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Posted by Susan47 on June 4, 2005, at 17:14:27
I read recently that some men masturbate up to twice a day on a regular basis.. now, I think that's incredibly sexy. I wish I could do that, I wish I had that energy, that drive ... I want it too.
Posted by jay on June 4, 2005, at 17:31:56
In reply to This is about Sex and Men, posted by Susan47 on June 4, 2005, at 17:14:27
> I read recently that some men masturbate up to twice a day on a regular basis.. now, I think that's incredibly sexy. I wish I could do that, I wish I had that energy, that drive ... I want it too.
>Well, it makes for a very sore hand...and just twice a day? <evil grin> I must be very, very abnormal...lol..
Jay
Posted by Susan47 on June 4, 2005, at 18:21:51
In reply to Re: This is about Sex and Men » Susan47, posted by jay on June 4, 2005, at 17:31:56
What d'you fantasize about? I want all those fantasies and I want to do some of them too. I'm a bad, good/bad girl sometimes. Y'know what I've never done that I decided I'm going to do, really soon, I want to do this, make love, somehow, outdoors, in broad daylight, y'know? With the air on my skin, and the sun in my eyes, and no shame. None.
But, back to men. They're really lovely, some of them, but just think, it's so fabulous that they're so hot for sex! Oh, y'know, I just forgot I'm posting to one. oops. Sorry jay. (Blush) So, when a man is making love to a woman, what is he thinking about? Do tell. I want to know. C'mon. Or is he thinking at all? What's he think about afterwards, when it's over? How do you know when, as a woman, you're being appreciated? How do you behave when you appreciate a woman?
Posted by Tamar on June 4, 2005, at 20:00:36
In reply to Re: This is about Sex and Men, posted by Susan47 on June 4, 2005, at 18:21:51
> What d'you fantasize about? I want all those fantasies and I want to do some of them too. I'm a bad, good/bad girl sometimes. Y'know what I've never done that I decided I'm going to do, really soon, I want to do this, make love, somehow, outdoors, in broad daylight, y'know? With the air on my skin, and the sun in my eyes, and no shame. None.
Maybe I'm odd but... I've been known to play the solo game several times in one day.
And yes, Susan, you *have* to make love outdoors in the afternoon, in the summer, amid the smell of freshly-cut grass, and your eyes open, looking into the eyes of your lover. I can hardly believe you've never done it; you come across as such as vital, sexual woman. There is *nothing* like outdoor sex... Oh, and snow is fun too, but you have to keep most of your clothes on. (Depends where you live... you don't want to get frostbite somewhere sensitive.)
> But, back to men. They're really lovely, some of them, but just think, it's so fabulous that they're so hot for sex!
Oh yes. And women can be too!
Posted by Tamar on June 4, 2005, at 20:03:45
In reply to Re: This is about Sex and Men » Susan47, posted by jay on June 4, 2005, at 17:31:56
> Well, it makes for a very sore hand...and just twice a day? <evil grin> I must be very, very abnormal...lol..
I tell myself that it probably has long term benefits, like preventing arthritis of the wrist...
Posted by happyflower on June 4, 2005, at 21:38:35
In reply to Re: This is about Sex and Men, posted by Tamar on June 4, 2005, at 20:03:45
yup, sex in the snow maybe on the blanket is how my son was conceived! lol And yes in the woods, I have yet to do it in a wheat field! lol
You know guys can orgasm in 5 min., but it takes a women average 20 minutes, so maybe thats the difference. Did anyone watch Oprah's sex show last week. They say people have an average of 14 sex partners in a life time. Do you think this is true? And they said up to 70% of women fake orgasm. Geez...! I guess guys get all the fun! lol
Posted by happyflower on June 4, 2005, at 21:53:10
In reply to Re: This is about Sex and Men, posted by Susan47 on June 4, 2005, at 18:21:51
> (Blush) So, when a man is making love to a woman, what is he thinking about? Do tell. I want to know. C'mon. Or is he thinking at all? What's he think about afterwards, when it's over?
LoL, from what I have heard they are thinking about anything BUT sex( like sports) to keep it going longer, because if they thought about what they were doing it would be over in 2 minutes! lol
And what are thinking about afterwards, I'd say they are thinking about going to sleep! lol Sorry guys, I didn't mean to tell your secrets! lol
Posted by Susan47 on June 4, 2005, at 22:43:10
In reply to Re: This is about Sex and Men, posted by happyflower on June 4, 2005, at 21:53:10
That's true, I always did give men more benefit of the doubt than they deserved, when it comes to brains. LOL, I know they're thinking about sleep, yes, that's so true. And so'm I sometimes.
You made a child, you had sex in the snow on a blanket? Where??? Not the making a child part, I have that down pat, but where in the snow, where, where where? I'd be wearing my boots. Oh yes, it would be cold, but I'd be unzipped, like, dressed but .. hmm.. what kind of an outfit would that take?
