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Re: you are an inspiration dear (nm) fallsfall

Posted by zenhussy on August 29, 2005, at 23:16:55

In reply to Not much to talk about in therapy BECAUSE..., posted by fallsfall on August 29, 2005, at 15:33:44

 

Re: Not much to talk about in therapy BECAUSE...

Posted by gardenergirl on August 29, 2005, at 23:28:29

In reply to Re: Not much to talk about in therapy BECAUSE... fallsfall, posted by Poet on August 29, 2005, at 22:15:56

Thanks for sharing such a positive experience with us.
You are awesome!

gg

 

Re: Not much to talk about in therapy BECAUSE... fallsfall

Posted by fairywings on August 30, 2005, at 7:33:19

In reply to Not much to talk about in therapy BECAUSE..., posted by fallsfall on August 29, 2005, at 15:33:44

Sounds like you're getting the qualifications they require, you love the place and the work, and are qualified up to those last credentials, what more could they ask for? I hope you get it!
When will you know?

Good luck!
fw

 

Re: Not much to talk about in therapy BECAUSE...

Posted by B2chica on August 30, 2005, at 12:07:46

In reply to Re: Not much to talk about in therapy BECAUSE... fallsfall, posted by fairywings on August 30, 2005, at 7:33:19

that's fantastic news! it's good to hear the accomplishments of babblers too!
you've worked so hard. you deserve these good feelings...you've earned it!
(((hugs)))
b2c.

 

My funny therapist B2chica

Posted by fallsfall on September 1, 2005, at 11:11:32

In reply to Re: Not much to talk about in therapy BECAUSE..., posted by B2chica on August 30, 2005, at 12:07:46

Thank you all for your good wishes. The woman I work with who is on the search committee said that I did "very well" in the interview and that the chair of the committee had never seen such an honest interview. The board of trustees is meeting tonight and I expect that the search committee will give their report. There was also a good candidate (with a degree) who interviewed last week.

Yesterday I went to Vocational Rehabilitation to go over some testing I had done. I looked through job descriptions based on the results of the testing and found an occupation that sounds really interesting and just up my alley (Operations Research Analyst). I need to do more research about schooling and where the jobs are. So we were talking in therapy about this. And talking about how it seemed worth looking into. It is much more like what I used to do (and the real question is whether it is *different* enough from what I used to do).

So I said "The real question is what will I say if they offer me the job [before I have a chance to do the research on this other path]?"
Him: That is easy to answer
I raised my eyebrows and he said quickly
Him: You take the job.
This is the man who never expresses an opinion on anything. Who never is directive...
Me: This from "Mr. Never-has-an-opinion"?

A little later he did ask me what I thought the answer should be - and I think I'll take the job. But it was SO funny that he had a strong opinion and actually told me what it was - almost like he thought I was going to ruin everything.

I laughed all the way home.

 

Re: My funny therapist :) fallsfall

Posted by Annierose on September 1, 2005, at 14:16:43

In reply to My funny therapist B2chica, posted by fallsfall on September 1, 2005, at 11:11:32

Thanks for sharing that story. Very cute indeed. Definitely take the job. Being a librarian affords you the opportunity to research the possible new career path while getting paid for your new position at the library!! (awkward sentence alert)

I love it when our T's express an opinion from the seat of their pants without thinking about it first. He cares so much about you!

I have my fingers and toes crossed.

 

Re: My funny therapist :)

Posted by gardenergirl on September 1, 2005, at 14:39:48

In reply to Re: My funny therapist :) fallsfall, posted by Annierose on September 1, 2005, at 14:16:43

(Dang it! I hate that darned Microsoft key on the right side of the keyboard. It's too close to the shift key, and I often hit that instead, which pulls up some stupid menu which must have a "annoy the snot out of user by erasing everything" function that I happen to "click" by continuing to type before I realize I've pulled up that stupid menu!!!!!!!! I HATE THAT KEY!!!)

Okay, what I was typing before it got erased...I call those moments in therapy "blurt moments". When I do it, it's usually a gut-honest, can't help myself from blurting kind of thing. Sometimes I backpedal and go back to the usual, "what do you think?" stance, but most of the time, I just own up to my reaction and go from there.

Whew! didn't get erased this time...can I rip that key off my keyboard? Any way to disable it?

Good luck, falls!

gg

 

you have really blossomed!

