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Posted by gabbii on July 15, 2005, at 13:22:24
In reply to Re: a conversation, posted by Dr. Bob on July 15, 2005, at 7:29:32
> That's a good example of how it's important for others to be able to read...
>
> BobAs Dinah said "And reply." You can't leave the other half out of my example, even though it was inferred. If I had not been able to reply I never would have bothered finding about the rest of Babble, or looked for someone I could reply to. It *never* would have happened. Period.
Posted by Dr. Bob on July 16, 2005, at 1:51:45
In reply to Re: small boards and privacy » Dr. Bob, posted by alexandra_k on July 15, 2005, at 13:02:18
> I think people will continue posting to the main boards for information. You are more likely to find someone who has something to say if your audience is larger.
Hmm, that's a good point...
Bob
Posted by Dr. Bob on July 16, 2005, at 1:51:48
In reply to Re: a conversation Dr. Bob, posted by gabbii on July 15, 2005, at 13:22:24
> If I had not been able to reply I never would have bothered finding about the rest of Babble, or looked for someone I could reply to. It *never* would have happened. Period.
Even though they were representative of so many other Babblers?
Bob
Posted by alexandra_k on July 16, 2005, at 6:49:30
In reply to Re: small boards and privacy » Dr. Bob, posted by alexandra_k on July 15, 2005, at 13:02:18
... And I like meeting new Babblers too. And I like talking to the Babblers who are on the boards already. And I don't imagine ALL of them will get to be part of one small board. I think I'd still post to social just to chat.
Posted by Dinah on July 16, 2005, at 8:10:04
In reply to Re: a conversation, posted by Dr. Bob on July 16, 2005, at 1:51:48
> Even though they were representative of so many other Babblers?
>
> BobI know Gabbi is more than capable of speaking for herself, but her actual statement was:
"but I *did* want to know you two, and happily it turned out that you were representative of so many other Babblers I adore."
By the timing stated above, she discovered that the posters she wanted to reply to were representative of other Babblers *after* she had replied and become involved in Babble. And that if she had not been able to reply, she would not have discovered this.
And again, Dr. Bob. This is not a laundromat.
This is the sort of post from you that makes me feel like I'm in a debate, Dr. Bob. Rather than a discussion between people who really want to understand each other and who respect each other and their positions. I know you don't intend it that way. But I also know you are baffled sometimes by my reactions, so I thought I'd point it out as I went along.
Posted by gabbii on July 16, 2005, at 11:59:03
In reply to Re: a conversation » Dr. Bob, posted by Dinah on July 16, 2005, at 8:10:04
Thanks Dinah!
I'm glad you spoke for me. Dr. Bob that reply did make me feel as if I was in a debate,and I think it's probably one of the feelings I hate most after I've gone out of the way think to spell out my feelings and my reactions as clearly as can be.The reason I said it would not have happened.. period. Is because it WOULD NOT HAVE HAPPENED.. PERIOD!
I would not have bothered to find out if any other "Babblers" were like TAbitha and Dinah, I easily slipped into that conversation and it was a good fit. If anything, finding out I couldn't post to them would completely turn me off and I would be LESS likely to work to find anything out about anyone else, had a been inclined in the first place, which I would not have been. AKKK!
It's not a laundromat!
I'm not going to see that one drier is not working and look for another.
Posted by Dr. Bob on July 17, 2005, at 0:38:56
In reply to Re: a conversation, posted by gabbii on July 16, 2005, at 11:59:03
> Dr. Bob that reply did make me feel as if I was in a debate
>
> The reason I said it would not have happened.. period. Is because it WOULD NOT HAVE HAPPENED.. PERIOD!
> I would not have bothered to find out if any other "Babblers" were like TAbitha and DinahSorry about that! OK, it wouldn't have happened. This site has only one chance to engage some people.
But I think other people might have looked for other Babblers. Like some people who post and don't get a response don't post again -- but some do.
