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Posted by Dr. Bob on June 26, 2014, at 0:00:06
In reply to Re: Sorry Dr. Bob for more than 3 posts » 10derheart, posted by Dinah on June 25, 2014, at 13:24:50
> I doubt Dr. Bob is paying attention to that aspect. He's far too busy making less and less sense, discussing people who aren't there to defend themselves, and otherwise falling all over one poor, anxious poster over on Admin.
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> 10derheart> I've seen what is happening on Admin. But I really can't allow myself to post without running the risk of not living up to my own standards. I hate doing that.
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> DinahI find it hard to know sometimes whom to fall over and whom not to fall over.
Dinah, I'd prefer for you to have lower standards. Maybe then I could meet them.
Bob
Posted by 10derheart on June 26, 2014, at 0:56:10
In reply to Re: Sorry Dr. Bob, posted by Dr. Bob on June 26, 2014, at 0:00:06
>>I find it hard to know sometimes whom to fall over and whom not to fall over.
Try no one?
>>Dinah, I'd prefer for you to have lower standards. Maybe then I could meet them.
Sad. But I'm hardly surprised that's your preferred solution. If she did, she might be lashing out at the attacks and insinuations like me and you don't want any more of **that** disturbing the 10-month long "discussion" you and Lou are supposedly having.
Posted by alexandra_k on June 26, 2014, at 1:03:28
In reply to Re: Sorry Dr. Bob » Dr. Bob, posted by 10derheart on June 26, 2014, at 0:56:10
hi. how are things with you?
Posted by Phillipa on June 26, 2014, at 9:41:59
In reply to Re: Sorry Dr. Bob » Dr. Bob, posted by 10derheart on June 26, 2014, at 0:56:10
Thing about the discussion it's keeping trouble from said poster off the other boards so I feel it's a good thing. Phillipa
Posted by Angela2 on June 26, 2014, at 11:33:40
In reply to Re: Sorry Dr. Bob » Dr. Bob, posted by 10derheart on June 26, 2014, at 0:56:10
I'm lost. What's going on?
Posted by 10derheart on June 26, 2014, at 12:15:01
In reply to Re: Sorry Dr. Bob » 10derheart, posted by alexandra_k on June 26, 2014, at 1:03:28
hi.
good and bad...depends which things. Kinda too much to explain here. I may be in a period of transition which is always confusing and hard for me. I'd be better if I didn't stop here and read the ongoing drumbeat on accusations against me, but sometimes I do. Then I defend myself and start things. <shrug>
I follow your posts but never quite know what to say.
Posted by Angela2 on June 26, 2014, at 14:24:08
In reply to Re: Sorry Dr. Bob » alexandra_k, posted by 10derheart on June 26, 2014, at 12:15:01
Posted by alexandra_k on June 26, 2014, at 16:38:07
In reply to Re: Sorry Dr. Bob » alexandra_k, posted by 10derheart on June 26, 2014, at 12:15:01
hi.
it's okay not to say anything, sometimes.
Posted by Dinah on June 27, 2014, at 13:14:40
In reply to Re: Sorry Dr. Bob, posted by Dr. Bob on June 26, 2014, at 0:00:06
I am sure you would. I regret to inform you that I don't believe it is possible for me to comply with your preference.
Posted by Dinah on June 28, 2014, at 14:03:47
In reply to Re: Sorry Dr. Bob, posted by Dr. Bob on June 26, 2014, at 0:00:06
If it makes you feel any better, you have met or exceeded my expectations for most of 2014.
I've always thought lower expectations were the key to happiness. But I don't really see the benefits of lowering my standards. What would be in it for me?
Posted by Dr. Bob on June 28, 2014, at 22:50:37
In reply to Re: Sorry Dr. Bob, posted by Dinah on June 28, 2014, at 14:03:47
> I am sure you would. I regret to inform you that I don't believe it is possible for me to comply with your preference.
It might or might not be possible, and if it were, your preference might be not to. Which I would accept.
> If it makes you feel any better, you have met or exceeded my expectations for most of 2014.
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> I've always thought lower expectations were the key to happiness. But I don't really see the benefits of lowering my standards. What would be in it for me?I think the key sometimes is lower, but not too low. During the part of 2014 that I met or exceeded your expectations, were you more happy with me, or at least less unhappy with me?
Bob
Posted by Dinah on June 29, 2014, at 6:43:35
In reply to Re: expectations » Dinah, posted by Dr. Bob on June 28, 2014, at 22:50:37
During the period of lowered expectations, I was more detached and my level of interest in your actions was low. Therefore I felt little pain or dismay at your actions. I don't know how that translates as a response to your question.
Posted by Dr. Bob on June 29, 2014, at 23:38:21
In reply to Re: expectations » Dr. Bob, posted by Dinah on June 29, 2014, at 6:43:35
> > > I've always thought lower expectations were the key to happiness. But I don't really see the benefits of lowering my standards. What would be in it for me?
> During the period of lowered expectations, I was more detached and my level of interest in your actions was low. Therefore I felt little pain or dismay at your actions. I don't know how that translates as a response to your question.
OK, lowered expectations were correlated with little pain and dismay. So what may be in it for you is a lower degree of pain and dismay.
Bob
Posted by Dinah on June 30, 2014, at 6:06:43
In reply to Re: expectations, posted by Dr. Bob on June 29, 2014, at 23:38:21
But that's lowered *expectations*. I knew the value in those.
It in lowered *standards* that I didn't see the value. You said you would prefer I have lower *standards*.
Posted by 10derheart on June 30, 2014, at 11:43:18
In reply to Re: expectations » Dr. Bob, posted by Dinah on June 30, 2014, at 6:06:43
That's what I was thinking. Those two words have vastly different meanings for me. I hope Dr. Bob sees the important difference.
I want to emulate you both in lowering one and raising and/or holding much more firmly to the other. I do well everywhere in life except here.
<sigh>
Posted by alexandra_k on July 1, 2014, at 21:01:55
In reply to Re: expectations » Dr. Bob, posted by Dinah on June 30, 2014, at 6:06:43
> But that's lowered *expectations*. I knew the value in those.
>
> It in lowered *standards* that I didn't see the value. You said you would prefer I have lower *standards*.if you lower your standards them maybe you can feel happy when bob exceeds them :)
Posted by Dr. Bob on July 2, 2014, at 1:59:38
In reply to Re: expectations » Dr. Bob, posted by Dinah on June 30, 2014, at 6:06:43
> But that's lowered *expectations*. I knew the value in those.
>
> It in lowered *standards* that I didn't see the value. You said you would prefer I have lower *standards*.Sorry, I missed that. Wouldn't it be similar? What may be in it for you is less pain and dismay. At me when my actions don't meet your standards, and at yourself when yours don't.
Bob
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