Posted by Tamar on June 5, 2005, at 7:57:20
In reply to Re: This is about Sex and Men, posted by happyflower on June 4, 2005, at 21:38:35
> yup, sex in the snow maybe on the blanket is how my son was conceived! lol And yes in the woods, I have yet to do it in a wheat field! Lol
You have to try a wheat field! I’m sure you’ll love it!
> You know guys can orgasm in 5 min., but it takes a women average 20 minutes, so maybe thats the difference.
Women can learn to get there faster. Apparently it’s all in the breathing.
> Did anyone watch Oprah's sex show last week. They say people have an average of 14 sex partners in a life time. Do you think this is true?
Wow, I’m above average! It’s always nice to feel a sense of achievement!
Seriously though: surely it depends how you count them? If I use Bill Clinton’s definition of sex I get a much more respectable number than if I use Ken Starr’s definition!
> And they said up to 70% of women fake orgasm. Geez...! I guess guys get all the fun! lol
I just don’t see the point of faking orgasm in a relationship. Isn’t it better to work on trying to have a real one? Maybe it’s different in a casual encounter, though.
I was surprised when I first heard that men can fake orgasm. The man who told me about it claimed he’d never faked it with *me*…
Posted by happyflower on June 5, 2005, at 8:54:42
In reply to Re: This is about Sex and Men » happyflower, posted by Susan47 on June 4, 2005, at 22:43:10
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> You made a child, you had sex in the snow on a blanket? Where??? Not the making a child part, I have that down pat, but where in the snow, where, where where? I'd be wearing my boots. Oh yes, it would be cold, but I'd be unzipped, like, dressed but .. hmm.. what kind of an outfit would that take?We were totally in the buff! Yes! We were so hot we melted the snow! lol Another way to experience this is with ice cubes! Try rubbing ice cube all over your man and let him do that with you! Awesome!
Posted by happyflower on June 5, 2005, at 8:57:55
In reply to Re: This is about Sex and Men, posted by Tamar on June 5, 2005, at 7:57:20
>> You have to try a wheat field! I’m sure you’ll love it!
>
Yup, thats on my list! But with my allergies it would be tough!
> > You know guys can orgasm in 5 min., but it takes a women average 20 minutes, so maybe thats the difference.
> Yup, ever hear of the G spot! lol
>
Posted by Damos on June 5, 2005, at 17:01:41
In reply to Re: This is about Sex and Men, posted by Susan47 on June 4, 2005, at 18:21:51
Where to start?
Okay Suze, you already know it's been more than a while for me. So long in fact that Mrs Palmer and her 5 daughters don't even stay in touch (think about it).
What do we think about. Well can't speak for anybody else, but the only time it was good there was nothing but her. The way she smelled, felt, tasted, looked, and how much I wanted her to feel and know how much I loved her. Ahh, the sensations through my finger tips and tongue, ahhh. Delicious, delicious, delicious. Sad to admit it's only been like that once.
The other times (few as they have been) I was mostly thinking about what a hideous, deformed, miserable, piece of sh*t I was and how awful this must be for her.
Afterwards, it was almost always why would anyone so beautiful want to be with me like this, why?
Haven't done a wheat field, but have done the beach and a public park - a long time ago.
Posted by Susan47 on June 5, 2005, at 22:19:49
In reply to Re: This is about Sex and Men » Susan47, posted by Damos on June 5, 2005, at 17:01:41
Wow, why do you think so badly of yourself?
Posted by alexandra_k on June 5, 2005, at 22:30:46
In reply to Re: This is about Sex and Men, posted by Tamar on June 4, 2005, at 20:00:36
> Maybe I'm odd but... I've been known to play the solo game several times in one day.
He he, well then I'm odd too...
And 'friendly sex'. I get friendly sex.
Maybe some people think thats odd as well...
Posted by alexandra_k on June 5, 2005, at 22:32:07
In reply to Re: This is about Sex and Men » Susan47, posted by Damos on June 5, 2005, at 17:01:41
> The other times (few as they have been) I was mostly thinking about what a hideous, deformed, miserable, piece of sh*t I was and how awful this must be for her.
Hmm. No wonder you squirm away from physical contact. That must feel really horrible to be thinking those thoughts.
:-(
Damos.
I wish you could see what a wonderful guy you really are
(((Damos)))
Posted by Susan47 on June 5, 2005, at 22:44:28
In reply to Re: This is about Sex and Men » Tamar, posted by alexandra_k on June 5, 2005, at 22:30:46
I can't imagine friendly sex, just friendly like that, I don't know. I don't think I'd be satisfied. Question, Alexandra: can friendly sex also be passionate?
Posted by Damos on June 5, 2005, at 22:44:53
In reply to Re: This is about Sex and Men, posted by Susan47 on June 5, 2005, at 22:19:49
Now that's the question isn't it. I honestly can't remember when I didn't. I can't honestly remember ever knowing how to just let go and have fun and enjoy stuff like everyone else. I just don't know.
Posted by Damos on June 5, 2005, at 22:50:12
In reply to Re: This is about Sex and Men » Damos, posted by alexandra_k on June 5, 2005, at 22:32:07
Dear sweet Alex,
I wish I could see the me you see. Wish I could be the me you see.
