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Posted by wildcard on August 9, 2005, at 9:54:01
In reply to Re: Dr. Bob/ hey NIck, posted by wildcard on August 9, 2005, at 9:50:07
Hey Dr.Bob-if u have received my email then the thread above is another example. Thanx again.
Posted by Dinah on August 9, 2005, at 10:48:55
In reply to Ending the Cycle. » gabbi, posted by Nickengland on August 9, 2005, at 8:29:03
I saw the conciliation in your post, Nick.
I'm sure we can assume that you meant deep down within yourself you know that Gabbi is a wonderful person.
Or that her surface wonderfulness is so obvious to all (as indeed it is) that you are just affirming that that surface wonderfulness is also bone deep and not a bit superficial.
Which as a long time friend of Gabbi's, I can attest that it is. I've never met anyone so able to be compassionate, certainly not myself.
We all say things that come out in a way we never intended. In fact there was another case of that, which we have luckily convinced Gabbi was not at all worth blocking herself for, since it was inadvertant and she apologized when she realized the timing made it sound differently than she had intended.
I think that ending the cycle includes accepting the possibility that well meaning people can have misunderstandings, and that they can be repaired. Not always with more words, since if you're anything like me you might find yourself getting in deeper and deeper with every word spoken. :)
Shall we call this entire last few days a series of misunderstandings that everyone regrets and move on from there?
That's not directed at you specifically, Nick. It's just a rhetorical sort of suggestion.
Posted by crushedout on August 9, 2005, at 11:01:39
In reply to Re: Ending the Cycle. » Nickengland, posted by Dinah on August 9, 2005, at 10:48:55
And you are a talented mediator.
Posted by wildcard on August 9, 2005, at 11:29:08
In reply to Re: Ending the Cycle. » Nickengland, posted by Dinah on August 9, 2005, at 10:48:55
Yes Dinah, it is time to put all of this behind us. The way you approach it does not sound *challenging* and i think it will be much more effective than other approaches. To my knowledge Nick feels he cannot get his point out w/o offending someone and he doesn't want to do that. I can see his point as well as others and i hope this ends. It takes more effort to argue back and forth than to get along or be civil.
Posted by Nickengland on August 9, 2005, at 12:25:50
In reply to Re: Ending the Cycle. » Nickengland, posted by Dinah on August 9, 2005, at 10:48:55
Thanks Dinah, I cannot express how much I appreciate those kinds words...so very comforting and gently expressed...
I'm feeling quite depressed, I really don't know what has come over me the past few days. I've been up and down (I'm bipolar) but now I seemed to have leveled off, just in a depressive state. It was round about this time last year I got ill. Speaking of cycles, I really don't know if thats got anything to do with it. I'm coping though.
Thanks once again, I might try, when my moods seems to have settled down, to try and produce some creative writing - on the writing board.
Best Wishes
Nick
Posted by wildcard on August 9, 2005, at 12:46:54
In reply to Re: Ending the Cycle. » Dinah, posted by Nickengland on August 9, 2005, at 12:25:50
Awww Nick-why didnt u tell me? that's what friends are for! i have my ups and downs too and may need u sometime. i'm here if u need anything-a shoulder to lean on or just an ear. i know it's even harder w/ all going on over there but please know that u have me ok? Luv u :)
Posted by AuntieMel on August 9, 2005, at 13:32:54
In reply to Re: Ending the Cycle. » Dinah, posted by Nickengland on August 9, 2005, at 12:25:50
This american knew what you were saying.
Posted by gabbi on August 9, 2005, at 13:37:22
In reply to Ending the Cycle. » gabbi, posted by Nickengland on August 9, 2005, at 8:29:03
> >I think inferring from that, that I don't take human tragedy seriously, even when it isn't close to home, (when in fact it leaves me more shaken than others I know) well.. it was quite a stretch, and it was wrong.
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> You think inferring.....and it (me) was wrong.
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> Someone looks at the news, sees something political and views their opinon as sometimes saying,
> "hey, I think thats wrong"
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> Another person comes along, see the exact same thing as the previous person, as views their opinon, and says "hey, I think thats right"Yes, but this is *me* and you made an inference about me, and it wasn't right. That's the only wrong I was referring too. If I said "Nick, I think you like to hurt people" you could say I was wrong, after all you know you.
