Psycho-Babble Psychology Thread 794744

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Feeling really sad ;(

Posted by happyflower on November 12, 2007, at 23:26:56

Baby Lia is really struggling tonight, they say she might not make it. She is refusing to eat now for a couple of days and her heart rate is over 200. She stops breathing for a couple of minutes then come back. It is so sad, it is so hard, sorry for reporting such sad stuff, but life sometimes is just sad you know.

Tonight at our Jazz ensemble listening party, one member had a weird Al shirt on and it reminded me of my brother who was a big fan. I still can't believe he is really gone.

 

Re: Feeling really sad ;( happyflower

Posted by Phillipa on November 13, 2007, at 0:16:55

In reply to Feeling really sad ;(, posted by happyflower on November 12, 2007, at 23:26:56

Oh dear so sorry poor baby Lia was hoping for a miracle. Happyflower you have so much on you now please take care of yourself. So sorry about your brother. Love Phillipa

 

Re: Feeling really sad ;(

Posted by 10derHeart on November 13, 2007, at 0:49:23

In reply to Re: Feeling really sad ;( happyflower, posted by Phillipa on November 13, 2007, at 0:16:55

HF, I don't have the right words to say. Perhaps there just aren't any.

It's so very difficult, I can't even begin to imagine. All I know to do is to pray for you and your family often. And I have and I will.

(((((((HF and Baby Lia)))))))))

 

Re: Feeling really sad ;(

Posted by gardenergirl on November 13, 2007, at 10:34:47

In reply to Re: Feeling really sad ;(, posted by 10derHeart on November 13, 2007, at 0:49:23

I'm so sorry, happyflower. You've had a lot come down on you lately, and it sounds like the stress continues. The sadness says a lot about the depth of your feelings. I hope that some of the sorrow is interspersed with smiles, even if tearful ones, at warm remembrances and happy moments.

Thinking of you,
gg

 

Re: Feeling really sad ;(

Posted by LadyBug on November 13, 2007, at 14:41:04

In reply to Re: Feeling really sad ;(, posted by gardenergirl on November 13, 2007, at 10:34:47

Happyflower,
I don't have much to give right now but my heart hurts for you. I'm so sorry about baby Lia and for your brother. I hope she can get to where she is going without too much more of a struggle. She's been a trooper. I'm so sorry about your brother.
Hugs
LadyBug
PS I looked at your blog, it's very nice.

 

Baby Lia has gone to heaven

Posted by happyflower on November 13, 2007, at 16:01:11

In reply to Re: Feeling really sad ;(, posted by LadyBug on November 13, 2007, at 14:41:04

a couple of hours ago she passed away in her parents arms. (((((((my little angel))))))

 

Re: Baby Lia has gone to heaven

Posted by arora on November 13, 2007, at 16:19:00

In reply to Baby Lia has gone to heaven, posted by happyflower on November 13, 2007, at 16:01:11

I cannot imagine how you must feel right now- all I can say is that I am so, so sorry.
You are in my thoughts, and her parents, too.

I have a little shrine that I meditate in front of sometimes- I will go right now and light a candle there for Lia, and for those who love her, and grieve for her.

all my love-
arora

 

Re: Baby Lia has gone to heaven

Posted by Justherself54 on November 13, 2007, at 16:32:41

In reply to Re: Baby Lia has gone to heaven, posted by arora on November 13, 2007, at 16:19:00

I'm so sorry..my deepest condolences to you and your family in this difficult time..

 

Re: Baby Lia has gone to heaven

Posted by rskontos on November 13, 2007, at 18:18:21

In reply to Baby Lia has gone to heaven, posted by happyflower on November 13, 2007, at 16:01:11

(((((((((((((BabyLia and Her Family))))))))))))))))))))

I am so sorry for your loss and her parents and the whole family!!!!!! It was a joy and a blessing to have her for the time given and now she has her wings for surely one so young and so innocent will be an angel!!!!!!!!!!!

rk

 

Re: Baby Lia has gone to heaven happyflower

Posted by TherapyGirl on November 13, 2007, at 18:41:12

In reply to Baby Lia has gone to heaven, posted by happyflower on November 13, 2007, at 16:01:11

I'm so sorry, HF. I'm thinking about you and your family. I'm grateful that you all had this time with her, though.

