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Posted by rs on February 23, 2004, at 17:03:01
Today called therapist office to set up appointments. First he said he would take care of hem and has not yet. Called to see when last one was. Told it was this Friday. Go twice a week with the same day and time for months. Always say to the person is this a good time etc. Never call on the hour or the half hour. So will explain converstaion.
rs. Hi is this a good time for setting up appointments?
her. It has been so busy and this is my third day.
rs the same about good time.
her. Ok what would you like?
rs Well go twice a week and usually set up a month at a time. Have a calender and can tell you the dates and days. She makes the first two.
her. Well will get as far as I can and call you. Click. She was so rude. Do not want to deal with that again. Felt like this pain and such a needy person. So do not even know if she made any. Also at least 3 times called there and he never got the message. So anyway after that felt so bad was angry and cried. Just felt like did not deserve that. Understand how busy it is but hey so is my job. Anyway you folks are the best and thanks for listening.
Posted by Fallen4myT on February 23, 2004, at 17:26:05
In reply to felt so needy and a bother, posted by rs on February 23, 2004, at 17:03:01
RS...Maybe talk to your T about this when you see T cause I am thinking if this is the receptionist and they are new they need fine tuning ? None the less no matter if its your T or receptionsit I am so sorry for your pain and really think this can be fixed next session with a long talk
hugs
Posted by pegasus on February 23, 2004, at 17:34:24
In reply to felt so needy and a bother, posted by rs on February 23, 2004, at 17:03:01
Hi rs,
I'm sorry you had such a bad experience. If I were in your place, I would explain the whole situation to my therapist, and ask him to fix it. Especially if he is not getting many of your messages, that is a big problem for therapy. He should be concerned about that. And he should have the person setting up appointments be a little more informed, or at least polite. It's hard enough to do therapy, without these extra people getting involved and being insensitive or rude!
Good luck resolving this problem. Let us know how it goes.
- p
Posted by rs on February 23, 2004, at 18:04:24
In reply to Re: felt so needy and a bother, posted by pegasus on February 23, 2004, at 17:34:24
Thanks to both of you. Yes every time have to call to set up get so anxious becaue know how busy it can get. Will talk with him tomorrow. Thanks for the support
Posted by All Done on February 24, 2004, at 8:54:42
In reply to Re: felt so needy and a bother » pegasus, posted by rs on February 23, 2004, at 18:04:24
> Thanks to both of you. Yes every time have to call to set up get so anxious becaue know how busy it can get. Will talk with him tomorrow. Thanks for the support
I hope it goes okay for you today, rs. Don't worry about feeling needy and like a bother. They're job is to help you schedule your appointments and if they aren't clear with you, you have every right to call back.
Posted by Karen_kay on February 24, 2004, at 12:02:16
In reply to felt so needy and a bother, posted by rs on February 23, 2004, at 17:03:01
Hey hun!! I know what you're going through, as I assume we all feel like we are bothering our T's and being needy.
You are supposed to call for appointments. So, maybe he was just extremely busy, and thta's why he didn't get back right away. It hurts to think you aren't their Top Priority. I often call my T now after a session to tell him I didn't like what he said, but didn't realize he said it until after the session ( are you following this?)... And I feel like I'm a pain and bothering him too. But, he talks to me and explains what he said in a different way, so as to not "hurt my feelings or leave room for errors." So, I know I'm not bothering him, as he would be honest and tell me...
So, don't feel like a "bother or pain." We call our T's and sometimes they are busy and can't get back right away. It happens to the best of us (as you see I AM THE BEST ONE HERE, other than you of course :))
If he doesn't respond again in a timely manner, let him know that you are feeling a bit abandoned, or hurt, or whtaever you feel.. It could be condusive to your regular therapy sessions. I feel that sometimes even regular telephone calls mean or say something about me, as I'm sure he's taking notes ...
Please don't feel like a bother. You needed to get ahold of him. He wasn't so reseptive because he was busy at the time. It doesn't mean he "thinks any less of you." It just means he was overworked......
Posted by rs on February 24, 2004, at 18:30:18
In reply to Re: felt so needy and a bother » rs, posted by Karen_kay on February 24, 2004, at 12:02:16
Hi Karen and alldone. (hope that is corret) Saw T today and did vent about the person being rude. He apologized and said he is the one that does the hiring. She is from a temp agencey and he has had other complaints. Told him that do not know if have appointments or not. So hopefully he will follow up with this.
Karen been reading many of your post and you are such a nice person. In a way you sound like me in therapy. Well have not asked things you have but can see doing that. Tell him the way it is. He says go in there with an attitude but thats ok. He would answer almost anything I think. Have to agree with you that here feel more comfortable with him because he seems real. My old T knew nothing what so ever about him. This one he told me he was single owns his own home and has a daughter. He also has written two books. Some day going to ask if he is you know. Think so. Have so many friends that are that think would be more comfortable again. Anyway did you see Bubba today? Well thanks again
Posted by fallsfall on February 24, 2004, at 18:46:41
In reply to Re: felt so needy and a bother » Karen_kay, posted by rs on February 24, 2004, at 18:30:18
So, rs, does this mean that he fired the old receptionist? That would certainly be a step in the right direction. Now he just needs to find someone good to replace her! Sounds like you were more patient this time - that is progress for you. And sounds like he IS trying to solve the phone call problem.
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