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tried to contact former therapist to restart ;)(

Posted by surfergirl on June 9, 2009, at 23:57:56

Early last week I left a message with my former therapist requesting to restart therapy with him. I saw him for 3 years and "graduated" about 12 years ago. We were at an ending point then but left the door open. I saw him again briefly 2 years ago when I had cancer. I was not ready to restart full on therapy then even though I could have used it on one level, as I was focusing on the physical stuff.

I called him again today & left a message. Still no call back. I am worried about him, obsessing about my need for therapy, feeling a little rejected. This man knows more about my inner-workings than any other person...I am sad but still hoping to hear from him, even if it is to say "no"--no room in schedule, retired, won lottery, etc.

I am wondering if this is God's way of saying no...

 

Re: tried to contact former therapist to restart ;)(

Posted by Dinah on June 10, 2009, at 9:46:51

In reply to tried to contact former therapist to restart ;)(, posted by surfergirl on June 9, 2009, at 23:57:56

That's very odd.

I don't think it's God's way of saying no, I think this is all about your former therapist.

I hope he answers this call.

 

Re: tried to contact former therapist to restart ;)( surfergirl

Posted by Phillipa on June 10, 2009, at 10:30:59

In reply to tried to contact former therapist to restart ;)(, posted by surfergirl on June 9, 2009, at 23:57:56

That is strange since you know he's still in practice. I'm hoping he calls you soon. Please let use know if and when he calls back. Phillipa

 

Re: tried to contact former therapist to restart ;)(

Posted by BirdSong on June 10, 2009, at 16:31:34

In reply to Re: tried to contact former therapist to restart ;)( surfergirl, posted by Phillipa on June 10, 2009, at 10:30:59

Hope your T calls back. You know, many T's are on vacation around this time for some reason..so maybe your T is out.

Also, I suggest calling again. Sometimes answering machines/voice mails mess up. I would say "Hey T I am calling again to make sure you got my message, etc..."


Good luck.

 

Re: tried to contact former therapist to restart ;)(

Posted by surfergirl on June 10, 2009, at 18:53:56

In reply to Re: tried to contact former therapist to restart ;)(, posted by BirdSong on June 10, 2009, at 16:31:34

Thank you all. I appreciate everyone's support so much.

I need to clarify just a little...he will always be my "therapist" & had many clients at the time he saw me. He was more skilled in deep healing of painful memories, inner work, integration for me than the preceding 3 or 4 PhD/licensed therapists. He was gifted, had great intuition about where to go next. I could bring my artwork in for discussion. I was amazingly more emotionally healthy after my time with him & more able to live my life. He had great boundaries & helped me to develop boundaries as well.

BUT (don't laugh, ok?)

He had extensive post grad counseling including a masters in counseling...but he is actually a minister. He no longer does full time counseling, but last I know is a chaplain at a large rescue mission. With these hard times he is probably swamped with work there. He did see me during my cancer treatment...He would have seen me more but I felt too ill then.

I have had no contact since then. BTW, I have known where he lives for years...recognized his truck...on a street that I go down often. This was a weird thing for transference back when...But now that I am feeling needy of help again driving by his house is once again bizarro.

love, surfergirl

 

Re: tried to contact former therapist to restart ;)(

Posted by yellowbird01 on June 10, 2009, at 19:14:04

In reply to Re: tried to contact former therapist to restart ;)(, posted by surfergirl on June 10, 2009, at 18:53:56

Surfergirl, I dont think anyone here would even think to laugh about the idea that your therapist is a minister! In fact, I believe there may be others here whose therapists are pastoral counselors or religiously-affiliated in some way. Nothing wrong with that at all. If he's good and works for you, so be it! I have a similar story in that I've seen my current therapist for several periods, the first time when I was 18-19yo. I've had other therapists, but I'm back with her now, and she really is the best I've found for me. I really hope you hear back from him soon.

 

Re: tried to contact former therapist to restart ;)(

Posted by FindingMyDesire on June 10, 2009, at 19:19:16

In reply to tried to contact former therapist to restart ;)(, posted by surfergirl on June 9, 2009, at 23:57:56

Hi surfergirl,
No one here would laugh at you about a source of comfort and support!

I hope he is able to call you back soon and that you are able to reconnect.

Thinking of you as you wait,
FMD

 

Re: tried to contact former therapist to restart ;)(

Posted by surfergirl on June 10, 2009, at 22:35:31

In reply to Re: tried to contact former therapist to restart ;)(, posted by FindingMyDesire on June 10, 2009, at 19:19:16

> Hi surfergirl,
> No one here would laugh at you about a source of comfort and support!
>
> I hope he is able to call you back soon and that you are able to reconnect.
>
> Thinking of you as you wait,
> FMD

Thank you all...this is a pretty amazing place of love & support. I "know" that no one would laugh, but I still find myself needing reassurance. so THANKS!

surfergirl

 

Re: tried to contact former therapist to restart ;)( surfergirl

Posted by Phillipa on June 10, 2009, at 23:31:03

In reply to Re: tried to contact former therapist to restart ;)(, posted by surfergirl on June 10, 2009, at 22:35:31

And I've never welcomed you so I am now welcome surfergirl. Sure hope he calls soon. Glad you like it here I've been a member for quite a few years. Love Phillipa


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