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Posted by sweet77 on November 12, 2003, at 3:02:01
ok i am 23 female wholives with her parnets and basically had pretty good life except for i have life stopping panic attaks and i also have depression . i have been seeing my therpist for 3 yrs now and he is older then me and very attractive and i am in love with him .. this is how it started i was seeing him like 2 in half yrs and i stopped cus of attendence problems but at that time didnt know what so i stopped going so i got disscharged and i went nutty i was crying all the time and i was acting like i had a broken heart from him leavin me it is crazy !!! so... i beeged everyone at the place to let me have another chance of seeing him again and they did let me then about weekl before i went back i knew that i had feel in love with and had been in love with him for like 2 out of the 3 yrs i have been going there... i am really confused and sad.. it makes me cry and i wish it would go away .. my feelings feel so real .. i wish i could tell him but i just cant bring myself to .. i dont think he has any idea !! how do i go about helping myself ??? if there is anyone out there who has been where i am please respond i need someones help thank u
Posted by Medusa on November 12, 2003, at 5:15:18
What you're going through is really common. For it NOT to happen is unusual. Do a search on this site for "transference", and - if you're not in Canada - ask your therapist to talk to you about transference and what happens, what it means, how he handles it, how patients should handle it.
You're not alone. Lots and lots of posters here have experienced this. It's completely normal. It's a reaction to the therapy, not a regular social reaction that can lead to a social relationship. Your therapist can't become your boyfriend. It will really hurt, you'll probably feel really rejected by him maintaining professional boundaries, but for your sake he CAN NOT, MUST NOT deal with what you're going through on a social level. It's a therapy issue.
Posted by Medusa on November 12, 2003, at 5:35:26
In reply to hey there, there's help here, posted by Medusa on November 12, 2003, at 5:15:18
Posted by fallsfall on November 12, 2003, at 22:32:34
In reply to hey there, there's help here, posted by Medusa on November 12, 2003, at 5:15:18
Why can't Canadian therapists talk about Transference??
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