservative.
http://www.buy-dr-martens.com/chesterboot/cr-fh1925z-5400.html
I like these ones personally:
http://www.buy-dr-martens.com/chesterboot/b-fh1919z-5400.html
But with a slightly chunkier sole.
And if you are feeling daring these are worth a look ;-)
http://www.buy-dr-martens.com/chesterboot/b-sm9663z.html
But you have to be notified about half an hour before you go out so you have time to do the laces up. And those last ones aren’t steel capped so the toe protection isn’t as good…
Posted by fallsfall on April 27, 2005, at 10:26:07
In reply to Re: Y'all think I'm not serious :) » gardenergirl, posted by alexandra_k on April 27, 2005, at 1:05:08
Men wear these??
Posted by alexandra_k on April 27, 2005, at 18:11:21
In reply to Re: Y'all think I'm not serious :) » alexandra_k, posted by fallsfall on April 27, 2005, at 10:26:07
Probably not the last pair ;-)
The number signifies the number of eyelets on a shoe / boot. So the standard shoes have 3 and the ankle boots have 8 and the boots I liked have 10 (though I'll admit I only wear them with trousers) and the highest ones were... was it 20 or something like that?
I had a friend (a very male friend) at high school who was scottish. He would wear 14 ups with a kilt. That looked pretty cool. But he did need a little time to get his shoes on ;-)
I've had maybe 3 or 4 pairs of them now... They have lasted me around 4 or 5 years - and thats of wearing them pretty much daily. They weld the leather onto the sole so the sole will never come apart from the upper. Basically the sole wears through eventually and then they are stuffed you can get them resoled - but they never look the same :-(
They also mold to the shape of your feet (underneath). The boots are pretty uncomfortable to start with - you have to wear them in (best get a supply of band-aids to PREVENT the blisters). But once they have worn in and molded to the shape of your feet a bit they are really very very comfortable.
Posted by alexandra_k on April 27, 2005, at 22:17:46
In reply to Re: Y'all think I'm not serious :) » gardenergirl, posted by alexandra_k on April 27, 2005, at 1:05:08
Though I probably shouldn't wear leather...
:-(
Posted by gardenergirl on April 28, 2005, at 6:22:48
In reply to Re: Y'all think I'm not serious :) » fallsfall, posted by alexandra_k on April 27, 2005, at 18:11:21
Thanks alexandra. I bet those would look lovely with my floral skirts. :)
gg
Posted by Dinah on April 28, 2005, at 9:29:07
In reply to Re: Y'all think I'm not serious :) » alexandra_k, posted by gardenergirl on April 28, 2005, at 6:22:48
Just changing the subject line. :)
I remember what it meant.
Posted by gardenergirl on April 29, 2005, at 1:40:55
In reply to Toe protection, posted by Dinah on April 28, 2005, at 9:29:07
Posted by alexandra_k on May 1, 2005, at 1:27:18
In reply to Toe protection, posted by Dinah on April 28, 2005, at 9:29:07
I tried finding floral ones. And yellow ones. And pink ones (and even yellow AND pink ones). I know you used to be able to get 'em.
Couldn't find them in docs. But found some yellow boots Dinah
http://www.steel-boots.com/shop/10-eyelet-boots/10eyefyellow.html
:-)
They also come in shoes and 6, 8, 10, and 15 (?) high...
You used to be able to get docs with the union jack on them :-)
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