(((((Alex)))))
Posted by alexandra_k on June 5, 2005, at 23:14:44
In reply to Re: This is about Sex and Men, posted by Susan47 on June 5, 2005, at 22:44:28
> I can't imagine friendly sex, just friendly like that, I don't know. I don't think I'd be satisfied. Question, Alexandra: can friendly sex also be passionate?
Yes.
Absolutely.
I had one friend and our bodies were just terrific together.
And whats more you can imagine whatever you like.
But yeah, it can be great.
And it can be fun.
We played around a lot and tried out new stuff and joked around etc etc and had a lot of fun.
Fun and friendly and sexy too...
And no strings.
it worked out well.
But it is over now...
Hmm....
But for the best.
Still...
There was about 5 years of that.
Jeepers.
I just did the math.
Thats a while.
We'd have breaks while he had proper relationships with other women who would have objected.
Posted by alexandra_k on June 5, 2005, at 23:18:04
In reply to Re: This is about Sex and Men » alexandra_k, posted by Damos on June 5, 2005, at 22:50:12
> I wish I could see the me you see.
Yeah. I wish you could too.
And not just me.
A lot of people here think you are wonderful Damos.
You are so sweet and caring and thoughtful and compassionate and fun.
I wish you could see that.
That it is a very lucky person indeed who gets to keep you.
And who gets to be loved by you.
That you are very special
And you deserve all the happiness
And you deserve to be really and truely cared about and loved and looked after the way that you are prepared to do all that for other people.>Wish I could be the me you see.
Nobody here sees all of me either.
I have some fairly crappy qualities and habits.
I like to think that I manage to keep the very worst hidden ;-)
But... I don't think that anything - no matter how big - could undermine the qualities that we do see.
You really are a terrific guy, Damos.
(((Damos)))
Posted by damos on June 6, 2005, at 1:43:53
In reply to Re: This is about Sex and Men » Damos, posted by alexandra_k on June 5, 2005, at 23:18:04
Thank you so much Alex. Maybe oneday, maybe someday. I hope so.
Don't forget you are and deserve all those things too.
(((((Alex)))))
Posted by caraher on June 6, 2005, at 13:51:03
In reply to Re: This is about Sex and Men » Susan47, posted by Damos on June 5, 2005, at 17:01:41
Oh man, that's rough... I tend to forget what a piece of sh*t I think I am *during* sex, at least!
Afterward is another story... what I should have done, what I wished I hadn't.
Posted by caraher on June 6, 2005, at 13:53:57
In reply to This is about Sex and Men, posted by Susan47 on June 4, 2005, at 17:14:27
> I read recently that some men masturbate up to twice a day on a regular basis.. now, I think that's incredibly sexy. I wish I could do that, I wish I had that energy, that drive ... I want it too.
When I've done it that often it's generally because there's a huge void in my life that I'm distracting myself from. Not that I start with that thought. But afterwards it always hits me in the face. Which isn't terribly sexy
Posted by caraher on June 6, 2005, at 14:20:35
In reply to Re: This is about Sex and Men, posted by Susan47 on June 4, 2005, at 18:21:51
> So, when a man is making love to a woman, what is he thinking about? Do tell. I want to know. C'mon. Or is he thinking at all? What's he think about afterwards, when it's over? How do you know when, as a woman, you're being appreciated? How do you behave when you appreciate a woman?
I've only ever had sex with my wife so my thoughts may be unusual. But the first thing that surprises me about my thoughts during sex is that I *don't* find myself thinking about being with a different woman. That's not how I am all day long, but somehow having her there in the flesh pretty much wipes out the usual wandering thoughts.
The thoughts usually aren't all that deep during sex. For me they kind of circle about, changing from one to another with the following recurring themes: how good what's happening feels, how good she or some feature of her body looks or feels, wondering if she's enjoying it, should we do something different now, enjoying the sounds and expressions she makes, amazement at the realization that she enjoys it as much as i do. And I always find myself assessing how close we are to "finishing," since it generally works best if I follow a "ladies first" policy.
Afterward it varies a lot depending on circumstances. I don't think guys ever actually think about sleep; it just happens. If it's particularly good one of two "afterthoughts" come. One is not really a thought, just a kind of blissful exhaustion. That's a case where you should take a guy falling asleep as a compliment! ;) Otherwise I want to see her smile at me and think about how amazing it is that she could love me.
If your worrying about whether you're being "appreciated" don't overdo it. I concentrate so much on what I like about her that I don't even see the blemishes. Those fade away until afterward, unless she calls attention to them.
How can you tell if you're being appreciated? I think that's just too variable - it's a communication issue. So it comes down to knowing the individual man.
Posted by Susan47 on June 6, 2005, at 14:42:24
In reply to Re: Damos, posted by caraher on June 6, 2005, at 13:51:03
wouldn't there be another time to do other things? It can get better and better .. sounds like you're thinking of sex as kind of like a conversation, you know, where you say the wrong thing and there's no taking it back because the person doesn't have time to listen, or you want to say so much more but you can't ... do you want to do a heck of a lot more than you did? Are you holding back?
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