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Re: tweet / facebook options

Posted by Dr. Bob on October 27, 2009, at 4:59:06

In reply to Now I am confused » Dr. Bob, posted by 10derHeart on October 26, 2009, at 15:17:09

Hi, everyone,

Sorry about surprising so many of you like this!

Anxiety is a natural response to change, and I think the reaction here is in part a sign of cohesiveness and a desire to protect this community from disruption. Like you, however, Facebook and Twitter users are real people who can benefit from support and education. Sharing and tweeting might lead them to the many thoughtful and intelligent posts here, and then they might join Babble and contribute new perspectives and energy. I think good can come of this -- for current posters, for new posters, and for this community as a whole. I'd like to ask you to try to be open to that possibility.

As several of you have mentioned, posts here have always been public and available for sharing, including on Facebook and Twitter when they came along. A dialectic of this community is that it is public, yet can feel private. Maybe another way the new buttons can help is as reminders of the public aspect.

I understand that because of the private aspect, some of you may feel exposed and vulnerable. Posts can, however, be personal without identifying you. It's up to you not to post identifying information.

Still, what you post may conceivably be used against you. As in 10der's hypothetical example. But all use of Facebook and Twitter is subject to their terms of service:

http://www.facebook.com/terms.php
http://twitter.com/tos

I added a link to the "do not share/tweet" list so people can take into account the preferences of posters. And posters can continue to make their preferences known. I assume those who don't want me tweeting their posts don't want others doing so, either. If that's not the case, they can clarify that there.

By default, sharing/tweeting includes the subject line and the URL of the post. In the case of Facebook, it also includes the beginning of the post (the same "preview", which excludes quoted text, that you get when you mouse over a link to it here). In both cases, people can edit before they submit.

Yes, babblemail remains private.

Yes, if you become a fan of Psycho-Babble on Facebook or follow @psycho_babel on Twitter, your Facebook or Twitter account links you to Babble. But that doesn't mean you're necessarily a Babbler, and if you are a Babbler, it doesn't identify which Babbler you are. And using the share/tweet buttons doesn't automatically make you a Facebook fan or a Twitter follower.

I don't think it would necessarily be sick, twisted, outrageous, or demeaning to share/tweet a post about suicidality or rape or abuse. People post in the first place because they're looking for support or information, and they're more likely to find it if more people see their post.

Bob

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> And how does this work? If a post contains a history of several posts, can someone's writing end up where they don't want it just by virtue of being buried in another post?
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> emme

> I am unhappy and angry about this. I really get a lot of support from this community. Dr. Bob promised--promised--this would not happen earlier this year w/ the no tweet list. This new system seems crazy. Sharing one's own post is one thing. Frankly, I find this situation open to abuse and leaving anyone vulnerable. ... Certainly I will babblemail henceforth unless there is a change in policy. I assume babblemail privacy has remained unchanged. Does anyone know if this is correct?
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> fb

> I also think there should be a warning that tweeting or linking to your real life twitter or facebook accounts links babble to your real self.
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> Dinah

> discussions that should be private, helpful information (including this post) [are] splattered all over Google FOREVER
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> yxibow

> While I realize anyone can cut and past what we've wrote and put it on their facebook account, I think its intrusive to encourage people to do this - its encouraging by the ease of clicking that button, plus it may be make it tempting just for it being there.
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> There are people discussing their suicidal feelings on this site. It seems sick and twisted to have facebook and twitter icons at the bottom of their posts, along with many others....
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> psych chat

> the web is a public place. I suppose as far as the linking goes, people could always do that. Nothing I know of prevents anyone from placing a linked URL to anything on Babble on any other web page, to include Facebook and Twitter. Any URL can be copied and pasted in a couple seconds...many of us probably do it all the time in passing on info we've like someone else to read.... Not that I do it with someone's individual post here, but that's more of an ethical thing for me personally. Babble and all its posts are public, non-restricted, and have been all along. The little buttons just perhaps make it easier, more convenient, for someone to create the link??
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> 10derHeart

