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T wants me to go away to a retreat

Posted by Partlycloudy on January 14, 2009, at 15:44:52

To go away someplace to heal for a bit. Not inpatient, but something where I'd be fed, tended to, gently exercised (like at a spa, though the costs I looked at are prohibitive). She just about commanded me.

I have no emotional nor spiritual reserves. She wants me to get away from home and husband, away from the little things that are building up to become huge, insurmountable things in my head right now. Everything looks like a lose/lose situation in my skewed view, because I'm backed into this corner, and I've also lost my balance. I can see things are skewed, and that only makes me feel more like a failure - because I know my worldview is out of whack. (Great word, WHACK. That's me - whack-job.)

Visit to family is out, for their own reasons. I can't afford to check into some ritzy spa at hundreds of dollars a day, not after having two new front teeth installed over Christmas :-( My husband would have a cow. Day spa visits wouldn't really address the eating/nurturing/tucking me in at night (like I'm looking for a rent-a-Mommy). In my case, the real thing doesn't cut it.

Ideas would be appreciated - what can I cobble together that won't tax my currently limited powers of organization nor cost me the earth?


 

Re: T wants me to go away to a retreat Partlycloudy

Posted by antigua3 on January 14, 2009, at 15:56:28

In reply to T wants me to go away to a retreat, posted by Partlycloudy on January 14, 2009, at 15:44:52

Can I come?

Sorry, couldn't resist. Not trying to minimize what you're saying.

It sounds great, but I have no idea on how to find a place. I did meet someone once through a group thing who went out to the Southwest on a kind of "hiking" journey that wasn't outlandishly expensive. For two weeks minimum if I recall correctly. It was "spa-ish" in that food that was offered was "good" for her, and things like yoga were offered, and there was lots of time to get in tune with nature, which helped her spiritually.

I'm sorry I'm not much help! But if you can do it, afford it, and find something that fits the bill, I think you should do it. While I agree that you might be depleted, I also see you as "raw", which must be difficult. Kind of like you've been rubbed to the bone.

antigua

 

Re: T wants me to go away to a retreat antigua3

Posted by Partlycloudy on January 14, 2009, at 16:15:38

In reply to Re: T wants me to go away to a retreat Partlycloudy, posted by antigua3 on January 14, 2009, at 15:56:28

Yeah, I'm raw. And getting rawer.

Right now I'm thinking of hotel points so I get the meals taken care of, and maybe a place that has some spa services close by. We have hotel points saved up, so it would just be the ridiculous food charges and the spa stuff I would be putting on a tab. And maybe a place with a pool since the only time I've been feeling safe has been floating like some 46 year old fetus in my bathtub.

The spiritual journey would have to happen in my own head, maybe with a bunch of CDs and candles in the room.

I gotta make this happen. For everyones' sake.

 

Husband had a cow anyway. (nm)

Posted by Partlycloudy on January 14, 2009, at 17:06:26

In reply to Re: T wants me to go away to a retreat antigua3, posted by Partlycloudy on January 14, 2009, at 16:15:38

 

Re: T wants me to go away to a retreat

Posted by rskontos on January 14, 2009, at 18:47:25

In reply to T wants me to go away to a retreat, posted by Partlycloudy on January 14, 2009, at 15:44:52

Maybe t can help come up with places that do help people without the resources but great need?

There has to be places somewhere that don't just cater to the idle rich?

rsk

sorry you are hurting so much pc

 

Re: T wants me to go away to a retreat Partlycloudy

Posted by workinprogress on January 15, 2009, at 1:16:50

In reply to T wants me to go away to a retreat, posted by Partlycloudy on January 14, 2009, at 15:44:52

If you are anywhere near the west coast of the States. Or, can get to Portland, Oregon cheaply.. this might be an inexpensive option. I've never been and I get the sense it's a bit on the hippy dippy side (but not intolerably so- I don't mean to offend... I love me some hippies, but just trying to describe the place accurately and it works), but I've heard good things.

http://www.breitenbush.com/

There may be similar things throughout the country. In fact, Breitenbush might even know. Maybe give them a call if they aren't close.

Let us know what you decide. I think it's a great idea!

xo
WIP


> To go away someplace to heal for a bit. Not inpatient, but something where I'd be fed, tended to, gently exercised (like at a spa, though the costs I looked at are prohibitive). She just about commanded me.
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> I have no emotional nor spiritual reserves. She wants me to get away from home and husband, away from the little things that are building up to become huge, insurmountable things in my head right now. Everything looks like a lose/lose situation in my skewed view, because I'm backed into this corner, and I've also lost my balance. I can see things are skewed, and that only makes me feel more like a failure - because I know my worldview is out of whack. (Great word, WHACK. That's me - whack-job.)
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> Visit to family is out, for their own reasons. I can't afford to check into some ritzy spa at hundreds of dollars a day, not after having two new front teeth installed over Christmas :-( My husband would have a cow. Day spa visits wouldn't really address the eating/nurturing/tucking me in at night (like I'm looking for a rent-a-Mommy). In my case, the real thing doesn't cut it.
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> Ideas would be appreciated - what can I cobble together that won't tax my currently limited powers of organization nor cost me the earth?
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Re: T wants me to go away to a retreat Partlycloudy

Posted by Sigismund on January 15, 2009, at 2:08:23

In reply to T wants me to go away to a retreat, posted by Partlycloudy on January 14, 2009, at 15:44:52

This is sensible.....

