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Posted by linkadge on June 23, 2006, at 19:10:40
I hate being in a state of "want". I just "want" to be satisfied. Has anyone found anything medication or otherwise, that has helped constant wanting.
I know it may sound trivial, but its painfull to always be wanting what you can't have.
Linkadge
Posted by maddy4 on June 23, 2006, at 20:36:45
In reply to I want to want less., posted by linkadge on June 23, 2006, at 19:10:40
my 'husband' (separated and prob. headed for the big D) just said the same thing to me - hes not on meds but in recovery (alcohol) he wants more of everything always. dont know - i think its more of a guy ting maybe. sex drive and money drive - caveman thing - provider - success - etc. just focus on what you do have. easier said than done.
Posted by maddy4 on June 23, 2006, at 20:44:22
In reply to Re: I want to want less., posted by maddy4 on June 23, 2006, at 20:36:45
> my 'husband' (separated and prob. headed for the big D) just said the same thing to me - hes not on meds but in recovery (alcohol) he wants more of everything always. dont know - i think its more of a guy ting maybe. sex drive and money drive - caveman thing - provider - success - etc. just focus on what you do have. easier said than done.
actually - rethinking it - its not just a guy thing but it rears its ugly head differently in females IMO. i want more - i want more wine - more bruschetta - more clothes - but not having those things does not make me feel bad abt myself. w/ my husband - i think less than all that he wants effects ego.
Posted by Phillipa on June 23, 2006, at 20:59:22
In reply to Re: I want to want less., posted by maddy4 on June 23, 2006, at 20:44:22
My needs are simple. I would like to feel good like I used to. To again work as a nurse. And have just enough money to be comfortable and a loving spouse. Love Phillipa
Posted by Meri-Tuuli on June 24, 2006, at 4:33:41
In reply to I want to want less., posted by linkadge on June 23, 2006, at 19:10:40
Hey Link.
Well, it depends on what you want I guess. If you want to have a roof over your head, and food and basic things like that, its probably no such bad thing. I mean, thats a basic human drive to make sure we live. If we didn't want to have food then we'd obviously die. If we didn't want to have sex (on a general level!), then there would be no procreation and homo sapiens would die out. You get the jist.
But if you want more, and then want more, ie are never satisfied, and have all the basic requirements for living, (house, job, food, etc etc) then thats probably more problematic. Because you'll end up unhappy I guess.
Well, you should maybe look into Buddist philosphies -- they are really great for things like that. And you don't have to be a buddist to do buddist things, like mediation, yoga type breathing exercises etc etc. Perhaps this would be good? They have ideas about material possessions but then, I don't know if you want material things or not. Well I see life as a journey -its not the destination, but the travelling. Like I used to think 'oh I'd be happy if I moved out of home' or 'if I had a good job/boyfriend/finished college' but when I got these things which I wanted, I wasn't happy. You just end up wanting a better job, better house, etc etc. I think one needs to be in the present moment more. And probably get some spirituality or something like that. I hope I'm making sense!
Yeah, I was abit skepical about buddism and things like that, but well, from what I've seen its pretty good. You know, its not the material possessions that make a person, its the person's charactor! Well I don't know anything about it really, but its good for 'fulfilling' yourself I believe. Plus all that mediation has to be good for you - aren't there studies that show when you mediate and practice things like T'ai Chi, you mend neurons or something like that? Oh I can't remember the details, just its supposed to be really good for people with mental disorders supposedly.
My mother always goes on about counting your blessings ie you have your intelligence, physical health, blah blah.... well its easy to say, but not so easy to do if you're depressogenic! Well its about seeing positives I guess.
Well anyway, I doubt there's medication for wanting less. Maybe something that zombifies you? like an SSRI???
Kind regards
Meri
Posted by fuchsia on June 24, 2006, at 9:23:37
In reply to I want to want less., posted by linkadge on June 23, 2006, at 19:10:40
Anything that makes you feel better could make the wanting feel less painful or less important.
When I feel crummy I think that my life has been ruined because I didn't get what I wanted.
Posted by bipolarspectrum on June 24, 2006, at 12:38:23
In reply to I want to want less., posted by linkadge on June 23, 2006, at 19:10:40
Link,
I recommend three letters to you: CBTIts proven to alter physiological function in the brain. You may even be able to do it without a therapist with one of the many self-help books around.
bps
> I hate being in a state of "want". I just "want" to be satisfied. Has anyone found anything medication or otherwise, that has helped constant wanting.
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> I know it may sound trivial, but its painfull to always be wanting what you can't have.
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> Linkadge
Posted by dave45 on June 24, 2006, at 20:43:20
In reply to Re: I want to want less. » maddy4, posted by Phillipa on June 23, 2006, at 20:59:22
funny, my problem is I don't really want anything. it would be nice to want something again.
Posted by Maxime on June 24, 2006, at 23:11:40
In reply to I want to want less., posted by linkadge on June 23, 2006, at 19:10:40
> I hate being in a state of "want". I just "want" to be satisfied. Has anyone found anything medication or otherwise, that has helped constant wanting.