> This has changed things for me. I realize that what we write here is available for the galaxy to read and that links can be posted on other web pages, but a direct pipeline to facebook and twitter makes me very uncomfortable.
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> emme

> I would have hoped that there would have been some advanced notice/discussion of this prior its implementation. This linking just makes it more likely that someone could discover our real identities, and we should have been made aware of increased likelihood of that adverse event.
>
> I also wish that the ability to link would show up only on posts that I wrote. Something just feels very amiss now that anyone, and not just Dr. Bob could tweet my posts. By posting, I freely gave permssion to Dr. Bob to use my posts, I did not specifically give any one else that permission.
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> I am aware that the internet is free game, and anyone can do anything with what I write, but this is giving the immediate tools to do so.
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> Surely Dr. Bob would not consider allowing other posters to share people's posts on a rape crisis board, or a sexual abuse board. It would be outrageous and demeaning. Sometimes that level of intimacy is reached on the psych board.
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> Seldom

> If I say, disliked Poster ABC intensely, was tired of them and wanted to paint them in the worst light, embarrass them or bully them, couldn't I collect up their posts fairly quickly and easily and list them en masse, on say, my Facebook page (don't have one, but this is hypothetical), with accompanying derisive commentary, AND if I were so inclined, might I not be MORE encouraged seeing they'd asked YOU not to Twitter, etc., their posts? Might I not kinda LIKE that, even? Would I give a damn if I were that type of person??
>
> 10derHeart

 

So why are the buttons disabled? (nm) » Dr. Bob

Posted by 10derHeart on October 27, 2009, at 5:09:12

In reply to Re: tweet / facebook options, posted by Dr. Bob on October 27, 2009, at 4:59:06

 

Re: So why are the buttons disabled? » 10derHeart

Posted by Deneb on October 27, 2009, at 5:29:03

In reply to So why are the buttons disabled? (nm) » Dr. Bob, posted by 10derHeart on October 27, 2009, at 5:09:12

They're not disabled for me.

 

Re: tweet / facebook options » Dr. Bob

Posted by Dinah on October 27, 2009, at 6:05:40

In reply to Re: tweet / facebook options, posted by Dr. Bob on October 27, 2009, at 4:59:06

> It's up to you not to post identifying information.

Unfortunately, it's only up to me in the future to choose what to post in terms of this understanding of Babble. I can't choose what to post in the past. In the past I posted with a level of vulnerability that was commensurate with my comfort with the risk involved. Now you've changed the level of risk, but I can't change the level of vulnerability in what I've already posted.

I understand that you are determined to do this. But I am asking that you respect your current posters enough to apply this only to new posts, so that posters can choose what to post under these conditions. Or else to allow people to remove prior posts.

I know you think you've explained your reasoning, but I certainly don't understand it. Why do you see people choosing to tweet someone else's post? Would they be tweeting it to their friends and coworkers? Will they understand the risk to that? You currently have people actively consent to be your twitter friend or facebook friend because you acknowledge that it could lead others in their lives to Babble and that there could be consequences. Are you warning them about that each time they tweet? What would be the difference that you considered informed consent necessary in one and not in the other?

Who do you see tweeting these posts? Given the inherent risk involved, why would those searching for answers, as we were, tweet anyone's posts? Even their own? Presumably most of us came here for privacy and anonymity. Perhaps we do wish to protect ourselves from those who might take our innermost thoughts and feelings and tweet them to whoever will listen. You haven't shared all that much here. You haven't made yourself vulnerable. So please don't in any way presume to understand to guess how we feel. Maybe you could ask.

Even in this, I notice the vulnerability is all on our side. You haven't said why you are doing this, or explained how you think it will work. Your thoughts and feelings are still private. Ours aren't.

