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Posted by LauraD on February 1, 2001, at 17:57:10
In reply to PMDD:So many questions!, posted by Jules726 on January 27, 2001, at 19:14:46
I'm currently reading a book titled "Women's Moods, What every woman must know about hormones, the brain and emotional health."
It is by Deborah Sichel, M.D. and Jeanne Watson Driscoll, M.S., R.N., C.N.It focuses quite a bit on PMDD and how to diagnose it and how to curb it. They mention that Prozac is OK to take when you're pregnant.
I study Microbiology and prefer scientific texts. This one goes into detail about the hormones and how they interact with your brain. I really recommend the book. (I got it at Border's Book and Music)
laura
Posted by anita on February 2, 2001, at 8:44:59
In reply to Re: PMDD:Acne,diet help!, posted by Wendy on January 31, 2001, at 7:18:07
Hi,
Just thought I'd add my two cents ... regarding getting acne before your period, I've found that spironolactone helps. It decreases the type of testosterone that can cause oily skin and breakouts. It's also a diuretic, which helps with bloating, but you'll pee a lot at first and feel thirsty.
I've tried everything for acne (antibiotics, Retin-A, etc.) and this stuff really does work. If you get your testosterone levels checked a few days before your period and they are higher than normal, I'd give spiro a try.
anita
Posted by Marchelle on February 2, 2001, at 13:51:10
In reply to Re: Sarafem=Prozac(np), posted by Wendy on January 10, 2001, at 20:09:45
Wow, I am not alone! I came to this site in hopes to find some first hand feedback from women who who have tried Sarafem to help with the curse of PMDD. I have recently been given a Rx from my
Dr. for the drug, but I am very hesitant to take it. Probably because of its association with Prozac, and fear of the possible side effects such as decrease in libido. I, too, am curious how women who are taking
Sarafem would describe its effects. Meanwhile, I will be reading those articles about PMDD that have been previoulsy posted... Best wishes, Jennifer
Posted by Marchelle on February 2, 2001, at 13:56:39
In reply to Re: Sarafem=Prozac(np), posted by Wendy on January 10, 2001, at 20:09:45
Wow, I am not alone! I came to this site in hopes to find some first hand feedback from women who who have
tried Sarafem to help with the curse of PMDD. I have recently been given a Rx from my
Dr. for the drug, but I am very hesitant to take it. Probably because of its association with Prozac, and fear of the
possible side effects such as decrease in libido. I, too, am curious how women who are taking
Sarafem would describe its effects. Meanwhile, I will be reading those articles about PMDD that have been
previoulsy posted... Best wishes
Posted by Wendy on February 2, 2001, at 16:43:33
In reply to Prescribed Sarafem,hesitant » Wendy, posted by Marchelle on February 2, 2001, at 13:51:10
> >I have recently been given a Rx from my Dr. for the drug, but I am very hesitant to take it. Probably because of its association with Prozac, and fear of the possible side effects such as decrease in libido.< <
Well, while I can't speak for the drug Sarafem, I can speak for Paxil. Not only has it NOT decreased my libido, but the positive effects of 3 1/2 weeks on this med has helped me so much that the 'intimate' aspect of my marriage has become much more comfortable and 'wanted'. I think a healthy sense of self is the main reason for this; I'm much calmer and therefore less agitated in all areas of my day to day life now.
Posted by Marchelle on February 2, 2001, at 20:16:57
In reply to Re: Prescribed Sarafem,hesitant, posted by Wendy on February 2, 2001, at 16:43:33
> > >I have recently been given a Rx from my Dr. for the drug, but I am very hesitant to take it. Probably because of its association with Prozac, and fear of the possible side effects such as decrease in libido.< <
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> Well, while I can't speak for the drug Sarafem, I can speak for Paxil. Not only has it NOT decreased my libido, but the positive effects of 3 1/2 weeks on this med has helped me so much that the 'intimate' aspect of my marriage has become much more comfortable and 'wanted'. I think a healthy sense of self is the main reason for this; I'm much calmer and therefore less agitated in all areas of my day to day life now.You made a good point. Now I am begining to realize that the potential for harm is greater in not doing anything than in trying out new ways correct the present problem.