Posted by Joslynn on September 1, 2005, at 16:34:36

In reply to Not much to talk about in therapy BECAUSE..., posted by fallsfall on August 29, 2005, at 15:33:44

I don't think I've ever posted to you falls, but I read a lot more than I post, and if I am remember the "previous" you correctly, you have really made leaps and bounds! Even your posting style has changed. I just wanted to mention that. I am not on here a lot, so I notice those changes more I think.

 

Thanks! (nm) Annierose

Posted by fallsfall on September 1, 2005, at 17:11:37

In reply to Re: My funny therapist :) fallsfall, posted by Annierose on September 1, 2005, at 14:16:43

 

Re: My funny therapist :) gardenergirl

Posted by fallsfall on September 1, 2005, at 17:13:26

In reply to Re: My funny therapist :), posted by gardenergirl on September 1, 2005, at 14:39:48

"Blurt moments" I like the term!!

You can pull the key off, but if it leaves a little post sticking up, the post could be as dangerous as the key. You could try to build a little roof over the key so you couldn't press it...

 

Re: you have really blossomed! Joslynn

Posted by fallsfall on September 1, 2005, at 17:14:09

In reply to you have really blossomed!, posted by Joslynn on September 1, 2005, at 16:34:36

Thanks, Joslynn,

Yes, life has changed for me quite a lot in the last 6 months. Feels pretty good!

 

Argh... The meeting tonight...

Posted by fallsfall on September 1, 2005, at 17:15:55

In reply to you have really blossomed!, posted by Joslynn on September 1, 2005, at 16:34:36

The trustees are interviewing the other guy (the one who already has a degree) tonight.

But I do have some good support among the trustees, or maybe he won't want the job, maybe it doesn't pay enough for him, maybe they'll love me more.

So hard to be patient.

 

Re: Argh... The meeting tonight... fallsfall

Posted by daisym on September 1, 2005, at 19:12:17

In reply to Argh... The meeting tonight..., posted by fallsfall on September 1, 2005, at 17:15:55

It really is hard to be patient. Distraction works for stuff like this sometimes. But the best thing is that you have done the best you can and really made a case for yourself. No matter what the outcome you should be so proud of yourself. I am!

I think you deserve gourmet ice cream and in several flavors. With toppings. Don't forget the cherry on top. Served in a beautiful bowl with a silver spoon and a flower on your tray.

Wish I was there to share it. :)
Hugs,
Daisy

 

Marking time

Posted by fallsfall on September 14, 2005, at 7:49:42

In reply to Re: Argh... The meeting tonight... fallsfall, posted by daisym on September 1, 2005, at 19:12:17

The trustees liked the degreed guy (and from what I've heard he really would be pretty good). They are checking his references (how long does it take to check references??). They were going to offer him the job and THEN let staff talk to him - but I think that they have been convinced that it makes more sense for us to talk to him before they make him the offer.

I would still love the job. I'm having fun doing the job right now. But they are going to offer it to him (reasonably so). My turn will come. He won't stay long. And by the time he is ready to go, I'll have my MLIS, and I'll be a shoein.

I started my first class for my MLIS last night (first class in 23 years). It went really well. The others in the class are very much like me. It will be fine.

So I'm just waiting, marking time, until they manage to make a decision.

I have a lot of support from the staff and the patrons. I do feel loved there. Even when I don't get the job, I'll still feel loved.

 

Re: Marking time fallsfall

Posted by antigua on September 14, 2005, at 13:03:46

In reply to Marking time, posted by fallsfall on September 14, 2005, at 7:49:42

I've been meaning to ask how this was going. You seem to have the greatest attitude about it and your confidence shows. Good for you. I really can see the growth in this(hope that doesn't sound pretentious) that you've had ever since I've been posting.

I'm just now feeling that I could handle going back to work permanently (I freelance)so thanks for the inspiration.
best,
antigua

 

Re: Marking time

Posted by Annierose on September 14, 2005, at 17:27:51

In reply to Marking time, posted by fallsfall on September 14, 2005, at 7:49:42

Thanks for letting us know. You seem to be in an okay place about it. You're a shoein already!

 

Doesn't seem like marking time to me

Posted by Dinah on September 14, 2005, at 22:28:52

In reply to Re: Marking time, posted by Annierose on September 14, 2005, at 17:27:51

In all the important things, it seems like great strides forward. I understand it's hard to wait to hear about the job. But you're going to school, your attitude is great. I am just so impressed.

