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Horrible session; time to REALLY terminate?

Posted by healingmysoul on July 15, 2010, at 21:04:42

Sorry, I haven't been active in the forums, but my physical Sx have gotten the best of me.... I have been dealing with so much stress! My relationship with my husband, my five year old daughter who has a severe learning delay (possible autism spectrum).

Anyway my t has a thing were he takes off the summer, and seems to happen every summer. My Sx flair up in the summer due to humidity and this summer i have so much i am dealing with. My husband and i are having major problems because I knew my daughter had a delay since she was a baby and he always bade excuses, and prior to my daughter I gave up on life.

My t is great in many ways, but doesn't he think about his actions? he just took three weeks off for vacation and the week after next he will be taking off another 2-3 weeks off.

It just always seems like there is something. He took time off at christmas, in the spring. It just seems like there is always something and it is impacting my life and the progress I DO make in therapy. I understand T's have a life and need vacations and personal time, but isn't this a little over the top? In the past i have gotten angry and he blamed it on my abandonment issues.

I fired him a few years ago and went back to my first t, but went back to him. We really click, and he has said there is a great connection, but i feel like he doesn't take his job seriously and put it back on me. Am i being unreasonable?

 

Re: Horrible session; time to REALLY terminate? healingmysoul

Posted by TherapyGirl on July 16, 2010, at 10:23:17

In reply to Horrible session; time to REALLY terminate?, posted by healingmysoul on July 15, 2010, at 21:04:42

I'm so sorry. I don't know whether you should terminate or not -- only you can make that decision. I know for me, in the last few years with my now-retired T, she was out so much that it really broke up the momentum of my therapy. I didn't leave because I needed that time to say goodbye and prepare myself for a future without her.

I guess you need to sit down and weigh the pros and cons of this situation and see how it comes out.

Again, I'm so sorry you have to deal with this.

 

Re: Horrible session; time to REALLY terminate?

Posted by healingmysoul on July 16, 2010, at 22:40:12

In reply to Re: Horrible session; time to REALLY terminate? healingmysoul, posted by TherapyGirl on July 16, 2010, at 10:23:17

TherapyGirl,

I know it is a decision that i have to make, and realize that this time it will be for good. It's so hard when he isn't available, but don't think I can handle the loss of not having him in my life.. Even if it is not on a consistent basis...

 

Re: Horrible session; time to REALLY terminate? healingmysoul

Posted by MadelineRun on July 18, 2010, at 0:16:51

In reply to Horrible session; time to REALLY terminate?, posted by healingmysoul on July 15, 2010, at 21:04:42

Healingmysoul,

I truly understand the aches and pains of having a therapist leave for long periods of time. My own therapist frequently leaves to visit family. What helped me was talking about it EXTENSIVELY. I need(ed) the reassurance that she will return, she thinks of me, and she cares. When she went away for 2 weeks the first time, I was tempted to terminate. What I realized (with her help of course) was that I wanted to run away from her before she ran away from me. It's still hard to have her away, but each time I get a tiny bit stronger in knowing that she is in my heart. Ultimately, what matters (to me) is that she comes back and we resume therapy and we reconnect.

 

Re: Horrible session; time to REALLY terminate? healingmysoul

Posted by TherapyGirl on July 18, 2010, at 19:46:42

In reply to Re: Horrible session; time to REALLY terminate?, posted by healingmysoul on July 16, 2010, at 22:40:12

Preachin' to the choir. :-) I understand this dilemma completely. I'm thinking about you.

 

Re: Horrible session; time to REALLY terminate?

Posted by healingmysoul on July 18, 2010, at 21:46:09

In reply to Re: Horrible session; time to REALLY terminate? healingmysoul, posted by TherapyGirl on July 18, 2010, at 19:46:42

> Preachin' to the choir. :-) I understand this dilemma completely. I'm thinking about you.


OMG, this is really draining. I want to talk to him about it, but then he will twist it all around.... :-(

 

Re: Horrible session; time to REALLY terminate?

Posted by emmanuel98 on July 19, 2010, at 20:53:06

In reply to Re: Horrible session; time to REALLY terminate?, posted by healingmysoul on July 18, 2010, at 21:46:09

My T tends to go away for two weeks in the fall, two weeks in the spring, sometimes another week here or there. He is always around during the winter holidays and just goes to the cape (two hours away) for long weekends in the summer. I feel really lucky. So many people have T's who go away for 4 or 5 weeks at a time. I think that would do me in.

 

Re: Horrible session; time to REALLY terminate?

Posted by widget on July 27, 2010, at 17:44:02

In reply to Horrible session; time to REALLY terminate?, posted by healingmysoul on July 15, 2010, at 21:04:42

What is Sx? Sorry, I just do not know!

 

Re: Horrible session; time to REALLY terminate?

Posted by widget on July 27, 2010, at 17:44:08

In reply to Horrible session; time to REALLY terminate?, posted by healingmysoul on July 15, 2010, at 21:04:42

What is Sx? Sorry, I just do not know!

 

Sx = symptoms (nm) widget

Posted by 10derHeart on July 27, 2010, at 18:31:39

In reply to Re: Horrible session; time to REALLY terminate?, posted by widget on July 27, 2010, at 17:44:02


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