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Posted by Dinah on April 10, 2004, at 20:44:14
In reply to Re: Multiple Personality: A shameful, nonexistent dx?, posted by DaisyM on April 10, 2004, at 15:58:11
I guess it's possible that at some distant past point in therapy he asked to speak to the part who... whatever. But if so, it was so long ago I can't remember.
Now he would no sooner request to speak to a different part of me than he would ask me to leave the room so he could speak to another client. :)
And I would view it just about the same way.
Posted by Dinah on April 11, 2004, at 10:09:00
In reply to Re: Multiple Personality: A shameful, nonexistent dx? » DaisyM, posted by Dinah on April 10, 2004, at 20:44:14
Or think I'm deranged? Or my therapist's favorite word (tho not about this), troubled? Or as an oddity or as a freak? It really isn't a big deal, or at least in my case it isn't.
I was scared to tell, but I didn't think I should continue be ashamed of me.
Posted by tinydancer on April 11, 2004, at 11:00:38
In reply to Are y'all scared of me now?, posted by Dinah on April 11, 2004, at 10:09:00
> Or think I'm deranged? Or my therapist's favorite word (tho not about this), troubled? Or as an oddity or as a freak? It really isn't a big deal, or at least in my case it isn't.
>
> I was scared to tell, but I didn't think I should continue be ashamed of me.I'm sorry, Dinah, I just read your posts. I'm certainly not scared of you at all. I don't think anyone would, should, or could be! I feel very vulnerable myself right now because I've written so much about some really personal things, that I'm starting to let my imagination get carried away with why some people haven't replied to this thread. I think about the people who believe that there is no such thing as multiple personalities, and worry that someone thinks I'm lying or making it up for attention.
Anyway, the main reason I haven't responded is because I couldn't process anymore information about it. I just became afraid especially because not a lot of people had posted in the thread. I am just sitting on the sidelines to see what happens and who else pops up with something to say.
You should definitley not continue be ashamed! I shouldn't either. It's a long road but I think that it is acheivable with a T you can trust.
Posted by Dinah on April 11, 2004, at 11:10:38
In reply to Re: Are y'all scared of me now? » Dinah, posted by tinydancer on April 11, 2004, at 11:00:38
You're describing exactly the same fears I have, Tinydancer. I *know* I shouldn't be ashamed, yet there seems ample reason to be scared to death. Even my therapist doesn't think I should disclose to my family or at work. He thought Babble already knew. He thinks I should tell my psychiatrist, but no way am I doing that. My psychiatrist is one who believes in ignoring "dramatic" behavior so that it goes away. And he mistakes not mentioning it in front of him as "going away". Anyway, it's not a medication issue so there's no need for him to know.
Posted by Dinah on April 11, 2004, at 11:11:18
In reply to Re: Are y'all scared of me now? » Dinah, posted by tinydancer on April 11, 2004, at 11:00:38
Posted by gardenergirl on April 11, 2004, at 11:21:15
In reply to Re: Are y'all scared of me now? » tinydancer, posted by Dinah on April 11, 2004, at 11:10:38
Dinah and tiny,
I'm not scared of either of you now or before. I'm awed by how much you have shared, as I can imagine it would feel like a huge risk given the stereotypes and lack of knowledge people have about dissociative disorders.I haven't added anything to the thread, really because I am just sitting back, reading, and learning so much. Plus, the thread seems to be flowing well.
But I guess we are usually better at offering support. So thank you. I can tell this was difficult. And it certainly hasn't changed how I feel about either of you. Except perhaps to add to the awe I have for the ability to adapt to and cope with trauma.
(((Dinah))) and (((tiny)))
gg
Posted by lucy stone on April 11, 2004, at 14:40:24
In reply to Re: Are y'all scared of me now?, posted by gardenergirl on April 11, 2004, at 11:21:15
Dinah and Tiny,
I also haven't responded to this thread because I don't feel like I have the knowledge base to add much. I am not scared of either of you and I certainly don't think either one of you has anything to be afraid of. You have both been very brave in opening up here the way you have. You are both to be admired in the ways you handle you internal lives.
Posted by Dinah on April 11, 2004, at 15:46:05
In reply to Re: Are y'all scared of me now?, posted by lucy stone on April 11, 2004, at 14:40:24
And I apologize. I realize that my question put people on the spot and I didn't mean to. I was just feeling vulnerable and scared and wanted to get any fallout over with quickly.