Posted by Marchelle on February 2, 2001, at 20:23:58
In reply to Re: Prescribed Sarafem,hesitant, posted by Wendy on February 2, 2001, at 16:43:33
> > >I have recently been given a Rx from my Dr. for the drug, but I am very hesitant to take it. Probably because of its association with Prozac, and fear of the possible side effects such as decrease in libido.< <
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> Well, while I can't speak for the drug Sarafem, I can speak for Paxil. Not only has it NOT decreased my libido, but the positive effects of 3 1/2 weeks on this med has helped me so much that the 'intimate' aspect of my marriage has become much more comfortable and 'wanted'. I think a healthy sense of self is the main reason for this; I'm much calmer and therefore less agitated in all areas of my day to day life now.I am brand new at this posting thing. I forgot to tell you thanks! And wish you continued success with this. M
Posted by Wendy on February 3, 2001, at 7:09:44
In reply to thanks » Wendy, posted by Marchelle on February 2, 2001, at 20:23:58
> >I am brand new at this posting thing. I forgot to tell you thanks! And wish you continued success with this. M< <
You are most welcome! Having this board to read was one of the first steps to 'doing' something for me as well. I'm fortunate that the med my own doctor prescribed was right for me at first try. Even my kids (14 1/2 and 6 1/2) have noticed the positive changes.
Son to dad: "Geez, mom didn't even spaz on me about it!?" That in itself sais a lot!
Best of luck to you as well.
Wendy
Posted by bobbin on February 5, 2001, at 11:10:11
In reply to Re: thanks, posted by Wendy on February 3, 2001, at 7:09:44
> > >I am brand new at this posting thing. I forgot to tell you thanks! And wish you continued success with this. M< <
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> You are most welcome! Having this board to read was one of the first steps to 'doing' something for me as well. I'm fortunate that the med my own doctor prescribed was right for me at first try. Even my kids (14 1/2 and 6 1/2) have noticed the positive changes.
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> Son to dad: "Geez, mom didn't even spaz on me about it!?" That in itself sais a lot!
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> Best of luck to you as well.
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> WendyWould you be able to mention the prescription your doc gave you? I'm 44, tried everything, prescribed and alternative, been afraid of antidepressants but after 7 years of this, I'm ready to try. Have Prozac, Elavil but wouldn't take it. What about others? Sarafem, Paxil, etc.? Any input about side effects, whether or not it worked for you would be great. Thanks.
Posted by Marchelle on February 5, 2001, at 11:55:09
In reply to Re: thanks, posted by bobbin on February 5, 2001, at 11:10:11
The Rx that I was given is 20mg Sarafem, containing the same active ingredient as Prosac, but I read in previous posts that Sarafem possibly contains different compounds. The doctor told me to take one a day for the next two months then go and see her again, then I would take the Sarafem only the week before my period (when I experience my PMDD symptoms).
I still haven't begun taking the Sarafem, I have some big events about to commence and don't want to start until after they are over. But if this any consolation, I spoke with my fiance the other day about my concerns with taking an anti-depressent and its side effects. He has had experience with Prozac, and revealed that he did not notice any decrease
in energy or sex drive on the lower doses, only until a period when he was taking twice the dose did he feel totally lethargic. I don't plan to start the Sarafem until late March, but I will be glad to check back in with how it goes... Hope this is helpful.
> Would you be able to mention the prescription your doc gave you? I'm 44, tried everything, prescribed and alternative, been afraid of antidepressants but after 7 years of this, I'm ready to try. Have Prozac, Elavil but wouldn't take it. What about others? Sarafem, Paxil, etc.? Any input about side effects, whether or not it worked for you would be great. Thanks.
