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my T is away -- now what?

Posted by ravsjc on April 17, 2010, at 20:01:33

I'm new. Thank you for this space and your collective wisdom.

My long-term T has been out since last week; her father is in hospice. She will be away until after he dies and the family sits shiva (they are Jewish; shiva is the 7 day intensive mourning period after a death). I feel empathy for her, and all that.

But, I also feel abandoned and panicky and I''m not coping well. I know it would be helpful to be talking or writing about my feelings or something (I am bipolar, with treatment-resistant bp depression), but mostly I am just shutting down. I feel so brittle. Any coping strategies? Reassurance that I'll make it through this? Thanks for listening.

 

Re: my T is away -- now what? ravsjc

Posted by Deneb on April 18, 2010, at 0:06:49

In reply to my T is away -- now what?, posted by ravsjc on April 17, 2010, at 20:01:33

Hello ravsjc

Welcome to Psycho-Babble! It sounds like it's a tough time for you right now without your T. I would suggest keeping yourself busy until your T comes back. That will make the days seem not as long. Try to do some things you enjoy to pass the time. Writing your thoughts and feelings in a journal or pretending to write letters to your T might also help you cope. You will make it through OK, just have faith in yourself.

Deneb

 

Re: my T is away -- now what? ravsjc

Posted by MadelineRun on April 18, 2010, at 0:20:14

In reply to my T is away -- now what?, posted by ravsjc on April 17, 2010, at 20:01:33

> I'm new. Thank you for this space and your collective wisdom.
>
> My long-term T has been out since last week; her father is in hospice. She will be away until after he dies and the family sits shiva (they are Jewish; shiva is the 7 day intensive mourning period after a death). I feel empathy for her, and all that.
>
> But, I also feel abandoned and panicky and I''m not coping well. I know it would be helpful to be talking or writing about my feelings or something (I am bipolar, with treatment-resistant bp depression), but mostly I am just shutting down. I feel so brittle. Any coping strategies? Reassurance that I'll make it through this? Thanks for listening.

Welcome to Babble.
I think it is helpful to remember that she will be back. As you think about her, remember that she will not forget about you in the time that she is away. I believe you'll make it through. Let yourself feel any pain or any other feelings that come up. And tell yourself that you will be okay.

 

Re: my T is away -- now what?

Posted by mystickangaroo on April 18, 2010, at 2:02:32

In reply to my T is away -- now what?, posted by ravsjc on April 17, 2010, at 20:01:33

Welcome to babble Ravsjc.

I find the unknown is a scary place. I agree with the other posters. Keep yourself busy and keep reminding yourself that your T is coming back. I know you don't know when but they have made a commitment to come back to you. and try not to feel bad if you doubt that. I know there are times I doubt my T's assurances.

all you have to manage is one day at a time. Easy to type and a challenge to live. Keep posting if that helps.

 

Re: my T is away -- now what?

Posted by rnny on April 18, 2010, at 23:31:47

In reply to my T is away -- now what?, posted by ravsjc on April 17, 2010, at 20:01:33

Your T is supposed to leave you in the hands of a T to cover for her if she is going to be away for any extended period of time. For some people an extended period of time could mean one missed session! I would call her service and tell her you need for her to arrange this for you whether her father is in hospice or not.


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