You didn't answer my question. Does this have anything to do with the proposal that is in, on using social media to build an online community? If so, oughtn't you use social media to build a *new* online community? What is the nature of this proposal? I'm sure, since this information is already on the web on your Twitter page, that you won't mind if it is brought here to babble. If this is to be a paper given, perhaps babblers would appreciate a chance to speak and let the hearers know how it feels to be on this end.

I can't believe, it sickens me to think of it, that Twitter and Facebook would accept "contributions" from babble under these conditions. I would not think very kindly of anyone who was careless enough of my vulnerability to tweet or link on facebook anything I've written here, without first asking. Nor of someone who would edit my previous posts to include an icon that says tweet this post, or link this post to facebook.

I can add that request to every single post I write from now on. Can I please edit every single post I've written in the past to include that information right above the twitter icons you've edited those previous posts to include? Icons, that being present on my previous posts, leave the impression that they were there when I posted them.

Also, by linking to Twitter and Facebook terms of service, are you implying that you bear no responsibility for use of our posts through buttons you edited our posts to contain? I don't know whether you have legal responsibility, but in providing those buttons you have, in my opinion, made yourself morally responsible for their use.

{I request that no one tweet or link any of my posts without asking me first.}

 

Re: tweet / facebook options » Dr. Bob

Posted by Dinah on October 27, 2009, at 6:10:26

In reply to Re: tweet / facebook options, posted by Dr. Bob on October 27, 2009, at 4:59:06

So the sum total of your adjustments is to add another icon linking to a thread of people who don't want their intimate thoughts exploited in this manner?

Without even a "Here is a list of people who prefer not to have their posts exploited by clicking one of the other two buttons."

{I request that no one tweet or link any of my posts without asking me first.}

 

Or...

Posted by Dinah on October 27, 2009, at 6:23:26

In reply to Re: tweet / facebook options » Dr. Bob, posted by Dinah on October 27, 2009, at 6:10:26

Why not include above those icons:

Please ask the original poster if they mind before using these buttons. If they don't respond in a week, you can go ahead and use them. Using them without asking first will be considered a privacy violation subject to Babble civility guidelines.

 

Re: tweet / facebook options » Dr. Bob

Posted by Deneb on October 27, 2009, at 6:24:19

In reply to Re: tweet / facebook options, posted by Dr. Bob on October 27, 2009, at 4:59:06

Dr. Bob,

I'm going to add "Tweet Me!" to some of my more interesting and informative posts. I want to be read by more people. Maybe I should link to my Twitter account too. I want more followers! I only have 6! I'm not popular enough!

 

Re: Or...

Posted by Deneb on October 27, 2009, at 6:28:43

In reply to Or..., posted by Dinah on October 27, 2009, at 6:23:26

Hey Dinah,

That sounds like a good idea except that anyone who has an Internet connection can Tweet or Facebook any our our posts without being a member of Babble and therefore will have no means of communicating with you.

 

Re: Or...

Posted by Dinah on October 27, 2009, at 6:30:02

In reply to Re: Or..., posted by Deneb on October 27, 2009, at 6:28:43

Which they can now.

But without being invited to by Dr. Bob in such a way that it appears that I approved this when I originally posted.

I am asking Dr. Bob to modify his invitation.

 

Re: tweet / facebook options

Posted by Dinah on October 27, 2009, at 6:33:14

In reply to Re: tweet / facebook options » Dr. Bob, posted by Deneb on October 27, 2009, at 6:24:19

It might be polite of you not to do that on any posts where you quote others, unless they also wish to be tweeted.

 

Really? that is weird-mine changed tonight (nm) » Deneb

Posted by 10derHeart on October 27, 2009, at 6:34:51

In reply to Re: So why are the buttons disabled? » 10derHeart, posted by Deneb on October 27, 2009, at 5:29:03

 

Re: tweet / facebook options » Dinah

Posted by Deneb on October 27, 2009, at 6:36:49

In reply to Re: tweet / facebook options, posted by Dinah on October 27, 2009, at 6:33:14

No problem Dinah. I won't put Tweet Me on any post where I'm quoting others.