Posted by bobbin on February 5, 2001, at 12:00:32
In reply to Re: thanks, posted by Marchelle on February 5, 2001, at 11:55:09
Thanks, I appreciate any input. I'm at the point where the doctors are fighting over a total (no ovary) hysterectomy and drugs and I've been reticent to go either way but I've got to do something. Right now chocolate and xanax are helping momentarily, maybe I should get ok with that.
Posted by ARR on February 5, 2001, at 14:57:55
In reply to Re: thanks, posted by bobbin on February 5, 2001, at 12:00:32
Before you do anything that drastic please go to the web site www.gdsl.com and write in PMS in the condition box. The information is invaluable and will hopefully lead you to some answers.
> Thanks, I appreciate any input. I'm at the point where the doctors are fighting over a total (no ovary) hysterectomy and drugs and I've been reticent to go either way but I've got to do something. Right now chocolate and xanax are helping momentarily, maybe I should get ok with that.
Posted by Wendy on February 5, 2001, at 17:37:17
In reply to Re: thanks, posted by bobbin on February 5, 2001, at 11:10:11
I'm on Paxil 20mg/day. It IS most certainly working for me! I noticed a marked difference in my 'self' by the second week.
While I've never had my hormone levels checked, I have recently been told that PMDD and associated disorders/symptoms are often linked to unstable levels. I'm one of the fortunate ones so far; the meds I'm taking have proven to be a working positive in my situation.
Posted by Paulette on February 8, 2001, at 20:58:10
In reply to Bobbin, posted by Wendy on February 5, 2001, at 17:37:17
> I'm on Paxil 20mg/day. It IS most certainly working for me! I noticed a marked difference in my 'self' by the second week.
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> While I've never had my hormone levels checked, I have recently been told that PMDD and associated disorders/symptoms are often linked to unstable levels. I'm one of the fortunate ones so far; the meds I'm taking have proven to be a working positive in my situation.Hello everyone, I am so glad to find this board, you have no idea...and to think I have suffered so many years too.....not a clue....
Anyway..I have been on Sarafem 20mg for 1 month and 10 mg for the two months prior...while the 10 mg did help with the crying spells...havent had one since November! It didnt do much for the anxiety or the anger, moody outbursts etc...that is when the doctor upped it to the 20mg...and I am still waiting for relief. The medication claims to help with bloating...nope....and it claims to help with breast tenderness...yeah and no...this month had only ONE really bad day that I wanted to wrap up in an ace bandaid...then not bad at all...the other 2 months and years prior have consisted of a minimum of 8 days of it....still have had the outbursts this month, but may be just a bit better...things have to get real crazy here for me to go off...I think..think..I may be leveling off there...hopefully next month will tell....but the physical symptoms are atrocious! I am exhausted but have insomnia for about 5 days leading up to my cycle start...my bloating is horrible...even if I dont eat any salty stuff....my feet hurt so badley in the morning for 2 weeks prior to my period and for about 72 hours after that I hate getting up for work...just plain hate it...my hands hurt from the swelling...then by the time my period comes, I have a good 48 to 72 hours of cramping and hard bleeding that you would think I was in active labor most the time...it hurts to walk, to work, to lay down....
And I wonder why the doctor said I was not crazy, just depressed...I think I am more depressed now that I have been on this medicine and the physical symptoms just dont seem to be going anywhere....the simple fact that I feel like I am in an alien body is enough to make me depressed...I have a 20 month old daughter that I cannot chase and play with like I did with my 12 and 13 year olds...it just irriates me...
So with Sarafem...unless the next couple of months shows some improvement..then I would have to say that they emotional part is doing much better, but the physical is not...and I would love any suggestions or help for getting that to ease up...Doctor said TAKE CALCIUM...ok...done that too....have had a lap-scopy recently and found fibroids on my uterus outside, he burnt those off...absolutely no more kids he says...and then I had a mass on my cervix that he removed and I have to have another test on...but he really didnt find much..he is thinking of doing a procedure called an endometrial ablation...they pretty much burn out the inside of the uterus and women either have no more periods or light ones with very little cramping if any...anyone had this done and is it true???
