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Posted by jlynne on March 16, 2004, at 2:47:01
In reply to jlynne, posted by mystic on March 15, 2004, at 6:44:58
> jlynne...Well sorry to hear about your husband leaving you...But you sound like such a great person you will find someone that you will spend the rest of your life with and be happy...Everything happens for a reason...Mystic
Hey, Mystic:) Boy, has it been a long day! I am feeling pretty good, just tired. You know, I'm not so sure I want someone to share my life with anymore. I'm kind of getting used to living alone now, and it's actually kind of nice. My Dad taught me how to do a lot of routine home repairs while I was growing up, and I have always had a knack for fixing things, so I really don't need a man for things like that (in fact, I think that was one of my ex-husband's problems - he always wanted me to be helpless and dependent on him. He once referred to me as his "husband"). Yeah, I know . . . he was a jerk!
Anyway, I won't rule out romance sometime in the future, but at this point in my life, I really don't think I want to try anything permanent again. I own my own home now (well, me and the bank:) and I have a wonderful job. We'll see . . .
Do you have anyone helping you with your daughter's shower? A friend of hers, maybe? If not, maybe it would help to ask?? (just a suggestion)
Well, it is after midnight and my mind is melting down. Thank you for your encouragement. Hope you have a good day. [Lots of hugs] ...jlynne
Posted by mystic on March 16, 2004, at 6:40:08
In reply to Re: jlynne » mystic, posted by jlynne on March 16, 2004, at 2:47:01
Good Morning jlynne...Yes I have my two very good friends they are the best so I dont really have to worry about things getting done just about being there...and I have lots of friends most of which will be there...thanks for asking...
It is great to hear that the fear you have is not of being alone..and the best part is that when and if you do meet someone this time you wont have to depend or listen to anyone that is not going to treat you with respect...and that is what we all deserve but dont think that we do...If we all learn how to take care of ourselves as well as we are used to taking care of everyone else in our lives then maybe some of our fears would disappear...
I left my first husband when I was 5 months pregnant and he beat me for the last time and I'm not sure how I did it but I did and years after that was when my first panic attack happened...So I do believe that some of the reasons we are the way we are is because we just dont take into consideration how important we are because we are so wrapped up in taking care of everyone else and worrrying about being strong...So by the time things catch up they are already off the track and there is no getting it back with out a lot of work...I dont know if this makes sense trying to get it off before work...But anyway...We deserved to be taken care of once in a while and if we are the only ones that can do then so be it we DESERVE it!!!!!!!....
Sorry to go on and on sometimes I have the thoughts in my head and try to relay them and they dont always sound the best but I really dont have time to overlook to see what I wrote...hahahaha...Everyone HAVE A GREAT DAY....Mystic....jlynne Be proud of the accomplishments that you have made they are huge..and they will get even huger (is that a word)..haha
Posted by want info on March 16, 2004, at 9:52:12
In reply to Re: wantinfo, posted by jlynne on March 15, 2004, at 23:45:42
oh thank you jlynne! i am just so worried that i will feel like this forever...im in week 6 and they want to up me to 20...i want to be myself again! EM
Posted by LynneDa on March 16, 2004, at 10:07:06
In reply to Lynne, posted by Journeyman on March 15, 2004, at 22:00:42
Oh Journeyman, you are so right as usual . . . and the way you capture it so succinctly and poignantly speaks straight to my heart. THANK YOU. I'm going to make that call right now.
There, done. I just left her a message for an appointment. Thank you for your gentle nudge :-)
~ Lynne
Posted by LynneDa on March 16, 2004, at 10:11:56
In reply to Re: wantinfo, posted by jlynne on March 15, 2004, at 23:45:42
Ladies - I put my makeup on one eye and not the other one day. My boss noticed it and said something to me! Not a huge tragedy in the least, but an example of either how busy I am or absent-minded. Maybe a little of both?!? It has got much better. That was a couple of months ago, so hang in there and like Mystic said - keep your sense of humor!
~ Lynne
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its so great to see someone else feels the same way...yet its been almost 6 wks and i feel like ive been spaced the whole time. shouldnt i have adjusted by now? next thing i know ill be going to work without pants or something...lol
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> Em, from what some of the others have been posting, it looks as though it will probably take awhile longer for us to even out, especially if we have to increase again. You know, if I had to go through this without the support of the people here, I would have given up by now. And, yeah, I do worry about going out the door not fully clothed! [I took the wrong freeway exit the other day, and had to turn around and go back] My children and grandchildren find me very amusing:) ...if we can keep our sense of humor, we will be ok. ...[hugs]jlynne
Posted by jlynne on March 16, 2004, at 11:11:07
In reply to Re: wantinfo (jlynne, lynneda) » jlynne, posted by want info on March 16, 2004, at 9:52:12
> oh thank you jlynne! i am just so worried that i will feel like this forever...im in week 6 and they want to up me to 20...i want to be myself again! EM
EM, I just saw my doctor yesterday - he has been just wonderful about all of this. He told me to take my time and decide for myself when/if I am ready to increase again. I plan to wait a little longer and see how I do at 15mg. I don't have any qualms about going to 20mg, but I want to make sure that I need to first.
