Psycho-Babble Psychology Thread 769094

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RE: Comments by Therapist

Posted by OzLand on July 11, 2007, at 22:55:37

Today my therapist made the comment that he "welcomes" working with me. I am not sure what he means by that. He didn't say he liked me or liked working with me, and if I asked him if he liked me, then we would end up exploring why that was so important to me. I think he would say yes, but we would still have to explore the issue. So, me; I avoid asking. Dumb. It just seems like an odd thing to say that he welcomes working with me. And I don't think he means he is grateful either.

Many therapists would run as fast as they could in the other direction. My previous one was trying to, I think with his telling me a year ago to find someone else and then in early May this year when I decided he was right before; I should find someone else. This was when he was getting angry with me for being upset that my memory sucked after the ECT he recommended for almost two years.

 

RE: Comments by Therapist

Posted by Racer on July 11, 2007, at 23:25:42

In reply to RE: Comments by Therapist, posted by OzLand on July 11, 2007, at 22:55:37

It's funny -- I had an exchange about this with my T. I didn't ask whether she liked me, because I didn't want to get into that. We talk enough about transference without getting into that, too!

I said something about not really understanding all the people who worry so much about whether or not their Ts like them. I just kinda assume that, if we're able to work well together, it's because we like one another. I think that was a way of checking in with her, and I'm sure she took it that way.

So, I guess I don't understand it -- I just do it?

 

RE: Comments by Therapist OzLand

Posted by peddidle on July 12, 2007, at 10:55:55

In reply to RE: Comments by Therapist, posted by OzLand on July 11, 2007, at 22:55:37

I agree, it seems like an odd comment. I don't know in what context that comment was made, but maybe it was just a poor choice of words. Maybe he meant he looks forward to working with you, or feels that the two of you will work well together.

 

RE: Comments by Therapist OzLand

Posted by susan47 on July 12, 2007, at 19:25:11

In reply to RE: Comments by Therapist, posted by OzLand on July 11, 2007, at 22:55:37

It doesn't seem odd at all in the context that it's his job to encourage you to feel good about yourself. Does he know about your last therapist? That would be a good motivation for him as well. I don't think a good therapist would pass up an opportunity to help a client feel good if that were possible. So I think it sounds like a completely accurate and helpful thing to say, really.

 

RE: Comments by Therapist susan47

Posted by OzLand on July 12, 2007, at 20:24:53

In reply to RE: Comments by Therapist OzLand, posted by susan47 on July 12, 2007, at 19:25:11

Yes my therapist knows about my previous therapist and thinks it was not such a good thing how he handled things. My current therapist is a psychoanalyst, and I think he meant he likes working with me. He has said so before. I don't really think he will turn on me like the previous psychiatrist who had no business trying to work with me on the abuse issues. I found an outline I made out for the previous therapist re how we could work on my abuse issues in such a way as for me to not unravel. He thought it was good but never followed it, and though I have worked as a psychologist, you cannot expect the patient to manage and contain this sort of thing in a session. My current therapist is trained and has lots of experience working with abuse issues, eating disorders, etc. So, I think we will work out well. I like him a lot, and I think he likes me. I don't think that is something one can fake unless he or she is a psychopath.


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