((((((((((((((HappyFlower)))))))))))))

 

Re: Baby Lia has gone to heaven

Posted by Phillipa on November 13, 2007, at 20:18:34

In reply to Re: Baby Lia has gone to heaven happyflower, posted by TherapyGirl on November 13, 2007, at 18:41:12

So, so sorry ((((((Happyflower))))))). May baby Lia spread her wings wand fly with the wind and birds. And may her spirit always be with you and family. Love Phillipa

 

Re: Baby Lia has gone to heaven

Posted by happyflower on November 13, 2007, at 20:24:12

In reply to Re: Baby Lia has gone to heaven, posted by Phillipa on November 13, 2007, at 20:18:34

Thank you everyone for being so kind, it means a lot. I think I am still in shock even though I knew it was coming. The funeral will be on Sat., I have never been to a baby funeral, I have a feeling it has to be one of the hardest.

When they came to pick up Lia from their home, my grandson who is 2, kept saying , she is MY baby. (he didn't want them to take her) That brought everyone to tears, it was so difficult. I am not sure what exactly I am feeling right now, I am just numb. Thanks everyone again, you all have helped me so much during this month. (((babblers)))

 

Re: Baby Lia has gone to heaven happyflower

Posted by frida on November 13, 2007, at 20:26:25

In reply to Re: Baby Lia has gone to heaven, posted by happyflower on November 13, 2007, at 20:24:12

dear happyflower

i am in tears reading this..

how very, very sad and painful. I was hoping for a miracle for Baby Lia.
How hard to let her go. So heartbreaking.

sending you love and support

I am so sorry
Frida

 

Re: Baby Lia has gone to heaven

Posted by Phillipa on November 13, 2007, at 20:33:10

In reply to Re: Baby Lia has gone to heaven happyflower, posted by frida on November 13, 2007, at 20:26:25

Happyflower normal to feel this way. Make sure you get a lock of hair and hand print and footprint. I know it doesn't sound important now later it will be. And remember to happy times although there were not that many. Love Phillipa

 

Re: Baby Lia has gone to heaven Phillipa

Posted by happyflower on November 13, 2007, at 20:48:04

In reply to Re: Baby Lia has gone to heaven, posted by Phillipa on November 13, 2007, at 20:33:10

Thanks Phillipa,

She has all the stuff, they helped her do it in the hospital when they were there. One volunteer even made a little bead bracelet with Lia name on it, one for Lia and one for her mom. My daughter seems determined to finish her quit tomorrow as a rememberance. I even have a copy of the recording that I played last week dedicated to her. Maybe they will use it for the funeral, I don't know. I am so glad I could do my little part. Thanks again Phillipa, you have been such a strong support for me, I wish I could be there more for you too, I know you are having a rough time.

 

Re: Baby Lia has gone to heaven happyflower

Posted by Poet on November 13, 2007, at 21:03:02

In reply to Re: Baby Lia has gone to heaven Phillipa, posted by happyflower on November 13, 2007, at 20:48:04

Hi Happyflower,

I'm so sorry to hear about Baby Lia. I think the quilt your daughter is doing is a wonderful way to keep memories of Baby Lia with you. I hope they choose to play your recording.

(((((Happy Flower))))))

Poet

 

Re: Baby Lia has gone to heaven happyflower

Posted by LittleGirlLost on November 13, 2007, at 21:05:27

In reply to Baby Lia has gone to heaven, posted by happyflower on November 13, 2007, at 16:01:11

Happyflower,

I'm so sorry for your loss; my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Baby Lia was quite a fighter and I'm glad you were able to have some time with her; try to cherish that. Didn't you tell us a photographer came and took some pictures of her? I'll bet they came out beautiful. Lia is a precious little angel.

