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Posted by partlycloudy on October 21, 2004, at 14:27:57
That I'm on a leave of absence from work because I never know when I'm going to cry? Or what will trigger me? Do I just bury myself for these 8 weeks and hope I heal?
I don't wanna play any more. I'm so tired. My eyeballs are sore from crying. I want my Babble back. I want the invaders to leave us alone. Can't someone make them go away???????
Posted by dazedandconfused on October 21, 2004, at 14:35:58
In reply to What happens now?, posted by partlycloudy on October 21, 2004, at 14:27:57
Partlycloudy,
Take good care of yourself with your time off work. Definitely stay away from Admin. Perhaps try some of the other Boards...Relationships (if applicable) and Psychology would be good.I am glad to hear you are taking some time to take care of yourself.
dazed
Posted by karen_kay on October 21, 2004, at 14:59:05
In reply to What happens now?, posted by partlycloudy on October 21, 2004, at 14:27:57
sweetie, you take care of yourself. i'm sorry you find it so upsetting that some of the posts here aren't (ummmm, thinking of the words to say it properly) ???supportive???? i guess is the way to say it.
i think for me i just try to remember that we all have very different experiences in our lives, thus we all see things from our own perspective. what i try my best to do is see things from that other person's eyes. i don't always succeed, but many of my opinions have changed (and are still changing) by examining things from another perspective (and doll, i'm not saying you aren't doing that. just talking about myself).
i think it's easier not to get upset when i think to myself "i haven't seen some of the things this person has seen. i haven't experienced some of the things this person has. their personal opinions are based on what they've been through, just as mine are."
sweetheart, this is still "your babble". it's the same as it's always been dear. it's just that (imo) everyone wants to do good things and help eachother, but not everyone agrees what the best course of action is.
(((((sunshine)))))) now i'll sing you a song my mother used to sing to me when i was little.
you are my sunshine,
my only sunshine.
you make me happy
when skies are grey.
you'll never know dear,
how much i love you.
so please don't take
my sunshine
away...i'll post you that song as often as i can, if it helps you to feel better. please take very good care of yourself darling. i just hate to think of you being sad.
Posted by partlycloudy on October 21, 2004, at 15:09:12
In reply to little miss sunshine..., posted by karen_kay on October 21, 2004, at 14:59:05
thanks. it just hurts so much.
Posted by Miss Honeychurch on October 21, 2004, at 15:27:16
In reply to What happens now?, posted by partlycloudy on October 21, 2004, at 14:27:57
(((pc)))
Your Babble is still here! It just seems to go through phases where people like to stir up trouble. Frankly, I am too dense to truly comprehend 99% of what is going on at Admin, so perhaps that is why I am not distressed about anything.
What helps me in times like this is to stop the "shoulding." Such as, perhaps you believe that people "should" behave courteously and respectfully. OR perhaps you believe people "should" all get along. Well, nowhere is that a universal law or written in stone, so once you let go of the "should" and think "Ok, some people are beahving badly. I don't like their actions, but that doesn't mean they should be polite and nice. People are people and we're all fallible humans. I'll just stay away from Admin for awhile."
I always find once I let go of the should on the actions of others, I become much less disturbable (thank you Albert Ellis!)
As for your 8 weeks: read lots of interesting an eclectic things, rent foreign movies, organize your closets, exercise every day. Can you look at is asa time to be working on yourself? A sort of 8 week self-improvement time? A time to eat better, exercise, do special things for people. Read psychology books, do lots of writing. What do you think?
Posted by partlycloudy on October 21, 2004, at 16:20:47
In reply to Re: What happens now?, posted by Miss Honeychurch on October 21, 2004, at 15:27:16
I can't read a newspaper headline, much less a book. I have the energy of a sloth. I have moss growing on my north side. Admin is making me cry. Why are these people so mean to me? I really am being picked on. Look at Lou Pilder - he is citing my posts to Mary Bowers!!!!!!!
This is NOT the Babble I joined.
Posted by Annierose on October 21, 2004, at 17:40:13
In reply to Re: What happens now? » Miss Honeychurch, posted by partlycloudy on October 21, 2004, at 16:20:47
PC -
I don't think I have written to you before, but I always find your post so sweet and kind. I usually post on the psychology board. If you do not mind me asking, are you in therapy right now?
Maybe you could use this time off to work really hard in session. I find the more time off I have, the harder it is for me personally. I like to keep busy. I hope you get the rest you need and find some answers. And like everyone said before, do not read the adminstration board. Thinking of you, Annie
Posted by alesta on October 21, 2004, at 17:56:39
In reply to What happens now?, posted by partlycloudy on October 21, 2004, at 14:27:57
> That I'm on a leave of absence from work because I never know when I'm going to cry? Or what will trigger me? Do I just bury myself for these 8 weeks and hope I heal?