You do have some say in this - it is your life. If you do go to 20mg and find that it is too soon, you can always go back down to 15mg again. Whatever you decide, I am pulling for you.
I know that something good is happening inside of me - even through all the s/e's, I can feel something deep inside that is growing and becoming strong. I may not feel it every minute, but it is there enough for me to know that I am beginning to change. You will feel it, too. [Here's a BIG HUG] ...jlynne
Posted by want info on March 16, 2004, at 13:34:40
In reply to RE: Magdalena, posted by mystic on March 15, 2004, at 19:59:14
hey mystic. i am not on paxil and lex...i was on paxil for 8 yrs and am in my 6th week on lex. still feeling pretty spaced and anxious...i tapered off the paxil and havent had any of it since feb 4...EM
Posted by want info on March 16, 2004, at 14:33:13
In reply to Re: Mrs C., posted by Mrs. C on March 15, 2004, at 20:56:56
hey mrs c...how long til things cleared up for you? im starting week 6 and am still fuzzy :( been on 15 for about a week and was on 10 before that...thanks! EM
Posted by mystic on March 16, 2004, at 17:23:53
In reply to Re: Mrs C. » Mrs. C, posted by want info on March 16, 2004, at 14:33:13
Hey Em..sorry you are still have such a hard time...hopefully soon it will get better...was a little worried with one of your posts as I thought you were doing both and you were like me I never weened off the paxil though just stopped that one night and took the lex the next think that is why we had such a hard time with the lex...How many mgs of the paxil were you taking at the time that you switched to lex?...I'm having somewhat of a bad evening...Just found out the I broke my wisdom and I have to have it extracted tomorrow along with a crown on another tooth and a possible root canal...No need for me to share anxiety and dentists with anyone...and I work for one...Hope you had a better day talk to you soon...Mystic
Posted by mystic on March 16, 2004, at 17:30:07
In reply to RE: emily, posted by mystic on March 16, 2004, at 17:23:53
Hey Mrs C...how are you doing today??..still on the up and up I hope...It is snowing really bad here just made it home glad I have my jeep...this should be the last storm of the season I hope...Feeling a bit frazzled at the moment just found out that I cracked my wisdom tooth and have to have it extracted tomorrow and a crown on another tooth which could possible be a root canal..and Like I said earlier dont have to explain anxiety and dentists to anyone...And I work for the dentist...SO reallllyyy really nervous about this and not sure I will be able to do it...Afraid I will be right in the middle and flip right out...not doing that great tonight...SO I think I will take a break...Talk to everyone soon..Hope you all had a great day...Mystic
Posted by mystic on March 16, 2004, at 17:30:44
In reply to RE: Mrs C.., posted by mystic on March 16, 2004, at 17:30:07
Hey jlynne hope your day was good and you are feeling ok...Mystic
Posted by LynneDa on March 16, 2004, at 17:55:33
In reply to RE: Mrs C.., posted by mystic on March 16, 2004, at 17:30:07
Hi Mystic - Sorry about your tooth - yuk! I am very afraid of the dentist too, irrational as it may be. But, it's better than having to get wooden teeth I guess (hee hee).
Hang in there and try to get through it the best you can! I'll be thinking of you, let us know how it goes :-)
~ Lynne
Posted by jlynne on March 16, 2004, at 17:56:33
In reply to RE: jlynne, posted by mystic on March 16, 2004, at 17:30:44
Mystic, I'm sorry to hear about your day. That is too much to have happen to you all at once. I know about dentist anxiety, too. Did you go through Lamaz(sp?) when you gave birth? It might help to do the breathing . . . just a thought.