 

Re: Really? that is weird-mine changed tonight

Posted by Dinah on October 27, 2009, at 6:36:59

In reply to Really? that is weird-mine changed tonight (nm) » Deneb, posted by 10derHeart on October 27, 2009, at 6:34:51

They flicker in and out. And are misaligned. Dr. Bob probably did it quickly.

 

Re: Really? that is weird-mine changed tonight » Dinah

Posted by 10derHeart on October 27, 2009, at 6:43:40

In reply to Re: Really? that is weird-mine changed tonight, posted by Dinah on October 27, 2009, at 6:36:59

Yes, I know, but even after I play with the mouse, and they 'light up' they now do not work and are not clickable for me at all.


When they wouldn't click, I was hopeful that...well, you know, but Deneb's apparently work.

But now I am just so disgusted that I want to _______ and _____ and ________.

Becasue it's really clear __ _______ is truly __ ___.

 

Re: Really? that is weird-mine changed tonight » 10derHeart

Posted by Dinah on October 27, 2009, at 7:11:36

In reply to Re: Really? that is weird-mine changed tonight » Dinah, posted by 10derHeart on October 27, 2009, at 6:43:40

Oh, I had no hope that he'd decide not to do this.

But I did hope he'd be respectful enough to mitigate his invitation and facilitation.

That hope is rapidly dwindling.

 

Re: tweet / facebook options » Dinah

Posted by psych chat on October 27, 2009, at 8:32:03

In reply to Re: tweet / facebook options » Dr. Bob, posted by Dinah on October 27, 2009, at 6:05:40

> > It's up to you not to post identifying information.
>
> Unfortunately, it's only up to me in the future to choose what to post in terms of this understanding of Babble. I can't choose what to post in the past. In the past I posted with a level of vulnerability that was commensurate with my comfort with the risk involved. Now you've changed the level of risk, but I can't change the level of vulnerability in what I've already posted.
>
> I understand that you are determined to do this. But I am asking that you respect your current posters enough to apply this only to new posts, so that posters can choose what to post under these conditions. Or else to allow people to remove prior posts.
>
> I know you think you've explained your reasoning, but I certainly don't understand it. Why do you see people choosing to tweet someone else's post? Would they be tweeting it to their friends and coworkers? Will they understand the risk to that? You currently have people actively consent to be your twitter friend or facebook friend because you acknowledge that it could lead others in their lives to Babble and that there could be consequences. Are you warning them about that each time they tweet? What would be the difference that you considered informed consent necessary in one and not in the other?
>
> Who do you see tweeting these posts? Given the inherent risk involved, why would those searching for answers, as we were, tweet anyone's posts? Even their own? Presumably most of us came here for privacy and anonymity. Perhaps we do wish to protect ourselves from those who might take our innermost thoughts and feelings and tweet them to whoever will listen. You haven't shared all that much here. You haven't made yourself vulnerable. So please don't in any way presume to understand to guess how we feel. Maybe you could ask.
>
> Even in this, I notice the vulnerability is all on our side. You haven't said why you are doing this, or explained how you think it will work. Your thoughts and feelings are still private. Ours aren't.
>
> You didn't answer my question. Does this have anything to do with the proposal that is in, on using social media to build an online community? If so, oughtn't you use social media to build a *new* online community? What is the nature of this proposal? I'm sure, since this information is already on the web on your Twitter page, that you won't mind if it is brought here to babble. If this is to be a paper given, perhaps babblers would appreciate a chance to speak and let the hearers know how it feels to be on this end.
>
> I can't believe, it sickens me to think of it, that Twitter and Facebook would accept "contributions" from babble under these conditions. I would not think very kindly of anyone who was careless enough of my vulnerability to tweet or link on facebook anything I've written here, without first asking. Nor of someone who would edit my previous posts to include an icon that says tweet this post, or link this post to facebook.
>
> I can add that request to every single post I write from now on. Can I please edit every single post I've written in the past to include that information right above the twitter icons you've edited those previous posts to include? Icons, that being present on my previous posts, leave the impression that they were there when I posted them.
>
> Also, by linking to Twitter and Facebook terms of service, are you implying that you bear no responsibility for use of our posts through buttons you edited our posts to contain? I don't know whether you have legal responsibility, but in providing those buttons you have, in my opinion, made yourself morally responsible for their use.
>
> {I request that no one tweet or link any of my posts without asking me first.}
>