>
> I don't wanna play any more. I'm so tired. My eyeballs are sore from crying. I want my Babble back. I want the invaders to leave us alone. Can't someone make them go away???????
hi, pc,i certainly hope you don't view me as one of the invaders, as i just posted on admin yesterday (it makes me very sad if you think i am :)) i am always trying to look out for the well-being of others here, as well as myself. i've really tried to do some good here on PB, and really care about its members, including you. i wasn't even going to post on admin for fear of being disliked. i hope this is not the case. i don't think i offended anybody with my post. (am i paranoid here?) anyway, i hope we can all show compassion for each other..hope you feel better. i hope admin hasn't damaged our friendship. will you let me know???
i also thought what karen said was beautiful.
amy :)
Posted by partlycloudy on October 21, 2004, at 18:36:45
In reply to Re: What happens now?, posted by alesta on October 21, 2004, at 17:56:39
I've been in therapy since January. I don't post often on Psych because I don't know what I'm talking about. I don't know about transference, or inner-children, it feels like my T and I are now doing little circles around each other. I will see her Monday and she's going to call my p-doc in the meantime to "brain"storm. hahahahaha
Alesta, you are one of the most diplomatic people I've met here (that's a good thing). If I spelled out the name of the invader, I'll get knocked off the board completely. Let's just say that the strange posting name that has shown up on that board is, I believe, actually a former and embittered Babbler who doesn't realize who else she (oops, did I say SHE?) is hurting by going after the moderator of this board. And that she is creating far more harm than good, particularly for me.
you're right, karen kay has a lovely ways with words. and i wish i could be more open to other people's views. at the moment all i can feel is the pain they inflict upon me.
Posted by Mark H. on October 21, 2004, at 19:10:27
In reply to Re: What happens now?, posted by partlycloudy on October 21, 2004, at 18:36:45
Dear PC,
Have you noticed what you, Mair, Nikki, Fi, Toph and I have in common? :-)
"Please do not cite my posts" was brilliant!
Best wishes,
Mark H.
Posted by alesta on October 21, 2004, at 19:33:42
In reply to Re: What happens now?, posted by partlycloudy on October 21, 2004, at 18:36:45
thanks, pc. :) your reply warmed my heart..that is such a relief that you and i are okay. it means a lot. :) perhaps you should take a break from admin, hon? you'll probably feel better. this feeling is going to wash over, i promise. as far as the therapy, i don't know that knowing about transference and inner children is going to help you much anyway..i think a good med is important..hope you're on one..just let this stuff float away, like a big dark cloud, so you can make room for the big, pink, fluffy clouds to move in..i know you can do it..:) something good is around the corner, but ya gotta turn away from the darkness to see the light..you will overcome this..i have faith in you..love ya,
amy
Posted by Jai Narayan on October 21, 2004, at 19:56:40
In reply to What happens now?, posted by partlycloudy on October 21, 2004, at 14:27:57
> That I'm on a leave of absence from work because I never know when I'm going to cry? Or what will trigger me? Do I just bury myself for these 8 weeks and hope I heal?
>
> I don't wanna play any more. I'm so tired. My eyeballs are sore from crying. I want my Babble back. I want the invaders to leave us alone. Can't someone make them go away???????
Dear PC,
I am so sorry you are in a blue state.It sounds like the crying is not giving you any relief from the frustration and sadness.
I wish I could wave a magic wand and would you see all the love and caring we have for you.
I know that difficulty on Admin has caught your attention...but take a deep breath.
Inhale all our love then exhale the frustration.
Inhale love....
exhale hurt...etc.I leave you with a joke:
A woman arrived at her doctors office with headphones on.
The Doc said, "Take off those head phones."
She said, "No, I'll die if I do."
He was very angry and repeated...."take them off now."
she did and dropped dead.
The Doc was puzzled.
He picked up the headphones and listened.....
"Inhale.....exhale....inhale....exhale..."Remember....we love you and that's so much bigger than anything else
Jai
Posted by fayeroe on October 21, 2004, at 20:55:39
In reply to Re: Belonging, posted by Mark H. on October 21, 2004, at 19:10:27
I'm in your club too, Mark H....:-)
Posted by AdaGrace on October 22, 2004, at 0:06:47
In reply to What happens now?, posted by partlycloudy on October 21, 2004, at 14:27:57
to support you like you have supported me. I just feel pretty crappy myself. I'm thinking of you though.....does that help?
Posted by Dinah on October 22, 2004, at 6:12:34
In reply to Re: What happens now? » Miss Honeychurch, posted by partlycloudy on October 21, 2004, at 16:20:47
The sad part is that, unless you joined Babble in a time of unusual peace, this *is* the Babble you joined. (rueful smile)
And all the things you loved about Babble are still there. Sometimes it's hard to see them amid the occasional confusion, but they're still there.
I'm sorry things are going badly for you, at work and here. I always find it very difficult to manage Babble in the way that's healthiest for me. I can step away from the computer, or I can be involved, but it's hard for me to direct my attention to where it would probably be healthiest to direct it, while remaining involved in a way that's healthy for me. But that doesn't mean I can't urge others to try to do it!