Any help is much much much grateful!
And guys...think you could come talk to my husband??? He doesnt understand at all and he then just kind of shrinks away...not too bad..just doesnt know what to do....I am so glad to know that you are so supportive of your wives and any advice there would be appreciated too...Thanks!
Posted by jules726 on February 9, 2001, at 12:06:38
In reply to Re: Bobbin, posted by Paulette on February 8, 2001, at 20:58:10
I want to thank everyone for all the advice and support that I have received since posting my first message.
I'm still so confused about whether or not to try the medication that has been subscribed to me(Celexa). But after doing a bunch of research I've decided to go back in and speak to my doctor about what my options are. I have an appointment on Tuesday. I'm so glad that someone has finally posted something about Sarafem because I was thinking of suggesting this to my doctor. However, I don't want to be tired all the time and feel like I'm a zombie.I do also want to respond to the suggestion of trying to change ones diet and lifestyle. I understand this completely but for some it is not enough. And trust me, I am not one who wants to be on any kind of medication. Alternative therapy may be an answer but none of these herbs have been tested and who knows what kind of side effects they may have, especially since I am thinking about having another baby.
As for all you husbands out there who have to deal with our Jekyll and Hyde personalities, I know it's rough but please try to remember that it's not something we can control. Also, though it's hard on you it's even harder on us.
Well I'll be checking the boards for updates from everyone. Thanks.
Jules
Posted by ARR on February 9, 2001, at 14:11:25
In reply to Thanks!, posted by jules726 on February 9, 2001, at 12:06:38
Dear Jules;
I totally agree with you that simply trying to change one's diet and lifestyle may not be enough to handle severe symptoms, but there is an approach to the treatment of this condition that although it doesn't use anti-depressants is very effective because it is based on scientifically validated tests and protocols.
Severe PMS symptoms are of course due to biochemical imbalances in the body but it is much to simplistic to assume that it is all caused by a seratonin deficiency. Discovering what the imbalance is and then correcting it, is the key to successful resolution of symptoms. To learn about the biochemical imbalances that can create the apparent neurotransmitter imbalance, please go to the Web site of Great Smokies Diagnostic Laboratory (gsdl.com) and type in PMS in the condition box.
ARR
I want to thank everyone for all the advice and support that I have received since posting my first message.
> I'm still so confused about whether or not to try the medication that has been subscribed to me(Celexa). But after doing a bunch of research I've decided to go back in and speak to my doctor about what my options are. I have an appointment on Tuesday. I'm so glad that someone has finally posted something about Sarafem because I was thinking of suggesting this to my doctor. However, I don't want to be tired all the time and feel like I'm a zombie.
>
> I do also want to respond to the suggestion of trying to change ones diet and lifestyle. I understand this completely but for some it is not enough. And trust me, I am not one who wants to be on any kind of medication. Alternative therapy may be an answer but none of these herbs have been tested and who knows what kind of side effects they may have, especially since I am thinking about having another baby.
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> As for all you husbands out there who have to deal with our Jekyll and Hyde personalities, I know it's rough but please try to remember that it's not something we can control. Also, though it's hard on you it's even harder on us.
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> Well I'll be checking the boards for updates from everyone. Thanks.
> Jules
Posted by Paulette on February 11, 2001, at 11:20:30
In reply to Re: Thanks!, posted by ARR on February 9, 2001, at 14:11:25
> Dear Jules;
>
> I totally agree with you that simply trying to change one's diet and lifestyle may not be enough to handle severe symptoms, but there is an approach to the treatment of this condition that although it doesn't use anti-depressants is very effective because it is based on scientifically validated tests and protocols.I need to update here about using this Sarafem...my last note said that not too much physical changes had happened, however I have started my cycle since my post and I am thrilled beyond belief to report no cramping...no breast tenderness except for ONE day....so I am in good spirits about this...it has been 3 months since starting Sarafem, and I do still have bloating problems..but I am bound and determined to change that....