I feel the same way.

 

Re: tweet / facebook options » Dr. Bob

Posted by psych chat on October 27, 2009, at 8:47:11

In reply to Re: tweet / facebook options, posted by Dr. Bob on October 27, 2009, at 4:59:06

I don't think it would necessarily be sick, twisted, outrageous, or demeaning to share/tweet a post about suicidality or rape or abuse. People post in the first place because they're looking for support or information, and they're more likely to find it if more people see their post.

Bob

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Well I think if a victim put a huge banner on the front of their house "I was raped" or "I want to kill myself"- they are more likely to find more support...but people don't do that Bob. And the people those sought support from should not do that either, because it would be considered out of line.

If a person was suffering and sought help from another after being raped/sexually abused, and the person they sought help from went and told a bunch of people that person was raped -it WOULD be considered socially unacceptable and sick or twisted.

I believe you are wrong. ***I think people just want social mores to apply here like they do outside of here. I believe your assertion that people are feeling anxiety because of change is nowhere even close to the truth.

I don't even think this is a matter of opinion. Just observe reality, how our culture functions.

 

Re: tweet / facebook options » psych chat

Posted by Dinah on October 27, 2009, at 9:21:04

In reply to Re: tweet / facebook options » Dr. Bob, posted by psych chat on October 27, 2009, at 8:47:11

Thank you. I was trying to figure out how to respond to that comment from Dr. Bob, and you did it much better than I could have.

 

Re: tweet / facebook options » Dr. Bob

Posted by seldomseen on October 27, 2009, at 10:29:37

In reply to Re: tweet / facebook options, posted by Dr. Bob on October 27, 2009, at 4:59:06

Dr. Bob,

Thank you for your response to our concerns.

I suppose you and I could argue all day about what constitutes increased risk of identity disclosure by deduction. I maintain that there is increased risk here. However, one could also argue, that via our posts, that the increased risk to participants has been disclosed. So in my mind, that is resolved.

I absolutely agree with you that there is a lot of wisdom on babble and would further add that it is worth sharing, which is why I did not opt out of letting *you* tweet anything you may have found of value in any of my posts.

I know that you realize that beyond babble and behind each and every post, there is a person - not just a posting name.

I just have to hope that others will realize the same.

Then again, I guess that hope has always been there. This is the internet. Every post I make becomes a part of it - searchable, linkable and exploitable by all comers.

In my opinion, ultimately all that has been shattered here is an illusion of privacy - expedited by the presence of two little buttons at the bottom of each post. It's almost funny.

I guess I'm grieving the loss of that illusion.

It's hard to know if that loss will end up changing my posting habits. Ironically, as of right now, I'm posting more, but sadly sharing less. I can't say if that will be the case in the future.

Seldom.


 

Re: tweet / facebook options » psych chat

Posted by floatingbridge on October 27, 2009, at 11:09:59

In reply to Re: tweet / facebook options » Dr. Bob, posted by psych chat on October 27, 2009, at 8:47:11

Yes, ditto, psyh chat.