 

Re: Doesn't seem like marking time to me

Posted by fallsfall on September 15, 2005, at 6:36:57

In reply to Doesn't seem like marking time to me, posted by Dinah on September 14, 2005, at 22:28:52

Thanks all. Credit goes to my therapist. Without him I would be frantically trying to impress the selection committee and the trustees and trying to get a bunch of patrons and volunteers to start a campaign for me.

Staff gets to interview the candidate on Monday night (although the chairs of the selection committee and the trustees will be present, too - to make sure that we behave ourselves and don't scare the candidate away). I spent the whole night "interviewing" - didn't make for great sleep.

Yesterday I needed to reassure two ardent supporters of mine that it will be OK if this other guy gets the job. They are very loyal to me - and that does feel really good.

My turn will come.

 

Re: Doesn't seem like marking time to me fallsfall

Posted by gardenergirl on September 15, 2005, at 15:25:13

In reply to Re: Doesn't seem like marking time to me, posted by fallsfall on September 15, 2005, at 6:36:57

Okay, I thought I had posted a reply yesterday, but maybe I just thought it really loud. But I agree with others--it's so great to see how far you've come by how you're handling this situation. I hope your courses go well, and I'm so darned happy to see these good things you are doing and feeling.

gg

 

Re: Doesn't seem like marking time to me fallsfall

Posted by Daisym on September 15, 2005, at 15:26:06

In reply to Re: Doesn't seem like marking time to me, posted by fallsfall on September 15, 2005, at 6:36:57

Your turn will absolutely come. And you seem to ready for it. It is amazing how things just seem to fall into place sometimes.

I'm sure you will be nice and professional during the interview process. Just remember it is about him, not comparative between you two. Do you have a list of questions? I think you should ask him what his favorite book is. I think it says a lot about a person.

Good luck!

 

The new director

Posted by fallsfall on September 21, 2005, at 20:46:12

In reply to Re: Doesn't seem like marking time to me fallsfall, posted by Daisym on September 15, 2005, at 15:26:06

The new director accepted the position today.

I got to meet him on Monday night when the staff was allowed to interview him. He does seem very nice, and intelligent, and knowledgable. I think he'll do a good job. I think he will fit in with the current staff.

My real reaction to this is relief. Now I don't have to do it all. It was a real push for me to handle all of the job. He doesn't come until Oct 17, so I still have time to do the things I want to do before he gets here. I'm also glad that the decision has been made. Now I can move on with what I need to do.

I talked to Vocational Rehab on Monday, and he is going to try to see if he can get me some money to help with the cost of school. I will have plenty to keep me busy. It really is OK.

Just thought you would all like to know.

Thanks for your support during this. It has been a hard time. I did get lots of support from the rest of the staff, as well as patrons, and some of the Friends of the Library and library volunteers. I do feel loved. And that really is what counts.

 

Re: The new director fallsfall

Posted by gardenergirl on September 21, 2005, at 23:25:09

In reply to The new director, posted by fallsfall on September 21, 2005, at 20:46:12

Thanks for letting us know. You sound very gracious in how you are handling this, and I bet that will make him feel quite welcome and will foster a good working relationship.

And you are loved. I'm glad that you felt it from those you work with.

Good for you for going for this! What progress.

(((falls)))

gg

 

Re: The new director fallsfall

Posted by Dinah on September 22, 2005, at 21:31:26

In reply to The new director, posted by fallsfall on September 21, 2005, at 20:46:12

You deserved every bit of that support, and your time will come.

I'm so very very proud of you.

 

Re: The new director

Posted by daisym on September 22, 2005, at 22:43:21

In reply to The new director, posted by fallsfall on September 21, 2005, at 20:46:12

I'm still gonna say they don't know what they missed...

But, you sound like you are in a good place with this and have so many other things to move forward with. I hope he appreciates how hard you are working to get things in line for him.

It is great that you felt loved. You are here too, I hope you know.

Hugs,
Daisy

 

Re: The new director fallsfall

Posted by All Done on September 22, 2005, at 22:57:44

In reply to The new director, posted by fallsfall on September 21, 2005, at 20:46:12

I was impressed when you applied for the job. I'm even more impressed at the way you're handling the outcome. I think it's so fantastic that you're taking the opportunity to go back to school and start a new path for yourself. You really are making the best of this situation, falls.

Good luck with school and your school finances.

Hugs,
Laurie


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