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> I know it may sound trivial, but its painfull to always be wanting what you can't have.
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> Linkadge
Hi LinkAre you talking about material things, or more along the lines of wanting more friends, wanting to go more etc. Or even wanting to have complete remission from your depression.
Hugs, Maxie
Posted by linkadge on June 24, 2006, at 23:15:25
In reply to Re: I want to want less., posted by dave45 on June 24, 2006, at 20:43:20
Well at least you *want* to want :)
Linkadge
Posted by linkadge on June 24, 2006, at 23:19:25
In reply to Re: I want to want less. » linkadge, posted by Maxime on June 24, 2006, at 23:11:40
Its hard to explain.
I know there is plenty that I should be gratefull for, and mentally I am very greatfull, It just feels like life is behind a glass wall, and I can't have any of it.
Linkadge
Posted by Maxime on June 24, 2006, at 23:36:41
In reply to Re: I want to want less., posted by linkadge on June 24, 2006, at 23:19:25
That's a good way of putting it. The good this is that glass is breakable, so you can get those if you work hard at it.
Maxie
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Posted by Declan on June 25, 2006, at 12:45:32
In reply to Re: I want to want less., posted by linkadge on June 24, 2006, at 23:19:25
"Anyone can fill his life up with things he can see but he just cannot touch"
Posted by dave45 on June 25, 2006, at 14:01:50
In reply to Re: I want to want less., posted by Declan on June 25, 2006, at 12:45:32
did you ever see the concrete stairs of everyday?
the lunatic the hypocrite are all lost in the fray
can't you see their lives are just like yours?
An unturned stone. an undiscovered door leading to,
the gift of hope renewed
eternity for you!(not mine)
Posted by Dr. Bob on June 26, 2006, at 2:20:40
In reply to I want to want less., posted by linkadge on June 23, 2006, at 19:10:40
> Has anyone found anything medication or otherwise, that has helped constant wanting.
That's a great question, but I'd like follow-ups regarding "otherwise" to be redirected to the appropriate other boards, thanks.
Bob
Posted by curtm on June 29, 2006, at 9:51:23
In reply to Re: I want to want less., posted by linkadge on June 24, 2006, at 23:19:25
Half the time I want, want, want. I use the word "discontent." It explains my emotion the best. When I get things, they don't make me happy. The emptiness remains. I don't know how to fill it.
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Half the time I want nothing at all. I use the word "discontent." It explains my emotion the best. I want to disown everything and start over.
I cycle back and forth between the two. It's very confusing. But one thing remains the same. Discontent.
Posted by maggiedelena on June 29, 2006, at 16:14:13
In reply to I want to want less., posted by linkadge on June 23, 2006, at 19:10:40
I can relate. And I think it's definitely something to be addressed psychologically. But I also think it's a biochemical issue. Mostly because there have been times in my life in which all my usual kinds of cravings (food when I'm not hungry, sleep when I've had 10 hours, material goods when I have plenty, new experiences when my life is full, alcohol when I'm just feeling restless and looking for excitment) have magically abated for no circumstantial reason. At those times, I've magically not had to FIGHT not to eat too much, or get up on time, or be responsible and productive. I'm content. I don't WANT. It just magically happens -- those cravings disappear. (My doctors are currently theorizing that I'm BiPolar 2, and if so, those times would have coincided with hypomanias). My own personal crackpot theory (which I have no evidence for whatsoever) is that it's some kind of weird dopamine problem. I started to type out why I think that, but -- well, it's just not convincing enough to bother to share. But my point is that, in my experience, it's like some weird physical symptom: one that I have most of the time, but which has some times magically abated. If I find a drug that seems to continually provide that effect, I'll be sure to let you know...
Posted by Donna Louise on July 3, 2006, at 7:06:59
In reply to Redirect: otherwise, posted by Dr. Bob on June 26, 2006, at 2:20:40
> > Has anyone found anything medication or otherwise, that has helped constant wanting.
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> That's a great question, but I'd like follow-ups regarding "otherwise" to be redirected to the appropriate other boards, thanks.
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> BobDr. Bob, I don't understand what you mean by "otherwise". Could you please explain that to me? Sometimes I am confused about what is appropriate so I need to understand this.
thanks so much,donna
Posted by Dr. Bob on July 5, 2006, at 21:29:45
In reply to Re: Redirect: otherwise » Dr. Bob, posted by Donna Louise on July 3, 2006, at 7:06:59
> > > Has anyone found anything medication or otherwise, that has helped constant wanting.
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> > That's a great question, but I'd like follow-ups regarding "otherwise" to be redirected to the appropriate other boards, thanks.
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> Dr. Bob, I don't understand what you mean by "otherwise". Could you please explain that to me? Sometimes I am confused about what is appropriate so I need to understand this.I just meant approaches other than medication. Hope that helps,
Bob
Posted by Phillipa on July 5, 2006, at 22:57:03
In reply to Re: Redirect: otherwise » Dr. Bob, posted by Donna Louise on July 3, 2006, at 7:06:59
Maybe social? Love Phillipa
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