> Well I think if a victim put a huge banner on the front of their house "I was raped" or "I want to kill myself"- they are more likely to find more support...but people don't do that Bob. And the people those sought support from should not do that either, because it would be considered out of line.
>
> If a person was suffering and sought help from another after being raped/sexually abused, and the person they sought help from went and told a bunch of people that person was raped -it WOULD be considered socially unacceptable and sick or twisted.
>
> I believe you are wrong. ***I think people just want social mores to apply here like they do outside of here. I believe your assertion that people are feeling anxiety because of change is nowhere even close to the truth.
>
> I don't even think this is a matter of opinion. Just observe reality, how our culture functions.

 

One more option, please?

Posted by floatingbridge on October 27, 2009, at 11:34:31

In reply to Re: I still don't understand » floatingbridge, posted by Phillipa on October 26, 2009, at 20:47:12

Hi, all. I still don't feel that the heart of my (some of our?) concern is yet being addressed.

Why not place a nice big icon for sharing on the Babble Welcome page? I would not feel my promise not to be twittered was violated, because I would not feel singled out. Maybe share icons at the top of the board pages, too. (Though I do feel the psych board is unique in the on-going personal nature of some of the sharing.) After all, this is not a blog where the writers unanimously agree to share any section of their blog, and by doing so increase readership and popularity (and advertising $) by getting more 'hits'.

Case in point, our fellow babbler in distress last night. Not everyone would be interested in this situation in the same way. Everyone here has heard of rubbernecking at an accident. The way the Babble community responded was compassion in action.

Please do not compromise the trust that has been built over the years. Yes, change is uncomfortable. We all know that. Change with some consent, with sensitivity to community input and needs is ideal and makes a stronger community. This, in turn, will attract more members--members with the best intentions, like the ones we saw in swift action last night.

I feel I am only asking for a certain level of civility and respect.

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Re: please be civil » Dr. Bob

Posted by rskontos on October 27, 2009, at 12:34:34

In reply to Re: please be civil » rskontos, posted by Dr. Bob on October 27, 2009, at 3:51:19

Dr Bob, I would also like you to be civil. I found that you made a significant change without letting us know. If you were going to do this, you could have found a way to let only new stuff be posted but this goes all the way back to our archives posts. Posts which a huge majority of this website said no too posting on Twitter or Facebook. I feel betrayed by you, therefore the conclusion I concluded after I asked you to honor no Twittering or Facebook sharing is to find that now a simply button places any post anytime by anyone , how else can I feel about what you have done.

I have things posted here that i havent' shared with my p-doc and therapists nor family so how would I want it all shared on two public forums that is not directly involved with trying to support mental health like Babble is suppose to. I wasn't uncivil I reacted as someone who felt betrayed. And your response is to just say don't put anyone down meaning you. How about how you made me feel. Did you address it. I emailed you prior to posting but you, Dr. Bob have upset me in a way that no one has in a long while. I feelthat as a professional md who specializes in mental health your changes are not to be made lightly but you often act in a way that without knowing what is in your head or heart we are left to feel powerless. That is a dangerous emotion in most people but those that joined this site to find support, I feel you must think more carefully than the creators of Twitter or Facebook. I went looking on Twitter for your site and I came across just in the search engine people calling each other vulgar language, it is obvious there is no civility guidelines for that site and yet you(Dr. Bob), who takes your own civility guidelines quite seriously ask us to be open about our words and our own issues just being posted there without our knowledge and on sites that civility is not a concern. I can't understand this. I feel betrayed and now with your response of giving me my PBC which is only directed at your actions, I see you haven't really heard me.

So again, I don't need links to how to be civil, I need open information about why you took the actions you took. Because ultimately Dr. Bob I reacted to you and you gave me a form letter to protest my response to your actions. My post only led to you feeling put down, because I said Dr. Bob and he. I know that all the others posters here know who I am talking about, how are you going to response so I don't feel put down now for a PBC.

Are you, Dr. Bob, concerned at all about how we feel?
I guess it is just time to find another support system. Babble's time for me has run out.