Now, I need to explain that I am still not sure if it is the medication that has improved things so much or the surgery I went through recently. Dr went in to do tubal and found fibroids on my uterus..and a mass on my cervix...so he took the mass off and then burned off the fibroids...so I am trying to keep track very closely of the symptoms per day to try to find out what was the pain lifter...whatever it is, I pray it continues...Question, in everyones research have you ever heard something about eating banana's to help eleviate the bloating or fluid retention??? I just read this in a magazine and however much I like banana's, I am not sure that I can eat enough to make that difference..anyone else have any ideas for the bloating??? I am a month from another doctor appointment and before I ask for a medication for it I will be glad to try other things!
Thanks everyone!
Paulette
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> Severe PMS symptoms are of course due to biochemical imbalances in the body but it is much to simplistic to assume that it is all caused by a seratonin deficiency. Discovering what the imbalance is and then correcting it, is the key to successful resolution of symptoms. To learn about the biochemical imbalances that can create the apparent neurotransmitter imbalance, please go to the Web site of Great Smokies Diagnostic Laboratory (gsdl.com) and type in PMS in the condition box.
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> ARR
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> I want to thank everyone for all the advice and support that I have received since posting my first message.
> > I'm still so confused about whether or not to try the medication that has been subscribed to me(Celexa). But after doing a bunch of research I've decided to go back in and speak to my doctor about what my options are. I have an appointment on Tuesday. I'm so glad that someone has finally posted something about Sarafem because I was thinking of suggesting this to my doctor. However, I don't want to be tired all the time and feel like I'm a zombie.
> >
> > I do also want to respond to the suggestion of trying to change ones diet and lifestyle. I understand this completely but for some it is not enough. And trust me, I am not one who wants to be on any kind of medication. Alternative therapy may be an answer but none of these herbs have been tested and who knows what kind of side effects they may have, especially since I am thinking about having another baby.
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> > As for all you husbands out there who have to deal with our Jekyll and Hyde personalities, I know it's rough but please try to remember that it's not something we can control. Also, though it's hard on you it's even harder on us.
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> > Well I'll be checking the boards for updates from everyone. Thanks.
> > Jules
Posted by bobbin on February 15, 2001, at 15:55:04
In reply to Re: Thanks!, posted by Paulette on February 11, 2001, at 11:20:30
I wanted some thoughts from you all. I posted that I'd been severe PMDD for 7 years. Tried everything and said chocolate and xanax were all I had left. Well, I tried the estrogen patch last week and had immediate (really) emotional relief, so significant I could've cried for relief but for the first time in forever I didn't feel like crying. Just totally happy again. Lots of breast pain (not tenderness) and cycle started a week later (not all that unusual). I had some of the same symptoms I'd had with pills and other estrogens, ie. anxiety; palpitations; headaches...so I cut the patch in 1/2. That helped alot until my period started, now I feel exactly like I did without the patch (while I'm bleeding), isn't that when you're supposed to get relief? So, I'm wondering...what hormone is it that drops when you start bleeding and any ideas on why I have all the PMS symptoms now? Thanks.
Posted by Marchelle on February 15, 2001, at 17:40:48
In reply to Re: Thanks!, posted by bobbin on February 15, 2001, at 15:55:04
> I wanted some thoughts from you all. I posted that I'd been severe PMDD for 7 years. Tried everything and said chocolate and xanax were all I had left. Well, I tried the estrogen patch last week and had immediate (really) emotional relief, so significant I could've cried for relief but for the first time in forever I didn't feel like crying. Just totally happy again. Lots of breast pain (not tenderness) and cycle started a week later (not all that unusual). I had some of the same symptoms I'd had with pills and other estrogens, ie. anxiety; palpitations; headaches...so I cut the patch in 1/2. That helped alot until my period started, now I feel exactly like I did without the patch (while I'm bleeding), isn't that when you're supposed to get relief? So, I'm wondering...what hormone is it that drops when you start bleeding and any ideas on why I have all the PMS symptoms now? Thanks.
