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Posted by Speaker on December 7, 2003, at 20:13:00
I have been staying busy this weekend so I won't have to think about the appt's I have this week. I have had two appt's with a new therapist. I have two appt's left with my old therapist. Last week was hard at both places! I asked the old therapist to write a letter of referal and he read it to me...I won't let him send it. He made me take a copy and told me I can't just leave the stuff we have been working on at his office (I could try :). I thought he was mean but I know it was really the best thing. A few days later I went to my new therapist and I was so overwhelmed and angry I just spit nails at him and he was very quick with his responces. I was so exhausted I went home and went to bed instead of going back to work. The new therapist suggested we meet twice a week for awhile...EEEK! I told him no as that would make three appt's in one week while I am still seeing my old therapist. Is anyone still following all of this :)!!! The new therapist is very insightful and posed hard questions that have kept me awake since our appt. Friday. I really want to make an earlier appt. with him so I don't have to ponder all of this until Friday but isn't it a bit much to have three therapy sessions in a week when I have been getting along with once a week for several years?
I have very mixed emotions about this...money, time, dependency, but I am tired of being depressed and will go if it would help. What do you think???
Posted by Dinah on December 7, 2003, at 20:55:53
In reply to Appt's with Old and New therapists this week-Help!, posted by Speaker on December 7, 2003, at 20:13:00
I think it's hard to be productive in the rest of your life if you're stewing over therapy questions. If you think going in earlier would help you concentrate on other things, do it. I made an extra appt Friday and spent the weekend having fun instead of panicking or being angry. A worthwhile expenditure of time.
And it'd only be three times a week for two more weeks. And only be twice a week for as long as you find the insights too much too handle at once a week. Or as long as you want it.
If you think it would help, go for it.
Posted by Dinah on December 7, 2003, at 21:04:31
In reply to Appt's with Old and New therapists this week-Help!, posted by Speaker on December 7, 2003, at 20:13:00
P.S. You didn't like his letter of referral? I think I wouldn't want to see what my therapist would write about me :(
Posted by fallsfall on December 7, 2003, at 21:10:42
In reply to Appt's with Old and New therapists this week-Help!, posted by Speaker on December 7, 2003, at 20:13:00
I know that seeing my new therapist twice a week has been a good thing - mainly because it would be hard to wait a week to address things that he brings up. I think the beginning is harder because you don't have the experience with him to trust him yet. I would recommend twice a week with the new one. Maybe you should skip a week in between the old one's last two sessions. Then if you have particular questions based on stuff your new one is saying you can ask them. Or if you are having trouble letting go of the old one, the new one can help.
Good luck. It is hard to change therapists, but I have found that it has been helpful to me. I hope that it works out well for you, too.
Posted by judy1 on December 7, 2003, at 22:08:40
In reply to Appt's with Old and New therapists this week-Help!, posted by Speaker on December 7, 2003, at 20:13:00
It seems as if you've already bonded with the new therp- good for you! Your anger is probably displaced (which is fine as I'm sure the new therp understands- I did something very similar). I agree with fallsfall- skip a session with the old therp, and no you are not obligated to accept a letter of referral, part of me feels like he's assauging his guilt by saying you can't leave all the work behind that you've done with him. why not- and I'm sure you'll carry some of it with you no matter what. explain to the new therp how you were unable to work after a session, and I'm sure he'll space things out for you for a while. this is the high drama beginning, things will settle down soon. take care- judy
Posted by Karen_kay on December 8, 2003, at 10:53:29
In reply to Re: Appt's with Old and New therapists this week-Help! » Speaker, posted by judy1 on December 7, 2003, at 22:08:40
Wow! It sounds like you've had a really emotional week! And you are really courageous for continuing. I applaud you! I don't think I would want the referral from the old therapist either. And the old issues from therapy will resume again, don't worry. You can rehash them when you are ready. I think you should take this time to become comfortable with your new therapist. It must be rough trasitioning from the previous therapist to the new one. I'd want to take it slow, but if you are up to the faster pace, good for you! You know your mind a body better than anyone else. Listen to what it tells you. You know what you can handle. And do what your mind tells you.
Good luck, you're doing great!
Karen
Posted by Speaker on December 8, 2003, at 11:33:57
In reply to Re: Appt's with Old and New therapists this week-Help!, posted by Karen_kay on December 8, 2003, at 10:53:29
I did decide I would call and go twice this week so I didn't have to wait until Friday with no resolve. After wondering what to do it was answered for me...no appt's left. I will see the old therapist this afternoon...I feel like I'm setting next to the bed of a dying person. I can't wait!!!! I will then go Friday to the new therapist. Well, I don't know what to say today but I'm sure it will be crudy. I really don't think this is helpful but I guess sometimes I'm not the best judge. Thanks for all your help and support!!!
Posted by Dinah on December 8, 2003, at 19:51:16
In reply to Called/ no appt's left so only 1w/old 1/new, posted by Speaker on December 8, 2003, at 11:33:57
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