Bob
Posted by Dinah on July 17, 2005, at 9:09:42
In reply to Re: a conversation, posted by Dr. Bob on July 17, 2005, at 0:38:56
We aren't washing machines, Dr. Bob.
"other babblers"
This one is taken, but there are other babblers over there you might like to talk to.
sheesh.
It's a bit insulting, you know.
Posted by Dinah on July 17, 2005, at 9:18:38
In reply to Re: a conversation, posted by Dr. Bob on July 17, 2005, at 0:38:56
Dr. Bob, was I right before?
Do you read so many posts, and see so many Babblers come and go, that you think we're all interchangeable?
Do you not see how very special we all are each in our own way?
I don't think you're interchangeable with other board moderators. :(
I wouldn't say, "Well, Babble is full. I'll go see if I can find another board to post on."
Posted by Dinah on July 17, 2005, at 10:25:50
In reply to Re: a conversation, posted by Dr. Bob on July 17, 2005, at 0:38:56
I appreciated that you replied to Gabbi directly without verbal sleight of hand. :)
And that you apologized.
Posted by gabbii on July 17, 2005, at 10:59:17
In reply to Re: a conversation, posted by Dr. Bob on July 17, 2005, at 0:38:56
For the apology, it was appreciated.
I liked the exclamation mark too, it felt like a real reply. "Okay then fine! sorry won't be trying that on you again...grumble, grumble"
: )
Posted by alexandra_k on July 17, 2005, at 13:26:02
In reply to Re: a conversation, posted by Dr. Bob on July 17, 2005, at 0:38:56
I think people probably have different reasons for having a look on Babble. Some people might be just having a wander on the net while other people might be looking for something in particular.
People looking for information might post their question on several different sites and see where they get the most helpful responses.
People looking to meet other people might be more interested in the conversations / posters at the site.
I was just looking for some friends. If I couldn't post over here I would have found somewhere else.
Its only NOW after posting for so long that I have gotten attached to this site and the posters here. I wouldn't have been so very upset if I couldn't have posted here to start with because I wouldn't have known the people here to really see what I would have been missing out on.
But that being said I'm not a lurker by nature. I would have realised I couldn't post pretty quickly. Other people who spend more time reading the posts might feel like they have gotten to know the posters and be more likely to feel a little slapped when they can't sign up.
Because not everybody reads the blurb on the boards. I didn't read it for quite a while. If there had been something there about the board being restricted then I would have missed it until I tried to sign up most probably.
Posted by Dr. Bob on July 22, 2005, at 3:18:23
In reply to Re: a conversation » Dr. Bob, posted by Dinah on July 17, 2005, at 9:18:38
> Do you read so many posts, and see so many Babblers come and go, that you think we're all interchangeable?
>
> Do you not see how very special we all are each in our own way?Of course! And some people may only want to engage with particular posters.
Bob
Posted by Dinah on July 22, 2005, at 5:21:19
In reply to Re: you all are very special, posted by Dr. Bob on July 22, 2005, at 3:18:23
Actually, two quite different sniffs.
Thank you for noticing we're all special.
And they'd pretty much be out of luck with the small groups, right? Because my understanding is that membership is open to anyone as long as there are spaces, and current members *can't* decide who it is they want to "not talk to".
Pray tell me that is a correct understanding of the situation proposed?
Posted by Dinah on July 22, 2005, at 5:22:08
In reply to Sniff... » Dr. Bob, posted by Dinah on July 22, 2005, at 5:21:19
Actually that's "not engage with"
Posted by gardenergirl on July 22, 2005, at 11:11:27
In reply to Re: you all are very special, posted by Dr. Bob on July 22, 2005, at 3:18:23
> > Do you read so many posts, and see so many Babblers come and go, that you think we're all interchangeable?
> >
> > Do you not see how very special we all are each in our own way?