>To go away someplace to heal for a bit. Not inpatient, but something where I'd be fed, tended to, gently exercised (like at a spa, though the costs I looked at are prohibitive). She just about commanded me.

But I was hauled up by

>Visit to family is out, for their own reasons.

Would that be a good idea?
(Please do not take offence.)

The question is...... where can you have a holiday the thought of which does not send you into a negative spiral?

What would I think of doing if I lived where you do?

Somewhere south of the border, I guess.

 

Re: T wants me to go away to a retreat

Posted by Sigismund on January 15, 2009, at 2:14:47

In reply to Re: T wants me to go away to a retreat Partlycloudy, posted by antigua3 on January 14, 2009, at 15:56:28

I used to go to isolated parts of Tasmania and walk for 6 hours a day in lovely scenery, and maybe speak to one person a day, maybe none.

Mostly I felt a bit of a basket case, but nothing too serious. Still, it was good, in many ways.

It just depends on how bad you feel.

There is a lot to be said for getting away from everyone.

Fergal Sharky was completely wrong when he sang
'anything is better than being alone'.

 

I don't think I can travel right now.

Posted by Partlycloudy on January 15, 2009, at 6:34:04

In reply to Husband had a cow anyway. (nm), posted by Partlycloudy on January 14, 2009, at 17:06:26

After my husband gave birth to a cow, I called my T in hysterics. He calmed down, apologized, she called back, made certain I was safe (I was really frightened - he NEVER gets angry), and he's going to try to find me a short, likely local hotel stay with the various points he keeps accruing with his business travel. It's doable. He thought that I was telling him that he was making me sicker - which I wasn't - I was telling him that I need some extra TLC that I know he can't give me right now, because he has too much on his own plate. He had gone off initially and told me not to bother coming back if he was making me so sick. It was just awful.

We'll try to find a hotel with easy access to a spa. So I can get some girly seeing to, like a facial and getting my nails done. And make some visits to my yoga studio, I can schedule that in.

It's the best I can come up with. Meanwhile, T wants to talk with my husband again. He's dealing with some enormous strains, but this just isn't going well at all, and I'm paying a rather high price that I can ill afford.

 

Sorry about the cow (nm) Partlycloudy

Posted by antigua3 on January 15, 2009, at 10:03:41

In reply to I don't think I can travel right now., posted by Partlycloudy on January 15, 2009, at 6:34:04

 

Re: I don't think I can travel right now.

Posted by Partlycloudy on January 15, 2009, at 11:28:11

In reply to I don't think I can travel right now., posted by Partlycloudy on January 15, 2009, at 6:34:04

Booked into a nice ritzy hotel, close but not too close. Hotel points paid for one night, used my AAA discount for a half priced room for another night.

Found a spa close by and booked a facial for one afternoon, and a pedicure for the next day.

Will be bringing my highly scented candles, some junky magazines, and don't plan to watch any TV (news) or read the paper (news). Celebrities don't count, right?

Might have dinner with my husband one evening and ask that he leave the cow at home. Haven't decided on that one.

Will start the mini getaway with a stop at my yoga studio for a class.

That's PartlyCloudy's retreat on-the-cheap. Not bad for an emergency.

 

Re: I don't think I can travel right now. Partlycloudy

Posted by Phillipa on January 15, 2009, at 12:33:28

In reply to Re: I don't think I can travel right now., posted by Partlycloudy on January 15, 2009, at 11:28:11

Hope it works well for you right now I'd give anything for a nice warm beach and a first on pedicure manicure. But with economy will never happen for me. My Daughter goes to spas regularily lucky her. Have a wonderful time. Love Phillipa

 

Re: I don't think I can travel right now.

Posted by DAisym on January 15, 2009, at 22:43:22

In reply to Re: I don't think I can travel right now., posted by Partlycloudy on January 15, 2009, at 11:28:11

Nice job getting this organized. Be careful with candles in the hotel room, I think those might be against the rules these days.

Love the idea of going out a little bit but not too much each day. I hope you can find a fireplace to sit in front of in the lobby. People watching can be fun too.

I'm proud of you for following through.

 

Re: T wants me to go away to a retreat Partlycloudy

Posted by Kath on January 18, 2009, at 19:33:21

In reply to T wants me to go away to a retreat, posted by Partlycloudy on January 14, 2009, at 15:44:52

> Ideas would be appreciated - what can I cobble together that won't tax my currently limited powers of organization nor cost me the earth?

~ ~ ~

Come & stay with me!!!

If you:

1) accept us as we are

2) don't wear perfume

you're 'in'!!

luv & hugs & not kidding! luv, Kath

AND I asked DH & we'd be find with you staying for 7 days.

There ya go! I'd even pick you up at the airport or wherever.

Anyway, I'm not joking & I do understand that it might feel TOTALLY uncomfortable.

luv, Kath


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