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I wish I were dead

Posted by Dinah on August 31, 2005, at 2:36:16

It might be one or two months before I can return to my home. I'm not sure what I'll find when I do, although I don't think the damage will be catastrophic.

But my therapist says he might have to get a job because he can't go without income for months. I can't either, and I'm not sure I'll have a job. He's not sure he and his family will return.

I can stand the rest, and even realize I'm luckier than many. But I can't take losing my therapist. I just can't. I can't take losing him too.

Isn't everything else enough?

I can't lose him too.

 

Re: I wish I were dead Dinah

Posted by zenhussy on August 31, 2005, at 4:23:54

In reply to I wish I were dead, posted by Dinah on August 31, 2005, at 2:36:16

Dinah,

We're at a total loss as to what to say. Of course we do NOT wish you were dead.

This is absolute overwhelm. You have many friends here from over the years who care very deeply about you and will see you through whatever changes come.

Not able to convey how shocked we were reading this post from you not having known what was going on for you.

We can't remember our words so long ago when we first met on board but we do recall the feelings involved and how much we worried then and we have those same feelings now.

with hope,
__zh

 

Re: I wish I were dead Dinah

Posted by Annierose on August 31, 2005, at 6:14:09

In reply to I wish I were dead, posted by Dinah on August 31, 2005, at 2:36:16

I just babblemailed you.

Don't beat yourself up. This is a crisis situation. It's appropriate to feel rage, anger, sadness, loss, grief.

I wish I could do more to help. I think Americans will pull together, raise lots of money, and re-build what can be rebuilt. Think back to 911 and what New York City accomplished.

Will your T do phone sessions right now?

 

Re: I wish I were dead Dinah

Posted by alexandra_k on August 31, 2005, at 6:31:28

In reply to I wish I were dead, posted by Dinah on August 31, 2005, at 2:36:16

I'm a bit behind with the news...
I'm stunned.
((((((Dinah))))))
We are very glad that you are not dead.
Selfishly perhaps...
But I think it might amaze you how much people can really pull together in times of need.

I'm so glad you are still with us.

 

Re: I wish I were dead Dinah

Posted by ClearSkies on August 31, 2005, at 6:46:04

In reply to I wish I were dead, posted by Dinah on August 31, 2005, at 2:36:16

(((Dinah)))
I'm so sorry to see you in crisis.
I hope your T will be able to help you with phone sessions like Annierose suggested until a longer term solution can be worked out.
ClearSkies

 

Re: I wish I were dead Dinah

Posted by Fallsfall on August 31, 2005, at 6:52:38

In reply to I wish I were dead, posted by Dinah on August 31, 2005, at 2:36:16

(((((Dinah)))))

I wish I could give you a real live hug. NH is nice this time of the year...

It is too much to lose your therapist as well. The rest is too much, too.

But we are here. And you have so many babblers who love you. We will help you figure out how to muddle through, how to build a new life.

Your life is precious to me. I'm so glad that you and your husband and your son are safe.

I'm so glad you started this thread. We are here for you. Let us know how we can help.

((((((((((Dinah))))))))))

 

((((((Dinah))))))) (nm)

Posted by Miss Honeychurch on August 31, 2005, at 7:31:30

In reply to I wish I were dead, posted by Dinah on August 31, 2005, at 2:36:16

 

Re: I wish I were dead Dinah

Posted by LadyBug on August 31, 2005, at 7:35:22

In reply to I wish I were dead, posted by Dinah on August 31, 2005, at 2:36:16

Wow Dinah,
This sounds scary, please explain things to me in more detail. Is your therapist leaving? Or are you? Or both? I'm sad for you. I'd want to die too if I lost my therapist. I'm just now returning to a good place with her.
Please write more about this so I can comfort you. I do care.
Hugs
LadyBug

 

((((Dinah))))

Posted by Sonya on August 31, 2005, at 8:43:48

In reply to I wish I were dead, posted by Dinah on August 31, 2005, at 2:36:16

((((Dinah))))

I'm so sorry for what you're going through. My thoughts are with you and your family.

((((Dinah))))

 

Re: I wish I were dead

Posted by rubenstein on August 31, 2005, at 9:14:25

In reply to I wish I were dead, posted by Dinah on August 31, 2005, at 2:36:16

Oh Dinah I am so sorry
I so feel for you
I just don't know what to say but know that I am thinking of you

Rubenstein

 

Re: I wish I were dead

Posted by sunny10 on August 31, 2005, at 9:25:11

In reply to Re: I wish I were dead, posted by rubenstein on August 31, 2005, at 9:14:25

Oh, Dinah, I am so glad to hear that you and yours are okay.

Absolutely ask the T for phone sessions- email sessions, whatever will help you get through this crisis situation.

I just can't imagine that he would leave you completely bereft at this time.

