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Terms of endearment from T?

Posted by moonshadow on August 1, 2009, at 9:13:04

Lately, my old T has been calling me things like "dear" or "sweetie", very mom-like. Things I call my kids. I hate to say I like it, but I do.

Do other t's do that? I know my new, stiff, crotchety T would never cross that boundary, nor would I want her to.

 

Re: Terms of endearment from T? moonshadow

Posted by workinprogress on August 1, 2009, at 13:33:23

In reply to Terms of endearment from T?, posted by moonshadow on August 1, 2009, at 9:13:04

Mine does... and I love it. It used to be Sweetpea, more when I was really having a hard time. Not it is more likely sweetie. And, I have a diminutive of my first name that was my "kid name" growing up, she sometimes calls me that after I told her about it and gave her permission.

I think it's totally natural to enjoy feeling cared for and nurtured and looked out for... and those names evoke that feeling. It's a sort of intimacy...

> Lately, my old T has been calling me things like "dear" or "sweetie", very mom-like. Things I call my kids. I hate to say I like it, but I do.
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> Do other t's do that? I know my new, stiff, crotchety T would never cross that boundary, nor would I want her to.

 

Re: Terms of endearment from T?

Posted by LadyBug on August 1, 2009, at 20:30:08

In reply to Terms of endearment from T?, posted by moonshadow on August 1, 2009, at 9:13:04

Mine used to call me "my dear" or "hon". I liked it a lot.

I miss her, she retired.............last December.

 

Re: Terms of endearment from T?

Posted by backseatdriver on August 2, 2009, at 10:16:52

In reply to Re: Terms of endearment from T?, posted by LadyBug on August 1, 2009, at 20:30:08

I've a slightly off-center addition: My T doesn't use any terms of endearment; does not even use my name. This is how we discovered my identity disturbance, which had been mostly silent until now. I thought he was avoiding my name in order to surface the disturbance, but in fact he wasn't using it because he is afraid of the intimacy that, to him, such use would imply. We were coming at the same issue -- what to call me -- from totally different perspectives.

 

Re: Terms of endearment from T?

Posted by peddidle on August 5, 2009, at 1:26:57

In reply to Terms of endearment from T?, posted by moonshadow on August 1, 2009, at 9:13:04

My T uses more "friendly" as opposed to "motherly" terms of endearment-- "sister", "chick", "woman" are all words she commonly uses to refer to all people, not just clients. One of the many reasons I love [miss] her. I think age/generation plays a role in this, too-- she's in her mid-thirties (I'm in my early twenties), and I've heard her use these terms with people younger, older, and the same age as her. I like that kind of relationship/personality type of thing, but I'm sure there are some who don't. :)


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