Thinking of you.
LGL

 

Re: Baby Lia has gone to heaven happyflower

Posted by Phillipa on November 13, 2007, at 21:24:36

In reply to Re: Baby Lia has gone to heaven Phillipa, posted by happyflower on November 13, 2007, at 20:48:04

Happyflower take care of you and your family now. Glad the nurses did it last week. And your dedication would be wonderful. Could you record it and when you do feel a need not that you may ever post a pic. Don't think of me now you have so much to go through. My heart is with you and Lia and family. Love Phillipa

 

Re: Baby Lia has gone to heaven happyflower

Posted by 10derHeart on November 13, 2007, at 22:17:35

In reply to Baby Lia has gone to heaven, posted by happyflower on November 13, 2007, at 16:01:11

oh, HF, I am crying posting this, but I think I can say a little.

"Baby Lia has gone to heaven"

Yes, she actually HAS, you know. Well, at least I believe it wholeheartedly, and so do millions. That is the only way I can ever get through things as deeply sad as this. I know nothing can ever really justify or completely heal the pain of the loss of a baby. We don't know why He needed her back, and it's excruciating, but I hope at some point imagining how pain-free and loved she is by Him gives comfort.

You are so brave and amazing for being able and willing to share all this with us.

 

Re: Baby Lia has gone to heaven happyflower

Posted by ells on November 13, 2007, at 22:28:09

In reply to Baby Lia has gone to heaven, posted by happyflower on November 13, 2007, at 16:01:11

I am so very sorry HappyFlower. I'm new here and I don't know all the details, but nonetheless, I'm in tears for you and your family. May her memory bless you and keep you.

 

Re: Baby Lia has gone to heaven happyflower

Posted by LadyBug on November 13, 2007, at 23:01:49

In reply to Re: Baby Lia has gone to heaven, posted by happyflower on November 13, 2007, at 20:24:12

Happyflower,
Baby Lia blessed your lives for a few weeks longer than anyone thought she would. May it give you peace to remember her sweet spirit. I'm so glad your daughter wants to finish the quilt. It will be a treasure. You, your kids and family are in my thoughts and prayers. I hope they play your song at the funeral especially since it was for her. How special for you in remembrance. My heart breaks for you. Babies are so precious. Thanks for sharing her with us.
She came into the world to serve her purpose. I'm sure you've all learned a new level of love.
I'm so sorry for your pain. Know that you are loved and cared about.
Hugs and Love my Friend
LadyBug

 

Re: Baby Lia has gone to heaven happyflower

Posted by MidnightBlue on November 13, 2007, at 23:59:36

In reply to Baby Lia has gone to heaven, posted by happyflower on November 13, 2007, at 16:01:11

Happyflower,

I'm so sorry, but at least you had some time with her. Hugs and prayers.

Midnightblue

 

Re: Baby Lia has gone to heaven happyflower

Posted by Wittgenstein on November 14, 2007, at 4:56:18

In reply to Baby Lia has gone to heaven, posted by happyflower on November 13, 2007, at 16:01:11

Dear Happyflower,

I'm so very sorry for this tragic news. My heart goes out to you and your family.

I'm not sure what more I can say - you are in my thoughts and heart.

Witti

 

Re: Baby Lia has gone to heaven

Posted by Dory on November 14, 2007, at 15:09:10

In reply to Re: Baby Lia has gone to heaven happyflower, posted by Wittgenstein on November 14, 2007, at 4:56:18

i'm sorry HF. i truly am. It's something that never entirely goes away, but i hope you can focus on how much love she had in her short time here.. she warmed hearts IRL and here.

 

Re: Baby Lia has gone to heaven

Posted by I need a hug on November 14, 2007, at 17:04:38

In reply to Re: Baby Lia has gone to heaven, posted by Dory on November 14, 2007, at 15:09:10

Happyflower,
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I'm new here but it's easy to see you are a much-beloved member of the Babble community by the out-pouring of love and support being extended to you and your family. May this be a comfort to you during this difficult time. HUGS


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