If you guys need a place to stay, you can stay at my apartment in King of Prussia, PA for a couple months...It's only a one bedroom and a couch, but better than trying to stay in hotels- you'll need all the money you have to re-build.

Think about it. Oh, and I have a cat- so you'd need to feed her and scoop the litter, but it's an easy job...

-sunny10

 

Dinah, we care about you and want you to be OK! Dinah

Posted by JenStar on August 31, 2005, at 9:28:01

In reply to I wish I were dead, posted by Dinah on August 31, 2005, at 2:36:16

oh Dinah,
I'm so sorry. That's horrible, awful! I had no idea that you were in the flooded areas. I am dumbfounded and want to cry when I see it on TV. I am so sorry for you and your family. And I'm extremely sorry about your T. I know you were all set for therapy for life, and now this.

My gosh, I'm sorry. I wish I could help. But please, please don't wish you were dead. Please don't. Nobody here wishes that. I know I don't know you in real life, but still I like you and consider you a friend. I worry about you and wish I could help in some way.

Are you all in a safe place?

Maybe you'll all be allowed in sooner and your T/family will decide to stay. I hope that will be the case. Is he out of state right now?

Dinah, again I'm so very sorry.
JenStar

 

Re: I wish I were dead

Posted by LauraBeane on August 31, 2005, at 9:57:11

In reply to I wish I were dead, posted by Dinah on August 31, 2005, at 2:36:16

Hi Dinah,

I'm still new here so I don't know what's what. Are you in the New Orleans area? I am going to assume that you're talking about Katrina. The devastation I am seeing on TV is so overwhelming. So my first reaction is, thank goodness you and your family are safe.

Please do NOT make any decisions based on the distorted now. Steel yourself against despair. Things are not as they were, but neither are they as they will be. Things are going to get much, much better than they are at this moment.

Your therapist like everyone there is stunned. Give him a chance to work things out. I know you are important to him and he would never just abandon you. There has GOT to be a way.

What can we do? Is there anything you need in terms of supplies, etc?

Do you remember a wall poster from a long time ago that showed a kitten hanging on to the edge of a counter or a door or something and it said, Hang on baby, Friday's coming. I wish I could send you that poster.

Hang tight, Dinah.

LauraB

 

Re: I wish I were dead

Posted by Dinah on August 31, 2005, at 10:20:49

In reply to I wish I were dead, posted by Dinah on August 31, 2005, at 2:36:16

I'm in email contact with him, limited of course. But I've offered to commute the four hours to where he is, if he can find a way to see clients. And I've also told him that if he relocates within six or so hours, I'd like to continue commuting as well. I haven't heard back.

It's more than possible that we've lost most of our personal property. Even a low level of water left for the month or two until we can come home will pretty much wipe out our belongings. I had converted some of my photos to disc, forgot my home videos, and hauled as many of my son's photos as I can. I'm sick about my home videos. From what I can discover, our area is most likely to have received between inches and feet inside, but not up to the roof or anything. There is a very small possibility that we got no water in the house. That would be best case.

I'm worried about money, of course. And if I don't get a certain number of hours in by hte end of the year, I'll lose my medical coverage.

I can't reach my employers. Not yet anyway.

I have no source of income for at least a month. Maybe longer.

But all of that I can handle. I can't handle losing my therapist. Not now, and not ever. He didn't say he wasn't planning to move back to the area devastated by the storm, he said he didn't know. I guess I appreciate that he didn't lie.

No, I don't.

It's hard not to hurt myself, although in these closed quarters it won't be easy.

Don't worry if I don't post much, especially on this thread. My husband is six inches from me nearly always, and I can't let him know how I feel. Or that I gave away my location.

 

Re: I wish I were dead Dinah

Posted by daisym on August 31, 2005, at 10:55:03

In reply to Re: I wish I were dead, posted by Dinah on August 31, 2005, at 10:20:49

(((Dinah)))

My therapist said to me very recently, "you must hold on because you don't know how you will feel in a year, or two years, or 4 years. Your son needs you."

I'm passing this on to you. Now, in this crisis, your son really needs you. Don't forget you have us, and I know you have a faith in God. Who knows why these things happen? This is the time where you do what you can and simply trust that the rest will be worked out later. Take each day as it comes.

You've been through a lot with your therapist. I have to believe that the two of you will find a way to work together again. Don't grieve a loss that hasn't happened yet.

I hope you find a way to get back to work soon and I pray that your belongings are spared. I'm so, so sorry for what you are going through. It's so unfair.

(((Dinah)))

 

Dinah, please...

Posted by Sonya on August 31, 2005, at 10:59:25

In reply to Re: I wish I were dead, posted by Dinah on August 31, 2005, at 10:20:49

Oh, dear Dinah. I feel so bad for you. PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE do not harm yourself. You must tell yourself things will improve. If you really feel you might self-harm, you SHOULD tell your husband or someone so they can help you. Do you have any meds you can take to get you through this crisis?