What fun things have you been wanting to do, and now have time to do? I must confess that my list would be pretty mundane. Lots of sleep, lots of reading in the bathtub, and finally converting that enormous stack of photos and slides into digital images. I have this real, almost mystical, feeling about photos. I can't stand to be in them myself nowadays, but I adore looking through them and seeing who I was, and reliving the moments with the people I love. It scares me to think I might somehow lose them, so I'm really anxious to back them up on the computer and bring the backup disks somewhere where I'm sure not to lose both originals and backups.
I also really really need to throw out stuff I haven't used in years and reducing the encroaching clutter, before I turn into a packrat like my mom.
And sometimes I get involved in the geneology that is freely available on the internet. I find it absolutely fascinating, since people have done a fair amount of research on certain branches of my family. But then I get discouraged, because I realize it only takes one incorrect name, or one indiscreet woman (smile) to make the whole thing meaningless.
Hmmm... Perhaps you can tell that when I get overwhelmed, I get sidetracked into unproductive enthusiasms. Those are a few of my less expensive ones. :)
Posted by partlycloudy on October 22, 2004, at 6:54:51
In reply to Re: What happens now? » partlycloudy, posted by Dinah on October 22, 2004, at 6:12:34
Hi, Dinah. Yeah, Babble is what it is, isn't it? Perhaps the problem is that I broadened my interests too far here. I should keep in my yard and not play with the neighbour's children, just like when I was a kid.
I finally took a jewelry making class - sweat flooding off me, hands shaking like I had the d.t.'s - and I've got a lovely pile of sea glass waiting for me to coax it into necklaces and bracelets.
There is not enough time in the world for me to ever catch up on reading, although the ability for me to read and retain information comes and goes like weather pressure systems.
I want to put in more session time with my T and become my own master instead of letting my body rule my life like it's doing.
And I plan to keep coming here, for your help and support, which has always been there for me.
pc
Posted by coral on October 22, 2004, at 7:51:38
In reply to Re: What happens now? » Dinah, posted by partlycloudy on October 22, 2004, at 6:54:51
Dear Partly,
Could you please tell me what sea glass is? I've seen it and once tried to put some in a fountain I had (it morphed into something else!).
Thanks,
Coral
Posted by partlycloudy on October 22, 2004, at 8:00:41
In reply to Re: What happens now? to Partly, posted by coral on October 22, 2004, at 7:51:38
It's regular glass that's been scrubbed by the sand and the waves until it becomes translucent, and it looks like it's covered in snow, only when you wet it, the snow goes away. All the rough edges get "sanded" by the same action. It's what happens eventually to all those bottles that get tossed overboard. I found a huge quantity when I was lucky enough to go to Cabo San Lucas, it was all on one beach. I am making wire cages around the glass pieces and stringing them on leather for necklaces.
Posted by partlycloudy on October 22, 2004, at 10:14:49
In reply to Sea glass » coral, posted by partlycloudy on October 22, 2004, at 8:00:41
Just made my first necklace. Oh boy, you guys get to live through my OT.
Just be glad I'm not gluing dried pasta shapes onto cardboard and spraypainting them for all eternity, or carving polar bears out of ivory soap.
Posted by AdaGrace on October 22, 2004, at 10:20:18
In reply to Re: Sea glass, posted by partlycloudy on October 22, 2004, at 10:14:49
I'm into unique, creative, artistic, design and I just bet that your necklace really looks cool. Send me a picture.
Posted by partlycloudy on October 22, 2004, at 10:23:17
In reply to Hey, I might Just want to buy one » partlycloudy, posted by AdaGrace on October 22, 2004, at 10:20:18
LOL! I can't yet figure out to work our digital camera, but I'll send you a picture over the weekend. I'll get some help to do it.
This necklace is rather "rustic". My hands have stopped shaking, tho.
Posted by AdaGrace on October 22, 2004, at 10:28:05
In reply to Re: Hey, I might Just want to buy one, posted by partlycloudy on October 22, 2004, at 10:23:17
I really love that kind of jewelry. Hey, my sister the extreem alchoholic in the family makes little painting with fingernail polish. They are very unique, if not disturbing. She has bizarre dreams and some of them look like how she dreams. Very abstract, but very cool, and I have one of her original ones. Now she asks $50 for them. Send that picture. I'd love to see it.
Posted by partlycloudy on October 22, 2004, at 11:33:50
In reply to I am serious here » partlycloudy, posted by AdaGrace on October 22, 2004, at 10:28:05
Posted by Fi on October 22, 2004, at 15:01:30
In reply to Re: Belonging, posted by Mark H. on October 21, 2004, at 19:10:27
Very true! Much more tranquil.
I'm really trying to stay away from PBA. And this board seems a nice place to be at the moment- nice mixture of supporting each other and also a bit of a chat.
Fi
Posted by partlycloudy on October 22, 2004, at 15:14:45
In reply to Re: Belonging: good company to be in! » Mark H., posted by Fi on October 22, 2004, at 15:01:30
Perhaps this could the the "safety" board. yuck yuck yuck
Oh boy someone shut this lady up...lady that's no lady, that's my wife....i already miss rodney dangerfield, i never thought i would say that, he was an unsavoury man...
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