Silly of me, I know.
Posted by antigua on April 11, 2004, at 15:49:27
In reply to Are y'all scared of me now?, posted by Dinah on April 11, 2004, at 10:09:00
Absolutely not. I know how hard it is to share and I'm really impressed that you felt comfortable to do so. You are a wonderful person.
antigua
Posted by lucy stone on April 11, 2004, at 16:52:37
In reply to Thank you, GardenerGirl and » lucy stone, posted by Dinah on April 11, 2004, at 15:46:05
I don't think you were silly at all. You took a chance by sharing and then got nervous about it. Looking for reassurance is perfectly natural, IMO.
Posted by Jai Narayan on April 11, 2004, at 19:00:23
In reply to Re: Thank you, GardenerGirl and, posted by lucy stone on April 11, 2004, at 16:52:37
I think my mother had the same dx. She seemed like so many people wrapped into one. We, her children, saw a different person.
I am so thankful that you answered so many questions and created clairty where there was confusion.
I am glad that you approached the topic with such grace and ease. I feel more comfortable because of that.
What an outstanding dialogue between DaisyM and Misshoneycrunch....I am still in awe.
And Dinah, it took courage to share....I totally honor that.
I love the honesty on this site and the incredible sharing.
Thanks
Posted by pegasus on April 12, 2004, at 14:03:03
In reply to This has helped me immensly...thank you, posted by Jai Narayan on April 11, 2004, at 19:00:23
I also want to say thanks for everyone experiencing DID or related phenomena who shared here. I just now read this thread (sorry, I've been swamped and reading things only spottily), and I'm blown away, in a good way.
Part of me is a little jealous of you having these different personalities or states that handle different things. It seems so much more organized than what I experience, which is so often contradictory and jumbled up. I don't mean to minimize your suffering, by any means. I just wanted to share that positive piece of my reaction, because it sounded like you were worried about people having negative reactions.
All of me is in awe of you guys and how brave you've been to explain things in so much detail! I've learned a ton, and am not scared or turned off or anything bad. I feel bad that you worried about that! I think it'll be helpful in understanding folks in the future, and being supportive to you all. I have immense respect for your honesty and openness here.
pegasus
Posted by shadows721 on April 12, 2004, at 17:56:35
In reply to Thank you, GardenerGirl and » lucy stone, posted by Dinah on April 11, 2004, at 15:46:05
I am in a nasty litigation and the employer has gotten access into all my psych info (hospitalizations, psychiatrist notes, and therapist notes). My attorney has sense acted very funny. He keeps cancelling my appointments and said to me, "I understand you are going the a rough time." Anyway, I feel like I am being blown off and even his staff look at me differently. I have in my hx dx of MPD. The opposing atty talks to me really soft and slow. I feel like I am being treated totally differently since they have accessed my charts.
I feel emotionally violated. I feel like they are treating me like they think I am crazy. I am not crazy. I am really angry as Hell. My records had detailed of sexual abuse. Folks, if you think your records are confidential, think again. In the work comp system, all records are open game. It is the worst treatment I have had since being an adult. It seems like the only people who understand my pain are those who regularly see a therapist.
I just don't know what to say, but this is triggering rage in me. I feel like they are treating me like a freak, because they know I was sadistically abused as a kid. It just makes the abusers powerful again in my eyes. **** on them. I am totally enraged about this violation of confidentiality. I feel like I am being treated like a felon.
Posted by gardenergirl on April 12, 2004, at 20:18:57
In reply to Re: being treated like I am crazy, posted by shadows721 on April 12, 2004, at 17:56:35
I'm so sorry you are going through this. How awful to have someone you are relying on start treating you different. No wonder you are angry. I wish I had the opportunity to set your lawyer and his staff straight about people with mental illness. I wish there was more I could say.
(((shadows)))
Take care,
gg
Posted by Dinah on April 12, 2004, at 20:55:54
In reply to Re: being treated like I am crazy, posted by shadows721 on April 12, 2004, at 17:56:35
There ought to be a law.
Posted by deirdrehbrt on April 12, 2004, at 22:36:16
In reply to Re: I'm sorry, Shadows. :( » shadows721, posted by Dinah on April 12, 2004, at 20:55:54
Hi everyone.
Fallsfall just told me this thread was going on, and I thought I would come over and check it out.
I'm especially interested because I also have DID/MPD. My heart goes out to all of you with legal problems, problems convincing T's, problems with families, etc.
