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To answer WIP about what is going on I will start

Posted by rskontos on August 30, 2009, at 2:38:14

I am in the cr*pp*rs. My brother-in-law died in a freaky accident, and today my FIL died. I am having gastric problems that makes it impossible to go anyway. I have stopped eating because all it does is cause pain and other things too unmentionable.

I don't feel capable to help my husband deal with the lost of his brother in law and father or my children. I can't get a hold of myself. I cry at the drop of a hat.

I really think I belong in a hospital but my p-doc doesn't agree.
I have extremely high anxiety.

therapy is at a stand still in my mind. ok i will stop I am a downer and depressing myself.

don't mind me and my piety party. My neighbor did come over to stay with me. I am alone with my husband and son in DC where my FIL died. I wasn't up to the flight. My DD is at school.

I need some tests done asap so then I can fly to DC for another funeral.

And i am dissociating all over the place. And the voices in my head, my parts are screaming.

but other than that I am peachy.

rsk

 

Re: To answer WIP about what is going on I will start

Posted by Dinah on August 30, 2009, at 9:40:02

In reply to To answer WIP about what is going on I will start, posted by rskontos on August 30, 2009, at 2:38:14

((( rsk )))

That's an awful lot to deal with at once. And hard to do when you're unwell.

Are the tests to figure out the GI problems?

Deep breaths. Concentrate on the smallest things that must be done, and try not to look at the big picture. Or at least I find that helpful.

 

Re: To answer WIP about what is going on I will start

Posted by workinprogress on August 30, 2009, at 12:37:28

In reply to To answer WIP about what is going on I will start, posted by rskontos on August 30, 2009, at 2:38:14

((((rsk))))))

That is a LOT to deal with all at once. And, it seems perfectly normal that you, a human, would have a hard time with it. Try to give yourself space and kindness about struggling, it's ok to struggle.

And I think Dinah's advice is really good, try not to look at everything at once.

Thanks for sharing rsk. And it's not a pity party, you're clearly overwhelmed and understandably so.

Hang in there... one thing, it WILL get better.

((((((((RSK))))))))

WIP

 

Re: To answer WIP about what is going on I will start

Posted by Phillipa on August 30, 2009, at 13:09:18

In reply to Re: To answer WIP about what is going on I will start, posted by workinprogress on August 30, 2009, at 12:37:28

Oh rsk how horrible. I kind of know what your're feeling too much at the same time and the GI problems intolerable. Well you know where I am. I'm supporting you. Love Phillipa

 

Re: To answer WIP about what is going on I will start rskontos

Posted by antigua3 on August 30, 2009, at 13:28:55

In reply to To answer WIP about what is going on I will start, posted by rskontos on August 30, 2009, at 2:38:14

I am so very, very sorry for all that's happened so recently--you certainly have more than one person can be expected to deal with at the same time, so give yourself some credit. You are functioning, but I can't imagine how hard it must be for you.

I'm struck dumb and don't know what else to say, except continue keeping a good eye on yourself, and call your T if you need to.
antigua

 

Re: To answer WIP about what is going on I will st Dinah

Posted by rskontos on August 31, 2009, at 21:40:40

In reply to Re: To answer WIP about what is going on I will start, posted by Dinah on August 30, 2009, at 9:40:02

> ((( rsk )))
>
> That's an awful lot to deal with at once. And hard to do when you're unwell.
>
> Are the tests to figure out the GI problems?
>
> Deep breaths. Concentrate on the smallest things that must be done, and try not to look at the big picture. Or at least I find that helpful.

Thanks Dinah,

My DD is home now so that helps me have someone to focus on and be strong for. I felt so bad this am. that I called and cancelled my session with t/p-doc. He called during my scheduled time and we talked about an hour. I had called him over the weekend during my very upset time.

Yes the tests are to find out GI what is going on. I do like my new gastroenterologist. He is very kind, understanding, and trying to help so that is good. He is the first one I have ever liked.

I will take your advice. Today I dissociated so badly at Starbucks I felt unglued. I know that is going to happen more once I get around my family. Uggg

Tomorrow i have jury duty. I just hope there is a bathroom nearby.

rsk
>
>

 

Re: To answer WIP about what is going on I will st workinprogress

Posted by rskontos on August 31, 2009, at 21:42:42

In reply to Re: To answer WIP about what is going on I will start, posted by workinprogress on August 30, 2009, at 12:37:28

> ((((rsk))))))
>
> That is a LOT to deal with all at once. And, it seems perfectly normal that you, a human, would have a hard time with it. Try to give yourself space and kindness about struggling, it's ok to struggle.
>
> And I think Dinah's advice is really good, try not to look at everything at once.
>
> Thanks for sharing rsk. And it's not a pity party, you're clearly overwhelmed and understandably so.
>
> Hang in there... one thing, it WILL get better.
>
> ((((((((RSK))))))))
>
> WIP