So can you honor my request to have all my posts to stay within the confines of Babble and not on Twitter or Facebook. I can see that I am no longer welcomed here by you, Dr Bob, or you would have answered me, not PBC'd me.

Goodbye, I will continue checking to make sure my posts stay where they need to. And check your records, I know what is civil and not, I haven't been PBC'd in three years time. So I don't need an education I need real responses from you. But I did not get them. I got patted on the head instead.

Good luck with Babble Dr Bob, I think it might be a sinking ship.


rsk

 

Re: One more option, please? » floatingbridge

Posted by rskontos on October 27, 2009, at 12:46:44

In reply to One more option, please?, posted by floatingbridge on October 27, 2009, at 11:34:31

FB,
You are right. I find that we all signed a statement of consent when we joined but not to the current changes initiated. Dr Bob needs to get a new consent from each of us if he changes the means of this forum to interact with two other forums that aren't the same in terms of mental health versus social function. Facebook and even more so, Twitter have absolutely no civility guidelines. I found so much foul language without * going on within Twitter that I have no reason to want to join it. Dr Bob hangs onto his guidelines quite stringently and so how can he ask us to be ok with this exchange without a rejoining of Babble participants with a new consent to all of this or the option of dropping out entirely with all that person's posts dropping out with them. This is a fair question. And I don't think it is fair of Dr Bob to say is this because you have anxiety issues coming up, it implies that you are mental health issue person and your concerns are not valid. That is what I get when dr Bob posed that question. No it is not anxiety Dr Bob it is a change in our implied consent without any input. This has nothing to do with each other. It is only that Twitter and Facebook I could choose to join and place anything I ever posted on Babble there, but I don't for reasons that I feel are obvious. I felt bullied when you, Dr Bob, implied it was anxiety on my part that isn't warranted. Is this what you are implying that I am anxious only because I have health issues?

Please answer that.

rsk

 

Re: tweet / facebook options

Posted by Nadezda on October 27, 2009, at 14:12:03

In reply to Re: tweet / facebook options » psych chat, posted by floatingbridge on October 27, 2009, at 11:09:59

One thing that saddens me is the extent to which people here are unconsciously showing such possibly hurtful attitudes about the 'rest of the world"-- as if we --and "they"--as human beings didn't share a lot of the same pain, and as if these "other" people were likely to be rubberneckers, voyeurs, somehow not worthy of being aware of our thoughts, or part of "our" community.

We all share even a distrust and anxiety about others-- but I hope that we all can find it in ourselves to remember that we share with these others a lot of the same human experiences, hopes, fears, and losses.

. Bob isn't suggesting that anyone's most private revelations be pasted on their housefront. Who here thinks that we are going to do that to one another? And why is it that we can't feel that this unknown "they" really are "us"--rather than people somehow unable to receive what we have to offer in the spirit in which it was given?

Nadezda

 

re: another option please » Nadezda

Posted by floatingbridge on October 27, 2009, at 14:30:10

In reply to Re: tweet / facebook options, posted by Nadezda on October 27, 2009, at 14:12:03

Oh dear, Nadezda, I am the one that brought up rubberneckers. Yes, I do not trust 'everyone' w/ the same information. I am sorry that you read into my comments that I've divided the world into 'us' and 'them'. That was not my intentions, and I can see how exegesis lead you to that. As I question myself now as I write, I find that I do not believe the world is divided as such. However, as a person w/ my own experiences, I have learned how to take care of myself in a world that can be, at times, quite insensitive.

As a person who has had to learn allot about intimacy and sharing, I have found, for myself, that somethings are best not shared with everyone the same way or with the same intensity. One aspect of babble that I like and haven't found anywhere else to date online is the amount of care and trustworthiness of the posters. I am concerned that that may become eroded by the plan as is. I don't see any reason why a discussion about modifying the plan to suit some people's comfort levels (and to honor past agreements) might be objectionable or need become contentious.

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