I have done a little research about the imbalance of hormones that is most likely causing all of our symptons. From what I understand, during PMS, Estrogen level remains normal and progesterone is too low. During menopause, the Estrogen is low and progesterone is very low. If you have access to a health foods store that carries literature, such as Whole Foods, look under PMS and you should be able to find info about Wild Yam and progesterone. I have heard from a sex therapist (PhD) that she has heard of improvement of the PMS when her patients tried a certain, all natural, progesterone topical cream. I have experiemented with it, but not enough to base a judgement on the product. It is endorsed by Dr. John Lee, a researcher of PMS and menopause, and it seems that it could be beneficial. In case you might want to check it out:
Premier Natural Gesterone Cream 1 800 370 3447Premier Nutraceuticals claims that their product will restore the body's balance and have other benefits... BUT some doctors I have spoken with associate progesterone with causing depression, this is something that I am unclear on, so further discussions with doctors and such are needed! Hope this helps.
Posted by Dan on February 16, 2001, at 15:11:13
In reply to Re: Thanks!, posted by bobbin on February 15, 2001, at 15:55:04
This is my first posting here, and in looking through the threads, it looks like there are a lot of other people going through the same types of things.
My wife and I have only been married 2 years. She is in her early 40's. It seems that nearly every month she becomes extremely irritable, moody, and angry for the week before her period (PMS?) as well as the week during, and sometimes even the week after her periods, so that she is maybe civil for only about one week a month.
My wife is an FNP (Family Nurse Practitioner) and has apparently had this going on for years. When it happens, it is definitely a Dr. Jenny/Mrs. Hyde type situation. She claims it has nothing to do with her period, and because she is an FNP, I cannot even suggest to her to possibly see a doctor about it. She has been on Prozac for quite a while, but it doesn't really seem to help much, especially around her period - it almost seems to me to make things worse. I have been told by several people that she might be bipolar, but I do not really know enough about any of this to even try to attempt to diagnose her myself - I do not understand all of this, but not only that, she would not listen to me if I did make any suggestions. I am hoping that she will somehow recognize it on her own or have her hear it from a doctor or other medical expert that she trusts and will listen to.
Last month she moved out to try to try to get her head together and deal with it all. The separation has been extremely difficult for both of us, but it sounds like she is really looking for answers to help her with her situation and I would like to help as much as possible.
The other day I saw a TV commercial which described our situation exactly (extreme depression, sadness, irritation that interfers with relationships, etc), and it mentioned that it might be PMDD and recommended to check with your doctor about PMDD and Sarafem. I was hoping to find some answers about Sarafem and found this thread and hope some of you might be able to help us. It sounds like Sarafem contains much of the same ingredients as Prozac, which she is already on, and which doesn't seem to help much.
Some of her symptoms include:
Severe mood swings
Depression, hopelessness, sadness, crying
Extreme irritability, anxiety, anger, fear
Fatigue, lethargy, lack of energy
Decreased self-esteem
Severe migraine headaches
Severe cramping
Breast pain, muscle aches
Sleep difficulties and
Insomnia followed by long periods of deep sleepShe drinks lots of coffee (which might contribute to her difficulty in sleeping which might contribute to her irritability). Whenever she has an episode, I always notice that it happens to coincide with her period (which she denies), and after it subsides, she swings the other way into being in a great mood as if nothing is wrong. It is an incredibly difficult roller coaster ride for both of us.
The irritability often causes great stress in our relationship. She is a very sweet, sensitive and intelligent woman, and I love her very much and want to stand by her and support her, but it is so difficult when this "THING" seems to get between us. I am struggling with how to help her and I am hoping that someone might please have some insight or suggestions to help us. Does any of this sound like PMS, PMDD or Bipolar to any of you? Any ideas or suggestions for what I or she can do?