Oh WIP thanks so much I really needed that! YOu know the worst is I don't exactly remember starting this thread so I know that I was dissociating when I wrote it. It was only after I got a babblemail about what is going on I thought did I post something. Sigh...one day I hope this will go.

rsk

 

Re: To answer WIP about what is going on I will st Phillipa

Posted by rskontos on August 31, 2009, at 21:44:23

In reply to Re: To answer WIP about what is going on I will start, posted by Phillipa on August 30, 2009, at 13:09:18

> Oh rsk how horrible. I kind of know what your're feeling too much at the same time and the GI problems intolerable. Well you know where I am. I'm supporting you. Love Phillipa

Thanks Phillipa, I will answer your babblemail when I can.

I told my p-doc today via phone that I just don't feel strong enough to deal with all of this and he said I am stronger than I realize.

He did tell me to call or email whenever I need to. I will be missing two sessions. Sigh life is tough sometimes isnt' it.

take care and thanks

rsk

 

Re: To answer WIP about what is going on I will st antigua3

Posted by rskontos on August 31, 2009, at 21:50:07

In reply to Re: To answer WIP about what is going on I will start rskontos, posted by antigua3 on August 30, 2009, at 13:28:55

> I am so very, very sorry for all that's happened so recently--you certainly have more than one person can be expected to deal with at the same time, so give yourself some credit. You are functioning, but I can't imagine how hard it must be for you.
>
> I'm struck dumb and don't know what else to say, except continue keeping a good eye on yourself, and call your T if you need to.
> antigua

antigua,

just someone to say hey your still here is enough. thanks

I told WIP that I don't really even remember posting this so I am very dissociative right now and I hate it.

At Starbucks, I almost just ran out of the place, I started pacing and trying to figure out why I was there but my DD was with me and she did not notice so is was all internal. But it shook me.

I am taking xanax and going to bed. Let's hope I don't act looney at the courthouse tomorrow. I have jury duty. And I hope there is a bathroom close.

thanks i am trying....

rsk

My t and I had a phone session since I did not feel well enough to see him. That was nice of him and it went well. I said I would email him when things got too much and he said dump away and call me or email me it is fine. Everyday if i need to .

He was thrilled I called over the weekend to tell him what happened. He said that was major progress that i trusted him to call when I was so distraught. I said stop talking about it or I will get nervous and he laughed and said I understand.

He is nice. thanks, babble friends like you help.

rsk

 

Re: To answer WIP about what is going on I will st rskontos

Posted by antigua3 on August 31, 2009, at 22:54:53

In reply to Re: To answer WIP about what is going on I will st antigua3, posted by rskontos on August 31, 2009, at 21:50:07

Jury duty on top of all that????

I bet your T was thrilled you called. You reached out when you needed to. See, we don't have to do all of this alone, like we think we always have to! (Ha! maybe I'll follow my own advice)

I hope you're snoozing away and tomorrow is a little less stressful...
antigua

 

Re: To answer WIP about what is going on I will st antigua3

Posted by rskontos on September 1, 2009, at 16:47:51

In reply to Re: To answer WIP about what is going on I will st rskontos, posted by antigua3 on August 31, 2009, at 22:54:53

> Jury duty on top of all that????


Yep, but it wasn't too bad. Three dull hours of waiting, and then released because the defendant plead guilty.
>
> I bet your T was thrilled you called.


Yes he was so thrilled.

You reached out when you needed to. See, we don't have to do all of this alone, like we think we always have to! (Ha! maybe I'll follow my own advice)

Ha, I know how hard it is too reach out.
>
> I hope you're snoozing away and tomorrow is a little less stressful...


Well not yet but I plan on it. I had too many things to do after jury duty to go to sleep but I plan to very soon.

thanks


rsk

 

Re: To answer WIP about what is going on I will st

Posted by muffled on September 3, 2009, at 11:07:02

In reply to Re: To answer WIP about what is going on I will st antigua3, posted by rskontos on September 1, 2009, at 16:47:51

Shoot RSK sorry so much happening :(
If I getting looney I just keep saying 'its OK' over and over.
The logical one says 'this will pass'.
Ugh GI stuff, I get that when I mega stressed.
Glad you getting it looked at.
Hey, your T sounds OK.
Supportive, thats cool.
I am at a standstill w/T too.
My T is no spring chicken either.
I goto go, my puppydog goto have surgery and I worried.
Please take care.
Muffled


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