Please try to post so we all know you're okay. I'm so worried about you.

Love,
Sonya

 

Re: I'm glad you're alive Dinah

Posted by All Done on August 31, 2005, at 11:07:45

In reply to Re: I wish I were dead, posted by Dinah on August 31, 2005, at 10:20:49

Oh, (((Dinah))). This isn't what I hoped for. I don't even know what to say other than my heart is aching for you. I know you must be terrified, but Daisy's right when she says try not to mourn a loss that hasn't happened.

Not that long ago, I had a lot of Babblers praying and sending good thoughts to me and I really believe they helped. I know you're in the minds, heart, and prayers of many here. And lots of us are holding out hope that you can work something out with your T and that the damage to your home is a little as possible. If you can even find a tiny bit of comfort in that, please do.

I'm so very sorry you're going through all of this.

I understand if you won't be posting much, but please don't stop at the expense of your well-being. We are here to support you.

And please stay safe.

Laurie

 

You're not dead Dinah

Posted by Shortelise on August 31, 2005, at 11:25:15

In reply to I wish I were dead, posted by Dinah on August 31, 2005, at 2:36:16

Dinah, I am so sorry.

I wish I could help.

You aren't dead and hope doesn't have to be dead either.

I am with you in spirit, I expect that many of us here are. Think of us holding your hands, and our arms around your shoulders, supporting you through every moment of every day.

Much love,
ShortE

 

Re: I wish I were dead

Posted by LittleGirlLost on August 31, 2005, at 11:47:14

In reply to I wish I were dead, posted by Dinah on August 31, 2005, at 2:36:16

(((Dinah))) I can only imagine what you are going through. Pictures I've seen are absolutely devastating. You need to take things one day at a time though and hopefully things have a way of working themselves out. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

LGL

 

As Shortelise said perfectly....

Posted by Sonya on August 31, 2005, at 11:48:06

In reply to You're not dead Dinah, posted by Shortelise on August 31, 2005, at 11:25:15

"Think of us holding your hands, and our arms around your shoulders, supporting you through every moment of every day."

 

Re: I wish I were dead Dinah

Posted by Angela2 on August 31, 2005, at 12:27:49

In reply to I wish I were dead, posted by Dinah on August 31, 2005, at 2:36:16

Dinah, I am so sorry you may be losing your therapist. It is hard not knowing what is going to happen. We care about you here at babble, post if it makes you feel better. Thinking of you.
-Ang

 

Dinah, hang in there!!! You wonderful person, you! Dinah

Posted by JenStar on August 31, 2005, at 12:27:54

In reply to Re: I wish I were dead, posted by Dinah on August 31, 2005, at 10:20:49

hi Dinah,
I'm so sorry you're hurting. Don't worry about telling us your location. I don't think it reveals who you are...and even if it did, I'm sure anyone would be proud to know you! :)

I'm soooo sorry you and your family are struggling. I truly hope your home is OK, but more importantly, that YOU will be OK in the coming days and weeks.

DO you need anything? Can we help in any way? I'm glad you can post here at least a little bit. Someone else asked if you need supplies - is there anything at all you need? Are you staying in a safe place? I'm guessing from the fact that you used a computer that you must be somewhere SORT of comfortable...at least I hope so!

Take care. We're thinking of you and wishing you the best. I'm not much of a prayer-ful person, but I will say a prayer anyway in the hopes it will help.

take care!
JenStar

 

Re: Dinah, hang in there!!! You wonderful person, you!

Posted by gardenergirl on August 31, 2005, at 12:44:21

In reply to Dinah, hang in there!!! You wonderful person, you! Dinah, posted by JenStar on August 31, 2005, at 12:27:54

Dinah,

I don't know what else to say beyond what I said in my email reply.

I hope you can feel the love and support we all have for you. You deserve all of that and more. Please allow us to hold you.

And all the what-if's and potential changes....all you can do is tackle them one at a time. I'm sure it's all very overwhelming. Just one moment at a time is all you are required to do.

((((dinah))))

Please let us know how we can help. And I believe your privacy is still very safe. It's a big area out there.

gg

 

Re: I wish I were dead Dinah

Posted by fairywings on August 31, 2005, at 12:46:51

In reply to I wish I were dead, posted by Dinah on August 31, 2005, at 2:36:16

I'm so so sorry Dinah. I will be thinking of you and you will be on my heart. If there's anything that I can do, please let me know. I'd do anything if I could. I will keep a good thought that you won't lose your T.

((((((((((hugs))))))))))
fw

 

Re: I wish I were dead Dinah

Posted by rainbowbrite on August 31, 2005, at 12:58:08

In reply to I wish I were dead, posted by Dinah on August 31, 2005, at 2:36:16

awww Dinah,

Im so sorry. Hang in there, the phone option sounds good if he will do it.
Im thinking of you

rain


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