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Posted by amanda s on February 5, 2000, at 11:31:39
I am not sure if this is a symtom of being bi-polar. When I took prozac years ago, I did'nt have a problem being confident about what I was saying to someone and I actually had a great self-esteem. I cannot take prozac anymore. I am on lamictal, it helps my moods. I have always felt inadequate towards my husband, children,brothers and sister-in-laws. I think I have poor judgement about decisions that concern my children. Being extravagant or yelling at them when I think they are being unreasonable. When my mother died a year ago, I decided to enjoy life to the fullest. We started to go on vacations to fun places with the kids. As you can imagine being bi-polar and wanting to be extravagant. I do like to shop and spend money, it is a high,but I feel alot of guilt. That is another symtom I have (guilt). It is unnecessary guilt. I apologize to everyone all the time and I don't even need to. I am very kind to everyone I meet,but have a hard time showing my family that same kind of kindness. I do like to be in control of alot of things and get upset if the situation gets out of control. My husband says I was just spoiled as a child. He has a hard time understanding what I live with day to day. One other thing my mind feels like it constantly has clutter filled with it and I can not focus. Iam taking lamictal and nothing else at the moment except for a half of a xanax at night. When I talk to anyone I hesitate because I can't think of the word I need to say. MY brain is turning to mush. Do any of you have any of these experiences. Thanks
Posted by Noa on February 5, 2000, at 12:37:27
In reply to inferiority complex, posted by amanda s on February 5, 2000, at 11:31:39
I don't know what your husband means by "spoiled" but a lot of times, I think kids who seem to get their way don't start out with parents who "spoil" them. It is just that they are very anxious kids who flip out when routines are changed or they have to adapt and adjust to something, so they start to get oppositional with their parents and their parents feel incompetent, so they start to avoid battles of any kind, and the viscious circle goes on and on. If the anxiety problem is identified early, some or most or the cycle could be prevented from developing and getting ingrained as part of the family's way of being.
Posted by CarolAnn on February 5, 2000, at 14:57:02
In reply to inferiority complex, posted by amanda s on February 5, 2000, at 11:31:39
amanda s, You are not spoiled, you are just a high-needs person, you were born that way. I am the same exact type of person, and have had exactly the same type of experiences. Have you had therapy? If so, I would recommend more, and with a different therapist. It's obvious that you need someone to help you resolve your low self-esteem. Plus, a good therapist would be able to explain to your husband exactly what is going on with you and tell him what kind of support you need. As far as your kids, the therapist could also help you learn better parenting skills or could direct you to such a program. It's a common mistake to think that all you need is the right pill to make your life all better, but sometimes the pills are not enough and you need to actually put in some "talk therapy" work. I know, I've done both, and I am much better, not perfect, but better, and I know that just doing one thing, either therapy *or* medication, would not have been enough to improve my ability to deal with my life. It really is true that no one will respect you until you learn how to respect yourself. I wish you all the best and hope that you will keep us posted on how you are doing. CarolAnn
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