In my case, the one person in my life that needed the most convincing was me. It took alot of waking up to things that had been going on that most other people would never have happen to them. It needed to be pointed out to me that most other people don't have people call them by other names; that most people don't have over a dozen distinct handwritings; that most people don't find things they didn't write in their journals; that most people don't have money dissappearing from their checking account and wind up with things they didn't buy sitting in their homes.
The pieces of 'evidence' that tipped the scales were evidence of severe injuries I suffered as a child. My parents know nothing, or so they say, about them. There were also a number of incidents with friends, things in my journals that couldn't be explained by other means.
As near as I can tell, there are 29 people in my mind. I haven't met half of them. Some of them have been scary at first. It's never fun to find out that you have no idea of who you are, what happened to you as a child, that things that you thought you understood in your past were really quite different from the way you believed.
I still sometimes have doubts about having DID, but when I do, all I need to do is talk to my daughter, and she'll leave no doubt.
It's hard on people around you. It's frightening to those who might have hurt you or let it happen. It is tough to learn that people who you needed to trust could have done unthinkable things to you when you were most vulnerable.
I guess that the best thing though is knowing that things can get better. There is hope. I'm looking for that hope.
Thanks for starting this thread.
Dee.
Posted by rs on April 13, 2004, at 5:49:31
In reply to Re: Just found this thread., posted by deirdrehbrt on April 12, 2004, at 22:36:16
Thanks so much for sharing. Like said do not post much but here often. Your post was very supportive here. Especially the denial and finding out about others and the pain we all went through. Again thanks.
Posted by tinydancer on April 13, 2004, at 7:56:07
In reply to Re: Just found this thread., posted by deirdrehbrt on April 12, 2004, at 22:36:16
Dee, does any of what I describe sound familiar? Sometimes I feel so alone in my world, I feel like I must be the only one. I would really be interested in hearing how you reacted to my posts about describing day to day experiences.
Posted by Penny on April 13, 2004, at 13:44:00
In reply to Are y'all scared of me now?, posted by Dinah on April 11, 2004, at 10:09:00
(((Dinah)))
Never ever ever would I be scared of you, or think you are anything other than the wonderful person I know you to be.
As you know, I haven't been frequenting the board too much lately, and so just noticed this thread. Wasn't following it as I don't feel I can contribute to the overall knowledge - I know next to nothing about DID or DD.
I can understand your not sharing with your family, and I'm most glad your T 'gets it', b/c that's what's most important for you. And I'm glad you have decided to not be ashamed of you, b/c I can't see a single thing you should be ashamed of...
{BTW - a little aside - I was thinking about you the other night at my grandmother's, when I was watching a dog show on Animal Planet and saw some that reminded me of your babies... :)}
I learn so much from you, Dinah, and from the other posters on this board. I am glad to see so much response to tinydancer's post. I knew I had seen others (Dee being the main person who comes to mind) post about DID, so I knew tinydancer wasn't alone. By sharing your experience, Dinah, and others, you have (once again) helped someone else...
And I love you for it.
P
Posted by deirdrehbrt on April 13, 2004, at 18:33:14
In reply to Re: Just found this thread. » deirdrehbrt, posted by tinydancer on April 13, 2004, at 7:56:07
Hey Tinydancer,
Lots of what you mentioned seems all too familiar to me. I think that the DID is partly to blame for me no longer driving. I know that the major part is the hallucinations that I have, but there have been so many times that I dissociate in a major way while driving. One time, I set off, dropped some money in the toll, and when I looked out the windshield again, I was 100 miles away, having driven through Boston.
My daughter is quite used to asking me a question, and when 'I' don't know what she's talking about, she'll ask later. Sometimes I don't recognize VERY familiar people, like my kids, my brothers, in-laws, etc. Sometimes I'll be walking down a street, knowing that nothing of what I see is real. Time gets lost often. My journal is full of entries with many different handwritings. I never know if I sign for a credit card purchase if my signature will be accepted.
I've gone into a sandwich shop and been asked if I wanted my regular. My 'regular' was something I would never order. The person behind the counter, who I didn't recognize proceeds to ask me about my family. I've had complete therapy sessions that I didn't remember. I've been told I've been places, done things, said things, and not remembered it. Life is really quite an adventure with DID/MPD. It's hard to have friends being unsure of how you will behave in certain situations.
