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Posted by LostPirate on July 29, 2010, at 7:04:22
My T and I have dealt off and on for years with my CSA issues. The other day we had a pretty intense sessiondetails of a difficult incident with my abuser. That night I had a dream about my T. Which happens from time to time, but in this dream my T was coming on to me and molested me. Its very disturbing. I understand its a dream and it isnt totally derailing me, but it is unnerving. Do I tell her about this dream? If so, how in the world to I tell her? I cant imagine talking about it with her.
Posted by Dinah on July 29, 2010, at 8:00:51
In reply to Dream ? -- trigger, posted by LostPirate on July 29, 2010, at 7:04:22
Therapists are pretty understanding about dreams. I've told mine some pretty disturbing ones over the years, including the one where his wife told me he was a eunuch. They understand that while there is meaning in them, it isn't the most literal meaning.
I've told my therapist my dreams in different ways, from hiding my face in my lap and letting my hair fall over it, to accusingly, to matter-of-factly. I suppose he uses the way I tell him, along with the dream, to understand what's going on in the therapeutic relationship.
So yes, I would definitely tell her. If she's a well trained and competent therapist, it won't hurt or shock or surprise her. Any way you do it is ok. There is no special form.
I usually say something like "I dreamed about you after our last session". And while my eyes are generally averted, I can still see him perk up his head and wag his tail like a terrier catching a scent. Therapists, in my admittedly limited experience, love dreams about themselves. They must enjoy putting their training to use.
You're doing difficult and distressing work in therapy. I'd think dreams would be a not uncommon part of the process.
Posted by LostPirate on July 29, 2010, at 8:56:50
In reply to Dream ? -- trigger, posted by LostPirate on July 29, 2010, at 7:04:22
This is bothering me a lot more now that I thought. I may call her and see if I can go in today.
I dont know.
Posted by Dinah on July 29, 2010, at 10:34:39
In reply to Re: Dream ? -- trigger, posted by LostPirate on July 29, 2010, at 8:56:50
My therapist prefers that I do that rather than get more and more upset. How does your therapist feel about it? If she's ok with it, I'd go ahead and call. As my therapist always says, it's always ok to ask.
Posted by LostPirate on July 29, 2010, at 11:12:52
In reply to Re: Dream ? -- trigger » LostPirate, posted by Dinah on July 29, 2010, at 10:34:39
My therapist is awesome when it comes to asking for what I need...prob because i struggle with that so much.
I did call but she is busy all day. She offered to see me on her day off tomorrow but I took Monday instead. Her offer to see me really made me feel good though.
Posted by Dinah on July 29, 2010, at 15:11:37
In reply to Re: Dream ? -- trigger, posted by LostPirate on July 29, 2010, at 11:12:52
That *was* nice of her. :)
It sounds like something my therapist would do.
We're lucky in our therapists, aren't we?
Posted by tetrix on July 29, 2010, at 22:04:43
In reply to Re: Dream ? -- trigger » LostPirate, posted by Dinah on July 29, 2010, at 15:11:37
yes you are lucky, mine would never do that
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