Thanks for your help.
Dan
Posted by Doug Anderson on February 18, 2001, at 6:17:41
In reply to PMS vs. PMDD vs. Bipolar, posted by Dan on February 16, 2001, at 15:11:13
> Dan, I know what you are going through. The woman I love goes through the same thing. She knows that there is a problem but refuses to take drugs or go to a doctor to find an answer. I have stood by her for well over a year and continue to do so. We are not married so this is a very difficult situation. She becomes so irritable that she starts to have doubts about me and my motives for hanging around. She cuts off the relationship only to call back with sorrow and asking for forgiveness. She does not understand that I will always take her back. I may understand this better than she does. I have read volumes on this but she refuses to get better informed. I think this is because she feels that there is more to this than just PMDD. She fits the classic PMDD mold as it seems your wife does.
From what I have been able to determine, the drugs work for some but not all. There has been some success with progesterone cream but it must be natural progesterone. There may be some help with a combination of SSRI drugs and progesterone.
I don't know any real answers except to hang in there. Love is stronger that this. I have not wavered in my love and caring even if the relationship has a big problem. I keep trying to convince her that this is not her, it is her body. Just keep reassuring her of your love and support. Unfortunately a big part of all this is denial during the good times and a frame of mind that is not condusive to getting help when things are bad.
There is a book that I can recommend. You may be able to find it on Amazon.com or barnesand noble.com. It is: Women's Moods by Deborah Sichel MD and Jeanne Watson Driscoll. It really explains and clears up a lot of the mysteries. It may be of a great help especially if you can get your wife to read it. I hope to get my sweet lady to read it too. Just remember that your wife loves you too. Even during the worst times you have to believe. I have had to suffer through some of the most horrible words I have ever heard in my life but in the end I remember that she is suffering so much more. I could not imagine going through all this myself. If all you can do is support than that is what you must do. There is something else that might help you. There is a short passage in the bible 1Corinthians 13:7. It is a great definition of love. When I am about to give up I read this passage. I then suck it up and start again. If there is anything I can do for you just e-mail me. You may have some ideas yourself. I am open to anything. Good luck. You sound like me. Keep trying!! Doug
Posted by Wendy on February 18, 2001, at 7:38:33
In reply to Re: Thanks!, posted by bobbin on February 15, 2001, at 15:55:04
A dear friend of mine has had difficulties with her menstral cycle since it started at age 13. She's now 32 and has FINALLY found something that seems to be working. She'd tried Paxil, Sarafem, Prozac, and a whole host of similar typed meds in her search for emotional/physical balance.
She has since seen a female doctor who is a specialist in women's medicine and has had her hormone levels diligently tested/watched/graphed and the works. To her doctor's surprise, her hormone levels were WAY WAY off balance! And it's been tested for enough cycles to establish that it is DIRECTLY linked to her cycle!
Now she's on hormone therepy geared towards her own individual needs (as opposed to the pre-packaged kits most doctors prescribe), and it's had a significant effect for her.
She did say, however, that the past few months have been all-consuming with the charting/journal writing so that as many details could be presented and studied by her doctor. So other than her (laughingly) obsessive tendancy to analyze EVERY physical twinge and emotional thought, she's so releived to be on a road that looks like it will lead her to this much needed BALANCE! So, maybe you need to investigate hormone therapy with a specialist.
Posted by Wendy on February 18, 2001, at 7:51:40
In reply to PMS vs. PMDD vs. Bipolar, posted by Dan on February 16, 2001, at 15:11:13
Dan - first, I need to say "Don't give up!" Just your obvious concern and effort say a whole lot about your feelings for your wife. Try to remember that what she is going through is NOT a conscious choice! Believe me - I know because I was once quite the same 'wife' to my husband for years! He stuck by - and is reaping the rewards!