>
> Of course! And some people may only want to engage with particular posters.Isn't it handy that you can already do this very thing with Yahoo conferences, groups, and IM's?
gg
Posted by AuntieMel on July 22, 2005, at 11:25:03
In reply to Re: you all are very special » Dr. Bob, posted by gardenergirl on July 22, 2005, at 11:11:27
Yes, it can already be done. It makes a person wonder why it need to be done here, doesn't it.
Maybe it needs to be done, and public? Or Dr. Bob wants to watch it for some reason?
hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
Posted by Dr. Bob on July 22, 2005, at 16:58:06
In reply to Sniff... » Dr. Bob, posted by Dinah on July 22, 2005, at 5:21:19
> my understanding is that membership is open to anyone as long as there are spaces, and current members *can't* decide who it is they want to "not talk to".
Right, that's the current idea...
Bob
Posted by Racer on August 4, 2005, at 21:28:20
In reply to Re: you all are very special » gardenergirl, posted by AuntieMel on July 22, 2005, at 11:25:03
Posted by sunnydays on August 30, 2005, at 21:39:19
In reply to Some of us can't use Yahoo... (nm) » AuntieMel, posted by Racer on August 4, 2005, at 21:28:20
Hi - I don't post hardly at all (once in the six months I've been reading Babble), but I wanted to contribute to this discussion. I feel that, even though I am registered, I am really a lurker since I don't post. I just wanted to say really that I find reading this board so helpful, and I would miss terribly the opportunity to read. I understand how people would feel weird about people they don't know reading their posts, but I am pretty shy and have a lot of trouble taking risks, so for me reading helps me a lot because I can identify with so many of the situations on these boards and the threads really give me things to think about in regards to my own life and my therapy. Sorry if this post isn't really relevant to the discussion, but I thought I would try to explain why it helps some people just to read and not to post.
Posted by Dr. Bob on August 30, 2005, at 23:37:30
In reply to Re: Some of us can't use Yahoo..., posted by sunnydays on August 30, 2005, at 21:39:19
Posted by alexandra_k on December 1, 2005, at 22:45:42
In reply to small boards and privacy, posted by alexandra_k on July 3, 2005, at 19:26:19
is it about numbers?
you trying to be the biggest site or something?
Posted by Dr. Bob on December 4, 2005, at 15:01:35
In reply to Re: small boards and privacy, posted by alexandra_k on December 1, 2005, at 22:45:42
> is it about numbers?
> you trying to be the biggest site or something?I'd like for this site to continue to develop, but it's not just numbers that matter...
Bob
Posted by Jakeman on December 4, 2005, at 15:12:34
In reply to Question about privacy of this site and Goggle, posted by Jakeman on November 30, 2005, at 19:57:09
Since this thread got consolidated I've found it hard to follow. I'd like to state my questions again, for clarification.
>is there a way to post on this site without it >going into the Google archives?
>Is there a way to "opt-out" to that my postings >stay on this site and don't go out all over the >internet?
I skimmed through the previous "consolidated" discussions posted around 7/05. The thread goes off on several tangents leading to no real answer. Should I surmise that the answer is no? Or perhaps it's considered on ongoing discussion?
I'm not real internet-savy, but I believe at one time, maybe still, one could post to usenet with a header something like "archive, no" and it would not go into the permanant archives. So your posts would not live forever in cyberspace. Not possible here?
BTW, thanks to everyone who contributed to this discussion!
warm regards, Jake
Posted by Jakeman on December 4, 2005, at 15:12:34
In reply to Re: Question about privacy of this site and Goggle » Jakeman, posted by Jakeman on December 2, 2005, at 19:55:52
In the July 05 thread there was a discussion about setting up small boards and possible difficulties that would ensue.
I may be stating the obvious, but there are thousands of chat boards that have the main site registered with google but all the individual posts are limited to that site, they don't go into the google database. Sleepnet.com is one that comes to mind.
Someone may say, why don't you post on those?
That IS an option to be considered, given the heightened concerns of privacy on the internet. The internet is evolving. Maybe someday there will be a little box to check underneath your post saying "do not archive". Maybe that exists already.
warm regards ~Jake
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