I don't have much time right now. I'm off work early so that I can go celebrate my son's 34th birthday with him (45mi away). Much to do. I will try to post later tonight. But here's a BIG HUG! ...jlynne
Posted by jlynne on March 16, 2004, at 17:58:29
In reply to Mystic, posted by jlynne on March 16, 2004, at 17:56:33
Did you notice that Simus posted on our old site? Thought you might like to know:) Take care ...jlynne
Posted by mystic on March 16, 2004, at 18:11:05
In reply to Redirected Lexaproers, posted by jlynne on March 13, 2004, at 1:31:16
Jlynne...I went to the old site and didnt see any posts from her maybe I'm all confused and there is another old old site...I came from the one that was redirected..and now i'm in the redirected lexapro site and didnt see her on either one...But anyway I hope that you had a safe trip and that you had fun with your son for his birthday...Catch up to you soon..Mystic
Posted by susielalala on March 16, 2004, at 18:15:38
In reply to Re: So glad I came here! » susielalala, posted by jlynne on March 16, 2004, at 1:39:59
thank you so much jlynne. You may call me ali that is my name. :)
Posted by susielalala on March 16, 2004, at 18:16:29
In reply to Re: So glad I came here! » susielalala, posted by jlynne on March 16, 2004, at 1:39:59
Oh by the way I live in Illinois, central time zone
Posted by jlynne on March 16, 2004, at 18:34:07
In reply to RE: jlynne, posted by mystic on March 16, 2004, at 18:11:05
> Jlynne...I went to the old site and didnt see any posts from her maybe I'm all confused and there is another old old site...I came from the one that was redirected..and now i'm in the redirected lexapro site and didnt see her on either one...But anyway I hope that you had a safe trip and that you had fun with your son for his birthday...Catch up to you soon..Mystic
She's in the old, old site - where we started originally. Sometimes if you click on the last post at the bottom, it will bring up more that come after. Good luck. I'm out the door:) ...jlynne
Posted by Magdalena on March 16, 2004, at 19:05:56
In reply to Re: wantinfo (jlynne, lynneda) » want info, posted by jlynne on March 16, 2004, at 11:11:07
Hey Jlynne, how was your sons birthday? i hope you had a blast, i just got home from work and i had a really hard time falling asleep last night:S so work felt even more stressful because i felt really out of it.
i know you spoke about it before , i think you mentioned how you dissociate?(sp?) anyway that is what i do most of the time, i feel this almost everyday, some days are worse than others. What kind of feelings do you get? I mainly feel like im moving in slow motion, or im sinking in the floor, things like that...ok yeah i also look in the mirror a lot, i used to collect mirrors and clocks a few years back and someone suggested that i was a narssisist but i thought, no it just helps to ground myself when i am feeling out of sorts, or to make sure i dont make a fool of myself by forgetting to put an article of clothing on! haha, well it happens to the best of us;)Have a good night, sweet dreams.
Posted by Magdalena on March 16, 2004, at 19:20:44
In reply to RE: emily, posted by mystic on March 16, 2004, at 17:23:53
i have to get all 4 of my wisdom teeth out too, and i am procrastinating because i am terrified of it. Im scared of the operation and just as scared of the recovery!!
You will be fine, you sound like a strong girl we are all praying that you will feel calm and good, you can do it.:)sweet dreams.
Magdalena
Posted by mystic on March 16, 2004, at 19:29:13
In reply to RE: emily » mystic, posted by Magdalena on March 16, 2004, at 19:20:44
Thanks Magdelena...It would be worse if I didnt work for the dentist but wish he wouldve just did it right then and there but I didnt ask he just said we will do it tomorrow..with the snow there should be a lot of cancellations..So will let you know what happened tomorrow night...My first session with my new therapist after work tomorrow also..all kinds of good stuff..thank you so much for the post...Mystic
Posted by susielalala on March 16, 2004, at 20:53:29
In reply to Susielalala, posted by Journeyman on March 15, 2004, at 21:49:49
Thank you so much journeyman. You sure do have a way with words. I am really struggling with this anxiety. I finally took a xanax tonight. Thanks to mystic. :) She is the best. I am not a pill person. I actually think I have kind of a pill phobia. Anyway I want to let you know your words are very inspiring to me thank you again Journeyman.
Posted by Journeyman on March 16, 2004, at 21:48:59
In reply to Re: Susielalala, posted by susielalala on March 16, 2004, at 20:53:29
You're very welcome. I'm glad to hear that you're continuing to try things that will perhaps help you to feel better.
Based on a lot of the posts here, I'd say lots of us, maybe even most of us, are not 'pill people,' but the general consensus is that those pills have a way of helping us restore the balance we've lost, and if that's the case, then hand us the foil package and that glass of water.
Good luck with the Xanax. Hope it helps.
And yes, Mystic is a treasure.
Journeyman
Posted by Journeyman on March 16, 2004, at 21:56:19
In reply to Re: Lynne » Journeyman, posted by Magdalena on March 16, 2004, at 0:31:14
Magdalena,
What beautiful words; thanks for sharing them with us. There are certainly a lot of good souls here. It often seems to me that people who post here function as family members would in an ideal world. Such a wonderful resource!
Best of luck with your progress.
Journeyman
Posted by Journeyman on March 16, 2004, at 22:03:35
In reply to Re: Hi everyone (long!), posted by jlynne on March 16, 2004, at 0:01:35
Hi jlynne,
Congratulations on the huge shift that has taken place in dealing with the loss that comes from a close relationship that loses its closeness.
I can't think of a better metaphor for what's happening, then the image of you taking out your own garbage. Yes, you can.
Every day is trash day when you're dealing with depression. May your sanitation engineering continue to go smoothly.
Journeyman
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