Psycho-Babble Psychology Thread 837706

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I am going to break the final tie with my old T

Posted by Happyflower on July 2, 2008, at 18:40:57

I used to belong to this gym when I was 16, and bought a lifetime membership. It isn't as nice as the one I go to now, but it is free for me plus my daughter can join. It will save me 70 bucks a month, but will increase my driving 8 roundtrip miles a day. Plus I will not see my T , it is not coed.

It isn't worth it for me to have my T deal with this stressful situation right now. I am doing this because I need to cut back expenses AND stop seeing my T. I am breaking the final emotional bond. Out of sight out of mind I believe.
Because whenever I see him it stirs up such feelings in me. What do you all think? I know I will still have to deal with those feelings and issues in therapy still.

 

Re: I am going to break the final tie with my old T Happyflower

Posted by Poet on July 2, 2008, at 18:57:41

In reply to I am going to break the final tie with my old T, posted by Happyflower on July 2, 2008, at 18:40:57

Hi Happyflower,

I think you made a very hard decision and that you realize that you need to cut as many ties as possible with your old T. Think of it as saving money, allowing your daughter to work out with you, and in the long run saving you from all of the issues related to seeing your T. Good for you.

Poet

 

Re: I am going to break the final tie with my old T Happyflower

Posted by lucie lu on July 2, 2008, at 19:03:04

In reply to I am going to break the final tie with my old T, posted by Happyflower on July 2, 2008, at 18:40:57

Sounds like a great plan HF. By doing so, you are taking control of the situation, which is bound to make you feel better. And stronger - you go girl!
Lucie

 

Re: I am going to break the final tie with my old Poet

Posted by Happyflower on July 2, 2008, at 19:45:23

In reply to Re: I am going to break the final tie with my old T Happyflower, posted by Poet on July 2, 2008, at 18:57:41

Thanks Poet,

I know it is the right thing to do but I am going to miss those relationship I have formed. But hopefully I will meet new people and feel as comfortable as the old place. Kinda like Cheers, where everyone knows your name. How are things with you Poet. You gotta start posting because I get in trouble with not sharing the boards. lol

 

Re: I am going to break the final tie with my old lucie lu

Posted by Happyflower on July 2, 2008, at 19:46:14

In reply to Re: I am going to break the final tie with my old T Happyflower, posted by lucie lu on July 2, 2008, at 19:03:04

Thanks Lucie!

Did you have another babble name before this one, you sound so familar to me.

 

Re: I am going to break the final tie with my old T

Posted by meme3842 on July 2, 2008, at 20:10:26

In reply to I am going to break the final tie with my old T, posted by Happyflower on July 2, 2008, at 18:40:57

It's sounds like a difficult decision, but in the long run it will help you. I really hope that you can continue to talk about the feelings with the new therapist. I imagine they will come up, and you might second guess yourself. So make sure to keep talking about the feelings it brings up.

I can't imagine breaking ties completely with my old therapist right now. But then again, she was actually really good for me. And from everything I read about your relationship with your old therapist, it sounds like he wasn't nearly as supportive as he should have been.

meme

 

Re: I am going to break the final tie with my old T

Posted by Phillipa on July 3, 2008, at 12:33:00

In reply to Re: I am going to break the final tie with my old T, posted by meme3842 on July 2, 2008, at 20:10:26

Happyflower sounds like the perfect solution for you and I'm sure you will meet new friends maybe even like the new gym better. Love Phillipa

 

Good for you, HF ! (nm)

Posted by backseatdriver on July 3, 2008, at 14:13:30

In reply to I am going to break the final tie with my old T, posted by Happyflower on July 2, 2008, at 18:40:57

 

Re: I am going to break the final tie with my old Happyflower

Posted by lucie lu on July 3, 2008, at 20:10:29

In reply to Re: I am going to break the final tie with my old lucie lu, posted by Happyflower on July 2, 2008, at 19:46:14


HF - No, I have only posted under this name on this board. Maybe I just remind you of someone. Hope it was a good remembrance :)
-LL

 

Thanks everyone

Posted by Happyflower on July 4, 2008, at 10:35:50

In reply to Re: I am going to break the final tie with my old Happyflower, posted by lucie lu on July 3, 2008, at 20:10:29

While I am having 2nd thoughts, can I really leave him forever? But I think I have to.

 

Re: I am going to break the final tie with my old Happyflower

Posted by Poet on July 4, 2008, at 18:35:07

In reply to Re: I am going to break the final tie with my old Poet, posted by Happyflower on July 2, 2008, at 19:45:23

Hi Happyflower,

I haven't posted much because I don't think I'm capable of offering much good advice these days. I'm depressed, working a part-time job that is heading toward mindlessville at a rapid pace and just cuts into my meager unemployment check instead of enhancing it. Can't quit or I lose the umeployment. My lfe is a big fat catch 22 right now, but I should use babble not ignore it. Thanks for asking.

Poet


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