It also freaks people out when your reactions to situations that are so far out of what they would consider 'normal'. I have a very strange reaction to pain. I often don't feel it. I've been hit by a car, and never felt the pain, except for a slight burning on my shoulder. I just wanted to get away from all of those people looking at me laying in the street. It was hard to believe that the pool of blood I was laying in was mine.
Once, playing softball in the air force, I was hit across the face with the bat. I needed people to tell me that I was hurt. When they told me I was bleeding, I was very embarrassed. There have been lots of other similar situations. I always feel that I am being a terrible imposition on the people who are trying to take care of me. I feel like I've done something wrong by being injured. It's not alot of fun.
On the other end, sometimes things that need to get done without me ever remembering doing them.
Projects would get done at work, and I never remembered doing them. That is kind of the good part.
Well, that's how things are in my 'our' life, or at least some of the things.
Hope this helps.
Dee.
Posted by Dinah on April 13, 2004, at 21:17:17
In reply to Re: Are y'all scared of me now? » Dinah, posted by Penny on April 13, 2004, at 13:44:00
Posted by All Done on April 14, 2004, at 0:47:41
In reply to Are y'all scared of me now?, posted by Dinah on April 11, 2004, at 10:09:00
Gosh, Dinah. I just peeked in over here as well. Haven't spent much time on this board at all lately.
I'm sure you realize, but let me remind you who your dealing with on these boards. So many intelligent, understanding, caring, and accepting people. There is no way anyone could be afraid of you and you have absolutely no reason to be ashamed.
I don't care how many personalities/ego states/alters you have, I don't think you're anything other than a wonderful person.
Be easy on yourself and take care.
L
Posted by milahra on April 14, 2004, at 8:00:58
In reply to Re: Are y'all scared of me now?, posted by gardenergirl on April 11, 2004, at 11:21:15
> Dinah and tiny,
> I'm not scared of either of you now or before. I'm awed by how much you have shared, as I can imagine it would feel like a huge risk given the stereotypes and lack of knowledge people have about dissociative disorders.
>
> I haven't added anything to the thread, really because I am just sitting back, reading, and learning so much. Plus, the thread seems to be flowing well.
>
> But I guess we are usually better at offering support. So thank you. I can tell this was difficult. And it certainly hasn't changed how I feel about either of you. Except perhaps to add to the awe I have for the ability to adapt to and cope with trauma.
>
> (((Dinah))) and (((tiny)))
>
> ggHear! Hear! I *totally agree*! I'm entering this discussion as well, but just this moment I won't take anything away from the chorus of admiration for tiny, dihah and others who have bravely engaged in this discussion.
I am delightged to know you all!
Tiny and Dinah, I too have had moments in the past in which I have felt afraid of others who did not post a reply. I associate it with people "looking on" and ready to mock me. That is what happened during at least one of the traumatic episokes which triggered my own dissociation.
I'd love for this converation to keep in tact, a kind of circle of those who *do* undersand and who can empathize as well as those whose open minds make them dear listeners and friends.
For now,
milahra
Posted by Raindancer on April 14, 2004, at 17:23:31
In reply to Are y'all scared of me now?, posted by Dinah on April 11, 2004, at 10:09:00
Dinah, Ever since I have been posting, to me you have been one of the most understanding, most caring and bravest people on the board. We all look to you for guidance and wisdom and that will never change. I am moved that you have trusted us enough to tell us about your ego states but I honestly can't understand why you feel there should be any shame attached. Aren't we all lots of different people according to our role, who we are with and how we are feeling. It may not be quite the same but there must be some parallels. Most of the time I don't know who I am. Sometimes I feel that I am not really there and people can walk through me and not notice. You are Dinah - very, very special - and we love you. Go well.
Raindancer.
Posted by deirdrehbrt on April 14, 2004, at 21:28:30
In reply to Re: Are y'all scared of me now? » Dinah, posted by Raindancer on April 14, 2004, at 17:23:31
Hi Dinah and Tiny.
I couldn't ever be scared of either of you. In fact, I find more people frightened of me who know me. My parents are frightened of me, and don't even want to discuss any of my hospitalizations, what my meds are for, or any of it.
I have friends who are like you and I, and these understand. I've learned that with people who haven't been through what I have, it is best to not disclose too much. I have also learned that when I meet someone who has experienced abuse, that I am somehow able to connect with them, I'm with a kindred spirit as it were. These are usually the safe people.
I'm glad that I've met safe people here, like you two.
Dee.
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