Second, I also looked into bi-polar disorder for myself a few years ago (yep, it's been going on for a while), and quickly learned that it is a VERY specific disorder and much, much more clinical than PMDD or PMDD/mild depression. Starting out at the least worrysome of possibilities is probably your best bet.
I am one of the fortunate ones who started on 20mg/day of Paxil and noticed a nearly immediate change in my 'state of mind'. It's working wonders for me and hopefully will for the near future. I'm not wanting to go into 'trial and error' with meds as some woman have to.
Another lead might be hormone therapy for your wife. That's a lot more inclusive and complicated than simply trying meds to help adjust seratonin levels - it would be exhausting just THINKING about it.
Lastly, know that one of the most difficult aspects of all this for myself (and many other women, I'm sure), was that I 'couldn't handle it all by myself'! The fact that I couldn't fix whatever was wrong with me was an extremely bitter pill to swallow! I'm supposed to be supermom, superwife, superfriend, superemployee, etc., etc. Asking for help was one of the most difficult tasks I've undertaken; it also proved to be the smartest move I've made in a long time!
This is pretty scary stuff, for you both. Remember that, and allow for the fear and anger when it comes. Then remind yourself that there IS help out there and your wife has every right and reason to ask for it!
Posted by Marchelle on February 18, 2001, at 11:53:34
In reply to Re: Thanks! - Marchelle, posted by Wendy on February 18, 2001, at 7:38:33
> A dear friend of mine has had difficulties with her menstral cycle since it started at age 13. She's now 32 and has FINALLY found something that seems to be working. She'd tried Paxil, Sarafem, Prozac, and a whole host of similar typed meds in her search for emotional/physical balance.
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> She has since seen a female doctor who is a specialist in women's medicine and has had her hormone levels diligently tested/watched/graphed and the works. To her doctor's surprise, her hormone levels were WAY WAY off balance! And it's been tested for enough cycles to establish that it is DIRECTLY linked to her cycle!
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> Now she's on hormone therepy geared towards her own individual needs (as opposed to the pre-packaged kits most doctors prescribe), and it's had a significant effect for her.
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> She did say, however, that the past few months have been all-consuming with the charting/journal writing so that as many details could be presented and studied by her doctor. So other than her (laughingly) obsessive tendancy to analyze EVERY physical twinge and emotional thought, she's so releived to be on a road that looks like it will lead her to this much needed BALANCE! So, maybe you need to investigate hormone therapy with a specialist.Wendy, You have made a good point and I think that we have been brought back to the original point of issue, hormones and our cycles! Because really, we are at mercy to them. When our hormones are out of whack we HAVE to do something other than suffer. I am glad that your friend was able to find a way to balance her hormones. I am interested when you said that your friend is finding the relief that she didn't achieve with the anti-depressents... I, too, sought out a hormone specialist. I was very excited before going to see her, thinkning that I would be seeing someone who would take time to listen and really investigate a way to help solve my severe PMS. I was rather dissapointed when I walked out of her office only after, literally, five minutes of speaking with her, carrying a prescription for a mood-altering drug (Sarafem). I guess this can go out as advice to others, as well, as myself. Try to find a hormone specialist who will take the time and work with you and isn't so eager to just write out a prescritpion!
Posted by Noa on February 19, 2001, at 13:45:40
In reply to Re: hormones-Thanks! -Wendy, posted by Marchelle on February 18, 2001, at 11:53:34
If your wife has moved out, it is clear your marriage is really at risk. Is she willing to get help with you to try to save the marriage?
How much of an impact have her mood problems had on other areas of her life? Has she been suicidal? Has it affected her job?
Besides couples therapy, it sounds like she might need to consult a reproductive endocrinologist, or a psychiatrist specializing in mood disorders caused by hormone problems.
I saw the book that Doug mentioned--about women's moods. I only skimmed through a bit of it, but it looks like it has a lot of info that could help.
Good luck.
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