> How to break a cycle?
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> Gabbi, I think...I love you..
aww, okay, just remember it might not work with ALL the girls. : )
Posted by gabbi on August 9, 2005, at 13:40:30
In reply to Re: If it makes a difference » Nickengland, posted by AuntieMel on August 9, 2005, at 13:32:54
Thank you so much, sometimes it's impossible to have any credibilty defending oneself, about something so personal.
You're the best..
(once again, you've left me speecheless.)
Posted by crushedout on August 9, 2005, at 13:45:17
In reply to Re: If it makes a difference » Nickengland, posted by AuntieMel on August 9, 2005, at 13:32:54
I've just always seen "deep down" used as what they call a "backhanded compliment" so I understood it as such. But I will take Nick at his word that he didn't mean it that way.
Posted by crushedout on August 9, 2005, at 13:46:22
In reply to Thank you Dinah, posted by gabbi on August 9, 2005, at 13:40:30
i know, isn't she just amazing?
Posted by crushedout on August 9, 2005, at 13:46:54
In reply to Re: Thank you Dinah » gabbi, posted by crushedout on August 9, 2005, at 13:46:22
our daily dinah fan club meeting!
Posted by wildcard on August 9, 2005, at 13:47:19
In reply to Re: If it makes a difference » Nickengland, posted by AuntieMel on August 9, 2005, at 13:32:54
i wanna say thank you. it will help his spirits!
Posted by gabbi on August 9, 2005, at 13:52:38
In reply to i think it's time for...., posted by crushedout on August 9, 2005, at 13:46:54
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> our daily dinah fan club meeting!
>
>
Yes, originally I took the comment the same way you did.. but Dinah to the rescue.I love you Dinah.
And Crushed..
Marry me?
Posted by crushedout on August 9, 2005, at 14:03:19
In reply to Re: i think it's time for.... » crushedout, posted by gabbi on August 9, 2005, at 13:52:38
where's my ring?
Posted by Nickengland on August 9, 2005, at 14:05:52
In reply to Re: If it makes a difference » Nickengland, posted by AuntieMel on August 9, 2005, at 13:32:54
Posted by Nickengland on August 9, 2005, at 14:08:56
In reply to Re: Ending the Cycle., posted by gabbi on August 9, 2005, at 13:37:22
>aww, okay, just remember it might not work with ALL the girls. : )
: )
Posted by Nickengland on August 9, 2005, at 14:11:11
In reply to Re: Ending the Cycle., posted by Nickengland on August 9, 2005, at 14:08:56
Posted by 10derHeart on August 9, 2005, at 15:15:41
In reply to Re: i think it's time for.... » gabbi, posted by crushedout on August 9, 2005, at 14:03:19
Posted by crushedout on August 9, 2005, at 15:17:15
In reply to Beware redirection...you two *lovebirds* ;-) (nm) » crushedout, posted by 10derHeart on August 9, 2005, at 15:15:41
ooh gabbi, maybe 10der can be our mommy!
Posted by gabbi on August 9, 2005, at 15:25:30
In reply to Re: Ending the Cycle., posted by Nickengland on August 9, 2005, at 14:08:56
Posted by gabbi on August 9, 2005, at 15:50:56
In reply to Re: i think it's time for.... » gabbi, posted by crushedout on August 9, 2005, at 14:03:19
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> where's my ring?Ohhhh *now* you get traditional?
Posted by gabbi on August 9, 2005, at 15:56:58
In reply to Beware redirection...you two *lovebirds* ;-) (nm) » crushedout, posted by 10derHeart on August 9, 2005, at 15:15:41
Really, if we keep this up D.B's gonna tell us to go to hell..
Posted by Dr. Bob on August 10, 2005, at 4:42:07
In reply to Re: Beware redirection...you two *lovebirds* ;-) » 10derHeart, posted by gabbi on August 9, 2005, at 15:56:58
Posted by Dinah on August 10, 2005, at 16:30:30
In reply to Re: Ending the Cycle. » Dinah, posted by Nickengland on August 9, 2005, at 12:25:50
Well, I hope to see you on the other boards too. :)
I understand cycles. I think I had a minor crash just from sleep disturbances.
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